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Angeleyesslave -> In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/13/2017 9:27:16 AM)
What are your thoughts on love in this type of lifestyle. Is it ok or no. I adore, obey and love my Master. Is it wrong to want him part of all aspects of my life?

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/13/2017 10:38:21 AM)
Fuck no. What a ridiculous question.

peppermint -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/13/2017 12:57:50 PM)
We were together for over 12 years before he passed. Every day he told me he loved me. Every day I told him I loved him. If your Master does not want a more full time relationship and made that clear then yes, it would be wrong to expect him to change now. It is not wrong to want him in more of your life. It really comes down to whether his wants and needs match your wants and needs.

MrRodgers -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/14/2017 3:21:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Angeleyesslave What are your thoughts on love in this type of lifestyle. Is it ok or no. I adore, obey and love my Master. Is it wrong to want him part of all aspects of my life? I don't know of, haven't been in and avoid any 24/7, live-in relationship...without love. (with a female sub/slave of course)

Focus50 -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/15/2017 9:36:03 PM)
Vanilla, BDSM, gay etc, it matters not. If relationship needs aren't being met, one or both will ultimately look elsewhere. A committed relationship IS a big deal and each has a reasonable expectation of needs getting met if it's gonna last. You personally have the right to want what you want and if you're not getting it, skidsville.... Welcome to the Msg Boards. Focus.

DesFIP -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/16/2017 7:04:55 PM)
Focus, long time no see. How are you doing?

Focus50 -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/16/2017 7:59:05 PM)
I'm real good, thank ya muchly. You, too, I trust? :) And I think it's been 4 yrs since the CollarMe demise, yeah? Anyway, happened across this site's name, clicked it, and buggar me if the layout didn't look familiar. Was even more surprised when I tried my old log-in; and presto...! Two days later and it's dawning on me that there's not a lot of activity yet, having only just noticed the months old dates of half the topics on the front page of Ask a Master, and others.... Anyway, Celeste, it's good to see a familiar name, even when it's your alter-ego. ;) And I miss posting so I'll be back now that I'm caught up. Note to self: check dates of anything I reply to, FIRST. Focus.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/17/2017 5:54:16 PM)
Hey Focus. Believe it or not, when collarme went down, it was only gone for a couple of days. Then it was back up exactly the same as before, except with the name Collarspace. Same user names and passwords, everything. The owner just changed the name and moved the site over to the new domain.

Focus50 -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/18/2017 1:56:46 AM)
But but but....? I've checked back several times over the last coupla years and the place was a "boarded up shell". Of course, I was just using the same bookmark I've had since joining in 2004; maybe a clue there.... And from the looks of the current activity, I can't be the only one who knew it was back up a few days later. That or it's only now going the way of bondage.com, where I once found myself posting to a "fresh" topic about 3 months after the previous poster. Again, I must check dates FIRST. lol Hmmm, says there's currently 4500 users online. Anyway, I shall keep checking back from now on. And thankyou for that. :) Focus.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/18/2017 7:56:27 AM)
Yes, you had to have the new site URL to find it; your old bookmark was for the collarme site. A lot of people didn't find their way back, and of those who did, most didn't stay. So the membership is much smaller now. And since there is next to no moderation, it's not as good a discussion site IMO. But hopefully you'll have a different experience :)

LadyPact -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/18/2017 4:13:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Angeleyesslave What are your thoughts on love in this type of lifestyle. Is it ok or no. I adore, obey and love my Master. Is it wrong to want him part of all aspects of my life? <Sigh> OK, so a part of the problem with this kind of thread is that you didn't say anything about what kind of "24/7, M/s" type of gig this is. What kind of dynamic do you actually have? Is it service based? Is there a romantic component? What are we really talking about here?

CelticPrince -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/23/2017 6:09:37 AM)
as love many times gets in the way of M/s activities.........expect to evolve to vanilla CP

tamaka -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/23/2017 8:02:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince as love many times gets in the way of M/s activities.........expect to evolve to vanilla CP Only if you don't know what you're doing.

Focus50 -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/24/2017 9:05:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince as love many times gets in the way of M/s activities.........expect to evolve to vanilla "evolve to vanilla"? I'd think any M/s relationship that includes love in the dynamic (ie, what I think the OP is asking) is going to have a strong vanilla aspect in the day to day. eg, kids, job(s), interacting with non-lifestyle friends, neighbours, rellies etc or just getting the chores done. Just as vanilla relationships aren't all about sex, neither is such an M/s relationship all about rules, play and protocols. You not only have both (vanilla & M/s), I've found it a healthier way to be. Little time-outs, if you will.... Takes but a look for me or from me to get back into mode and I really enjoy those little moments to do just that when surrounded by vanilla company who haven't got a clue what just happened right in front of them. Our little, very public secret. For that matter, I'd reckon a conservative 2 out 3 vanilla relationships have at least a D/s aspect to them that is not recognised or certainly not formally defined to them. It often comes out when some whiney brat wants something and one of the parents inevitably and habitually defers to the other. "Ask your mother/father" is a typical response. Heard my old man say it often enough, and he died when I was 12.... I don't find "vanilla" to be some sort of dirty word in M/s. It gives you grounding and perspective in the everyday and all manner of opportunities to ramp up the M/s as needed or desired. It enhances the relationship rather than "devolve" it.... Focus.

kiwisub22 -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/29/2017 11:30:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince as love many times gets in the way of M/s activities.........expect to evolve to vanilla CP Loved my Sir deeply - and love in a M/s relationship makes the submission, for me, deeper. His love for me certainly didn't change how he acted, or what he expected. Since M/s was what we both wanted, we were very happy in what we did. And the only vanilla thing we did was go to work. So, for you maybe love means your relationship would "evolve to vanilla", but it certainly isn't true for everyone.

NoirMetal -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (11/29/2017 11:33:24 AM)
Love is an expression of nurturing energy between people. The fun thing about d/s is that you create your own individual culture. And can include any aspects you like-as well as those we have to tolerate on a day to day basis in the mundane world.

porcelaine -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (12/2/2017 4:06:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Angeleyesslave What are your thoughts on love in this type of lifestyle. Is it ok or no. I adore, obey and love my Master. Is it wrong to want him part of all aspects of my life? Opinions differ on the subject depending on the nature of your relationship. Problems may arise for the submissive if the expectation of reciprocity goes unmet. Most genuine dominants who do not desire this component in the connection will be upfront. But they may not dissuade the submissive from offering the same. In some situations she is free to love him but should not expect the same in return. ~porcelaine

Zvengali -> RE: In a 24/7 M/s relationship, need advice (12/6/2017 8:20:48 AM)
........... bla bla bla bla.... of course you can love someone no matter who he/she is to you.....seventeen pages of people just wanting to read their own words.............

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