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focalss -> Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/25/2017 7:55:07 AM)
To the female slaves, have you ever told one of your friends she needs to be more submissive to her man or ask for punishment if she was disrespectful? Have you ever had a straight couple over and let out that you are submissive and then taken your place in front of them and if so how did the other couple react? Or have you had another couple watch you get disciplined and how did they react? Did they freak out, feel it was too much or accept that part of you?

DesFIP -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/25/2017 10:11:02 AM)
No, because for all I know she’s the dominant one. I don’t tell people about my relationship. We just live it. If they have questions,they’ll ask. I also don’t tell gay friends they should be straight or Christian friends that they need to convert to Judaism. Because I do what makes me happy and grant them the autonomy to do what make them happy. And that’s why I have friends, becauseI treat them as people in their own rights. We don’t do punishment. We solve problems. Are you sure you’re of age? Because your obvious wank fodder request makes you appear to be very immature.

stef -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/25/2017 10:20:24 AM)
Did you type all of that using only one hand? If so, kudos for the caps and punctuation.

kiwisub22 -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/25/2017 6:25:00 PM)
Why on earth would I do that? I don't tell people about my finances, my sex life, how often I poop or how they should act in a relationship.

focalss -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/26/2017 10:41:32 AM)
You should read yourself "If you came here expecting meaningful BDSM discussions, boy are you in the wrong place." All my questions start out as real questions. In fact the humiliation thread was the basis of my question. In a way it can be freeing to be out, what could be seen as humiliation for one person might be exciting for the other and often is in this context. But I agree after looking at it again that the question can seem ridiculous in a certain light. Still the responses to messages on these boards and others half the time or more don't answer the question and just devolve into criticism of the poster.

DesFIP -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/26/2017 6:22:11 PM)
It’s freeing to force things on people that will upset them? No, it’s rude as hell. Do me a favor, opie, do this in front of your elderly grandparents. By forcing this on other people you get to feel oh so kinky while not having any consequences. This doesn’t make you kinkier than I, it makes you a spineless coward.

LadyPact -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/26/2017 9:38:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: focalss You should read yourself "If you came here expecting meaningful BDSM discussions, boy are you in the wrong place." All my questions start out as real questions. In fact the humiliation thread was the basis of my question. In a way it can be freeing to be out, what could be seen as humiliation for one person might be exciting for the other and often is in this context. But I agree after looking at it again that the question can seem ridiculous in a certain light. Still the responses to messages on these boards and others half the time or more don't answer the question and just devolve into criticism of the poster. It wasn't criticism of the poster. It was criticism of the premise. For what it's worth, I wouldn't impose my lifestyle on other people. You getting your rocks off with the idea tells me that you don't care about those other folks. Why do you have to infringe on other people just to get your jollies?

peppermint -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/26/2017 10:33:41 PM)
No, I have never said anything like that to anyone. How they live their lives is their business, not mine. First, we didn't use punishment in our D/s relationship. Why would I expect a friend to want what we didn't want? No I have never been so rude as to do that with a couple who has come to visit me in my home. I would be a piss poor host to thrust my kink on friends. No one freaked out because I have enough sense not to do such stupid acts.

focalss -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/27/2017 3:32:31 PM)
I never intimated it would be forced or unwilling on the other persons, I said tell your friend first so it would be consensual. How this ever could be interpreted as something to do in front of a grandparent I don't know except that this is the internet.

LTE -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/27/2017 8:26:23 PM)
Confidentially, I think they have a very vivid imagination. That's a good thing in my opinion. Although the grandmother reference means she has a deep fear of growing older and that thing about getting "their rocks off" on such a pretty bland OP just means she is dreaming a wet dream that might just include you but probably more me in truth. Dream on baby. Frankly, they are all looking for new stripes and are taking it out on you. They should all just put some heels on and bend over the couch for a "licking that keeps them ticking" and that little phrase will stay with them for some time and keep a few of them up tonight and tomorrow night.

DarkSteven -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/28/2017 1:40:09 AM)
focalss, there are people who don't want to know that their friends are kinky. You seem to feel that outing yourself to them is fine. Others are disagreeing.

DesFIP -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/28/2017 2:13:47 AM)
And how do you propose to tell them first that you’re a slave in a way that you aren’t forcing that information on them if it turns out they didn’t want to know? Obtviously you’re after the shock factor which is why I recommended you go for maximum shock, including long lasting consequences.

focalss -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/28/2017 11:32:56 AM)
I want the Nobel Prize in Psychology or Sexology now. I have found the one topic in the world that women won't talk about with their friends. Women talk about everything including talking about talking to the point men don't listen. Until now. No submissive has ever told a vanilla friend she is submissive. Or maybe just the posters here. By the way, I never suggested anything. I asked if a submissive woman ever told another friend she is submissive and to try it or see how the submissive lives which I believe has been known to happen but maybe I am wrong on that in which case no Nobel Prize. I don't believe many men would tell their vanilla male friends btw. I did not say tell everyone in the world you are submissive except on this internet message board where I guess it does mean that and it also means to tell all your family, all your friends, acquaintances, coworkers, everyone in the town you live in, and in the USA, put up a billboard and make a video of it send out DVDs and force them all to watch and participate. When people have said things they posted about I have asked about it for either prurient reasons sometimes or curiosity, mostly. I think some of the replies are looking to pick a fight which is up to them and I enjoy it to a point when they start talking nonsensically.

