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LadyPact -> RE: Lost mojo (10/25/2017 1:52:27 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MisterDLadyD
And he will still do those things/ has a desire with others?
That's the key, right there.
Beyond doubt, there absolutely are people who lose the desire to engage in BDSM. For one reason or another, it's just not really fun for them, any more. Their tastes have changed. They just don't get the same jazz out of it, so it becomes <meh>. This has to do with the person as an individual. It has nothing to do with anybody else. The lack of desire has changed, no matter who the potential engagement is with.
However, if the idea of engaging in BDSM is fun with other people, but it's not fun when it's with YOU, that's not a person losing their tastes for the activities. If the "fun" level is dependent on who the bottom (or the top) is, and that's the general motus operandi, that's external, rather than internal.
Here's your limtus test...
If you are kink club or play party going kind of folks, it's real simple. Scenes with other people are more fun, a higher priority, something he is willing to put the effort into, and all of that good stuff you wish he was doing with you, but isn't? It's not him. It's you and/or your dynamic. When you watch him play with other people, does he look happier than when he plays with you? Is he 'ready-Freddie when the opportunity to play with others comes along, but getting him to play at home is like pulling teeth, you might want to start asking why.
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