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CruelDaddyman -> Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 9:32:14 AM)
Several times I’ve been accused of being married during message exchange. My profile clearly indicates that I’m very much a single Dom. I don’t get it. Is there that much deception going on here? I’m not here to prove myself and jump through a bunch of hoops to prove myself. I don’t function that way nor should I have to. Getting frustrated.

WhoreMods -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 9:47:01 AM)
There is quite a bit of deception going on, sadly. Just look at some of the profiles on the front page.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 9:52:52 AM)
You appear to have brought a sense of entitlement with you to the site. Good luck with that here.

preytolife -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 9:55:36 AM)
This is the internet. If you expect to make any sort of genuine connection then EVERYONE has to prove themselves. On the other hand if you just wanna fuck around then absolutely, throw around that righteous indignation for shits and giggles.

CruelDaddyman -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 10:12:48 AM)
Site? Is that was this is? Based on the level of distrust it’s beginning to look more like a cesspool. Imperfect world? Sure.

CruelDaddyman -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 10:15:05 AM)
Understood. I wasn’t expecting this, however..I know, there I go with unrealistic expectations. :)

needlesandpins -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 10:52:49 AM)
Toyota sold my Grandad a new car, that he didn't need, gave him £5,000 for a 3 year old car with less than 1500 miles on the clock, that they had sold him and serviced, and then sold him an 'insurance' for nearly £500 that he certainly didn't need, because he already had his own. He passed away last week, and we've just had to get rid of the 'new' car, again, with less than 1500 miles on the clock, and dealing with dodgy car dealers that are supposed to be reputable. You're on a web site where people hide behind a key board pretending they are something they're not, and you're complaining about it like people don't do it in plain sight. I have some people in my friend list on Facebook that post a load of crap about their lives. I live a couple of streets from them, and know exactly what their lives are. How old are you? Because if you seriously thought this wasn't going to be like this, you may want to delete your account, and step away from the internet. Needles

Onerat1 -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 12:54:40 PM)
Yes that much deception. I used to and probably still get nasty messages from males who pretend to be a dom. Does a man need to write what they do because I am not meeting or want their age or am not a real submissive or slave which I admit to in my profile. Should a dominant get so pissed at what I am to write what they do?

LadyPact -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 2:25:30 PM)
I went and looked at your profile to see if there was anything in it to prompt the reactions you're getting. I didn't see anything that might have people thinking that. Maybe it's something that is occurring during your exchanges with others. I couldn't say. In a way, I'm partially with you. Like every other woman on the site, I run across the occasional schmuck that wants to pull the "you're not female, either call or get on cam to prove that you are" routine. This isn't something I'm willing to do. For what it's worth, after the hundreds of people I've met from the site over the years and who knows how many kink events I've attended, any person who can't figure out that I'm female probably hasn't been trying hard. At the same time, I understand skepticism. On any site where people are meeting each other, there are absolutely profiles with an (F) on them that are written by men. It's a part of internet social sites and people should be aware of that. It's not something that is just on CM/CS because the same thing happens on OKCupid, Fet, Alt, and just about any other site out there. Same thing goes for people who are married that say they are single. Marital (relationship) status is something people often lie about, so it shouldn't surprise anyone that people will question whether the person saying they are single are really single or not.

masmiss -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 2:34:37 PM)
No one is so fabulous early in a conversation that I feel obliged to jump through hoops to prove myself to a suspicious sub. I wish them well and move on. Easy.

CruelDaddyman -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 3:12:46 PM)
My thoughts too. I don’t have the desire to sift through someone’s baggage. Afterall, it’s rude to rifle through baggage that belongs to someone else.

NoirMetal -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/10/2017 7:29:55 PM)
You do better when you post stuff in a journal about things you like,erotica or your feelings on various lifestyles. Married men are too busy looking over their shoulders at 2am to have time to do that. Then write the interesting ladies who look.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/13/2017 9:34:34 PM)
Yes, there is actually that much deception going on here. Fakes, Scammers, Catfish and more. Ironically there are even women which intentionally target Dominant men to mentally fuck with them and crush them up (Dom Clipping). Be yourself, be serious, but don't become serious with anybody which has not truly earned your trust to actually be serious with. Good Luck.

DesFIP -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/14/2017 1:51:44 AM)
Perhaps it’s the insistence on meeting online. Have you tried joining your local community?

porcelaine -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/14/2017 10:45:08 PM)
Sir, I am sorry to hear about your negative experiences. I stole a peek at your profile and it looks fine. There’s nothing that would raise any red flags. Perhaps that’s the problem. You appear too normal. As others have shared it isn’t uncommon to be asked to provide proof which is often covert fodder in my opinion. I experienced it last week for the first time and elected to ignore the person in spite of our discourse. I would encourage you to do the same. Good luck on your search. ~porcelaine

Greta75 -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/15/2017 5:06:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CruelDaddyman Several times I’ve been accused of being married during message exchange. My profile clearly indicates that I’m very much a single Dom. I don’t get it. Is there that much deception going on here? I’m not here to prove myself and jump through a bunch of hoops to prove myself. I don’t function that way nor should I have to. Getting frustrated. I find it really strange. What usually brings on the accusation that you are married? Surely there is a line of logic that lead to that conclusion through something you mention in your conversation. I hope it's not just the question of, "Are you married?" that you feel is an accusation.

Milesnmiles -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/23/2017 4:49:26 PM)
Hey, it's the internet. You can be anything you want to be. I pretty much believe anything others say, because even if it's not who they are it is at least who they want to be. So, till you agree to meet in real life, when the rubber meets the road, what difference does it make? So if someone "accused" me of being married even after reading that I had posted I wasn't, I would probably "fess up" that "I'm a traveling salesman and have a wife in every port; why do you ask?". https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UE6iAjEv9dQ

luvnsub -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/24/2017 6:52:26 AM)
Yes, there is a TON of deception. Plus, I'd respectfully suggest that your profile sounds like you're protesting too much ("I'm single. I'm emotionally balanced. i'm a good guy") i wish you luck in finding the connection you desire.

longwayhome -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/27/2017 6:28:40 PM)
Many people encounter married men who are looking for kink by pretending to be single. If you are an older man some people will be wary about your marital status. It's perfectly understandable and a mixture of common sense and self-preservation. This can't really surprise you. You can choose not to "jump through a bunch of hoops" but if you don't you will not convince many perfectly reasonable women who've been burnt before. After you refuse to prove yourself the much smaller pool of people you are left with may be blindly trusting or not care about your marital status. These may be the very people you are looking for (if indeed you can find them at all) or you may just have blown off a number of very suitable partners. Your choice, but you can't really blame women on the site for being careful, just as you yourself should take care that you are not communicating with a scammer if you intend at some point to meet them.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Anger and distrust. (12/28/2017 4:20:48 AM)
Why do you give a shit what some rando online says or thinks?

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