Greta75 -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/29/2017 6:38:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: focalss To the female slaves, have you ever told one of your friends she needs to be more submissive to her man or ask for punishment if she was disrespectful? I would never tell another woman what to do with her man, as everybody's relationship dynamic is different. But take away the whole "submissive" thingy. I do tell women that if they really want to motivate their man to do something, it's just reality and men. You can't go hardcore and harsh on him. The gentler sweet route usually yield better results. Gotta choose battles. I think women who knows how to play this game generally will get better co-operation from their men. Sub or Vanilla. Same thing. As even as submissive, it's still a human being with feelings and free will of action and choices, there will be conflicts.

Greta75 -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/29/2017 6:44:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: focalss I asked if a submissive woman ever told another friend she is submissive and to try it I don't believe in telling a vanilla friend that I am submissive for a very simple reason. I don't want to want to enforce my personal choice of a lifestyle upon them. I also believe that submission is in born. Not taught. So no point teaching your friend about it. If she was a submissive type, you'd know. You won't even have to ask.

stef -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (11/29/2017 11:14:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: focalss I think some of the replies are looking to pick a fight which is up to them and I enjoy it to a point when they start talking nonsensically. The nonsense started with your first post, so that's all on you. As wank fantasy goes, it's not even a particularly good one.

OsideGirl -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (12/1/2017 2:33:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: focalss To the female slaves, have you ever told one of your friends she needs to be more submissive to her man or ask for punishment if she was disrespectful? It's not my place to tell someone else how they should run their relationship. quote: Have you ever had a straight couple over and let out that you are submissive and then taken your place in front of them and if so how did the other couple react? Or have you had another couple watch you get disciplined and how did they react? Did they freak out, feel it was too much or accept that part of you? The inner workings of our relationship and/or sex life is no one else's business. I don't feel the need to inform other people or the need to get my rocks off in front of vanillas. quote: ORIGINAL: focalss I want the Nobel Prize in Psychology or Sexology now. You're clearly not qualified. quote: Women talk about everything including talking about talking to the point men don't listen. Wow....

littleone35 -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (12/1/2017 4:33:53 PM)
I have actually one person I am submissive my best friend in the world. She was cool with it. Telling her to be more submissive, why oin the works would I do that? what happens between her and her husband is none of my business. As for telingl a straight couple of friends again why would I do that? My relationship Is just that. My relationship my kink I would not force it on them. I would not expect them to tell me if they were kinky, it does not come up in normal conversation. So there it is my take on your question. Matt's littleone

porcelaine -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (12/2/2017 3:51:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: focalss To the female slaves, have you ever told one of your friends she needs to be more submissive to her man or ask for punishment if she was disrespectful? Yes, I’ve addressed submission with close friends who were practitioners or had a deep affinity for the subject. With others I’ve broached it in the context (headship) most applicable for their situations. I did not suggest they seek correction. quote: Have you ever had a straight couple over and let out that you are submissive and then taken your place in front of them and if so how did the other couple react? No. But I’ve been on the receiving end of unsolicited sharing without warning and it wasn’t very comfortable. Just because I find something enticing doesn’t mean I want to see you in that role. ~porcelaine

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Telling friend you are a slave and she should be more submissive (12/2/2017 4:18:34 AM)
Wow!! What a naive person. quote: ORIGINAL: focalss To the female slaves, have you ever told one of your friends she needs to be more submissive to her man or ask for punishment if she was disrespectful? Imposing your ideas of what you consider as submission to others is an absolute no-no in any circumstances. In fact, inflicting your personal views on anybody is very arrogant and inconsiderate. If your friend just happened to be a dominant, you would be slapped from here to next week for being disrespectful or punched on the nose for being extremely rude. And why just female slaves??? There are male slaves as well. As many have said on here, not everyone has a punishment dynamic. quote: ORIGINAL: focalss Have you ever had a straight couple over and let out that you are submissive and then taken your place in front of them and if so how did the other couple react? You should NEVER be submissive in front of those that do not indulge in kink activities. Your submissiveness should be reserved for your dominant; not everyone that happens along and even less so if you are aware they straight. Unless they are your dominant, your place is not in front of them but beside them as equal human beings. quote: ORIGINAL: focalss Or have you had another couple watch you get disciplined and how did they react? Did they freak out, feel it was too much or accept that part of you? The only people that are likely to watch would be those interested and as such would probably pass no comment. You remind me of a previous poster on these boards who had no clue; totally and utterly inept and naive. You seem clueless on social behaviour and ettiquette to the point of being reckless. Are you sure you are old enough to be on this site???

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