Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: It is not about the sex. (11/22/2017 4:36:24 AM)
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I've not read all the comments on this thread. I'm making a comment based on your opening post. First and foremost anybody which posts about relationship woes tends to already know the answers to their own questions. They are either looking for other people to call them out on their denial or give affirmation or throw a pity party. You will quickly understand your own motives for posting here by the variety of different responses people post, and how you personally react to it all. Now for my two cents worth. 1. It's never all about the sex even when it's all about the sex. It's a paradox to wrap your mind around. 2. Withdrawing from somebody, while it's not an agressive form of verbal or physical violence, is equally if not more damning than agressively taking shit out on somebody is. Stop being blind and fooling yourself about it. It's ironically Passive Agressive behavior. 3. Yes, you are trying to rationalize your behavior. You may need to explore rationalizinig your whole damn relationship instead. What do you really want? Yes, I just asked you what do you really want? Are you or are you not happy with or without it? This is shit only you yourself can answer. Nobody else can for you. 4. If your partner doesn't know about it, it's probally cheating, since cheating means doing shit they don't know about. At the very least silence while being passive is another form of deception besides telling a straight up lie. 5. None of us know how your wife will or won't judge or react to things. She may or may not be cool with what you are doing. She could get pissed as hell and want to throw your ass out the door, or she could be 100% supportive of what you are doing. It appears that you yourself don't fully know which way she will go with it. So there's this element of danger or risk involved... which can add to stress but it's also that proverbial rush or fear of being caught or exposed. Even more so if you out yourself to her. 6. Personally for me, and this is just me. I prefer to out myself.
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