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Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/2/2017 5:44:12 PM   
ConnorJames


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Status: offline 		Man, I just got my heart broken by a FemDom for the first time. I am not blaming her or angry buy man that hurt.
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RE: Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/2/2017 6:10:15 PM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		How long were you in a relationship for?
Was this your first relationship?
Had you worked on healthy conflict resolution and open communication?

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RE: Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/2/2017 6:38:41 PM   
ConnorJames


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Status: offline 		it was my first true interaction with a FemDom that could have been a true relationship, and I fucked it up.

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RE: Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/2/2017 8:06:08 PM   
tiggerspoohbear


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Status: offline 		"Could have been", operative words here. Obviously wasn't meant to be. Some, most, not all, wait years to find their mate. Take things slower.

Your loves, likes, etc. are mostly about BDSM. You're not giving up much personal info about what sets you apart from aaaaallll the other male subs looking. Why are you unique?

I'm also a sub, female obviously, but if I were to write a proper profile, I know what I'm personally great at. Sex, unless that's strictly what you're looking for of course, can be a lesser point.

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RE: Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/3/2017 3:24:29 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Why were you so overinvested?
Can’t you see that part of why she decided you weren’t compatible was that you didn’t see her as a person in her own right? But instead as some porn construct to fulfill your festish desires.

Don’t do that. Meet dominant women and treat them as you do anyone else you talk to. Focus on becoming friends.

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RE: Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/3/2017 12:26:18 PM   
ShaharThorne


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From: Somewhere in TX
Status: offline 		Not a Femdom but a switch so I do both sides of the kneel. This is with experience...

If possible go vanilla first. Invest in your interests...you might be more alike than you realize. A fellow CSer and myself are pursing a relationship that developed unexpectedly because we share the same interests in communications, reading materials, animals and kinks. He swears to 'kidnap' me after I am done with my medial issues (believe me, I can use the time out). That is my sub side.

My Domme side tends to be a bully...I rule the household and am a perfectionist. In other words, my way or the highway. The side seldom comes out these days...


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RE: Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/3/2017 3:24:23 PM   
ConnorJames


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Status: offline 		There is wisdom in what you typed. Appreciate hearing both sides of the discussion. May the man you like kidnap you and the both of you be happy!

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RE: Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/3/2017 3:26:32 PM   
ConnorJames


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Status: offline 		I think I didn't treat her as a porn star but as a woman, but you make a solid point that all men should remember. :)

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RE: Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/3/2017 3:28:20 PM   
ConnorJames


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Status: offline 		Good point about the bio, makes sense, I work on mine!

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RE: Wow that emotionally hurt! - 11/9/2017 4:10:51 PM   
kiwisub22


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Status: offline 		With all due respect, but any relationship that is predicated on one party being paid by the other party to spend time with them typically doesn't involve strong emotional reactions. I'm not saying that you can't love a findom, but the chances of a findom loving you back would seem to me to be fairly slim.

You may be better off looking among the local bdsm people for a dominant woman, and try to establish a "normal" relationship.

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