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Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/15/2017 4:58:01 AM   
ErosandAphrodite


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Ok I screwed up my very first post and put it under polls. Let's try this again.

Could someone explain this to us. A man, Woman or couple send the message "hi", you look at there profile and it looks interesting so reply in kind. They respond asking "what are you guys doing tonight" you either tell them or ask what they are seeking then you never get a response back. We both understand people are busy and things come up, internet connections are lost. Is it really that hard to say "Decided I'm not interested"

Is there something else going on here?
Is there a purpose behind this we are unaware of?

Whatever happened to common courtesy?
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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/15/2017 5:08:19 AM   
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You do realise that, there is no such thing as "common courtesy" in the cyber world right?

It's strangers dealing with strangers with no accountability. The last thing they are gonna care about is manners.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/15/2017 5:30:09 AM   
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I do get that. And understand that sometimes people don't like confrontation. So they just disappear. But in this case I have racked my brain trying to figure out the point to these messages. They initiated the conversation once there's a reply they disappear. There isn't even any dialogue that could be misconstrued. It's "hi" " hello how are you" " fine what are you guy's doing" " not much, staying in tonight" then they're gone into cyber space.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/15/2017 5:53:27 AM   
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probably underage and not supposed to be here.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/15/2017 6:33:05 AM   
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Chances are you're not the only ones they messaged, and by the time it got around to your last message, well they'd already got off on someone else. They are on post cum lull, and don't give a crap about responding to you anymore.

Be grateful you don't have to wipe down after them.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/15/2017 6:36:25 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ErosandAphrodite

I do get that. And understand that sometimes people don't like confrontation. So they just disappear. But in this case I have racked my brain trying to figure out the point to these messages. They initiated the conversation once there's a reply they disappear. There isn't even any dialogue that could be misconstrued. It's "hi" " hello how are you" " fine what are you guy's doing" " not much, staying in tonight" then they're gone into cyber space.


It's super normal. I get dominants contacting me all the time sounding enthusiastic.

And if I respond, sometimes they don't bother responding back to my response. I don't give it a second thought, as we are strangers, I don't care. It just means he is not mentally complex enough to get me.

Most probably they didn't like my response as it didn't sound deference enough and they thought they were gonna have their balls carried.

And that's okay! It weeds out all the non-suitable. The way I approach it is. IF it's a click. The conversation will naturally keep carrying on.

If it's not a click, it will die off. One will disappear. It's just that simple.

I had once a dominant who said, "Ask me whatever you want? I would be happy to answer any questions you have about me?"

So I asked him questions, and guess what? Zero response? Maybe my questions were too complex for his brain to handle. You know, there are alot of liars and FOS folks online too. And this is how you weed them. Many will say alot of bullshit.

The best thing is not to spend any second more on anybody who doesn't bother responding. And wipe them off your minds.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/16/2017 10:27:42 AM   
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You are never, ever, owed an answer online.

For many it's safer and easier to just stop responding then send a negative response because people are assholes. It's not worth the energy to try to be nice if over and over you get people exploding at you for saying no thanks.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/16/2017 2:10:04 PM   
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I used to answer with not interested but some don't like that. Get a nasty message back. My profile is clear not interested in talking with anybody. Some still write even though read my profile. Others write without reading. Not going to read and answer. A few keep viewing. How else know I decided I want to now talk? When they see I still am not talking they for whatever reason keep writing. Why I have the part about they must think they are special or I am desperate being I am older in my profile. If new expect rude messages, down on your knees and suck me now, demanding money or whatever in the first message. Not all. Not even most.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/17/2017 5:04:11 AM   
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Your Answer does sound plausible. However the situation that prompted me to post this question all happened while I was online. No more than 5 minutes passed between them looking at our profile and our exchange of greetings.

I have to say that they were definitely a quick draw if that is what happened, and if that's the case my wife wouldn't have been satisfied by them anyway

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/17/2017 1:44:22 PM   
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Why would you even bother to answer someone who just says hi?

If they can’t be bothered to say something that relates to your profile or forum posts, then how do you expect to carry on a conversation?

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/17/2017 7:26:02 PM   
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Welcome to the Internet.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/18/2017 4:20:52 AM   
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You can wait a few days and try responding back. People get busy and distracted.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/18/2017 5:48:21 AM   
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At DesFIP I understand the just Hi messages. Some submissive's are shy and don't know how to approach Dominant couple's. They look at profile and want to let you know that they are interested. We've actually started some meaningful conversations responding to the just Hi messages.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/18/2017 9:23:03 AM   
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Good luck with that. In the 12 years I have been on this website, no meaningful conversations have ever started with a one word email of "hi". I have met a lot of people here in person. In my experience if a person is truly interested in you, they will put more thought and effort into their email. People who ere looking for money or for a one night stand tend to use the "hi" approach.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/19/2017 1:08:24 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: preytolife

You are never, ever, owed an answer online.

For many it's safer and easier to just stop responding then send a negative response because people are assholes. It's not worth the energy to try to be nice if over and over you get people exploding at you for saying no thanks.


You are always owed an answer, even online, but most people are assholes.

Definition of asshole: Someone willing to be rude to avoid their own social anxiety and/or 5 seconds of work.

It is ALWAYS worth the effort to be nice - it's about who YOU are, not about how people respond to you being nice.



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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/19/2017 2:23:12 PM   
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Do you write back to credit card companies, refusing their offers? No? How rude of you! What an asshole!

Your feelings of entitlement are not more important than my time and safety.

Young women here can get over one hundred emails a day. That’s hours of their time that you feel entitled to. You aren’t.

There’s one other thing. Men who feel entitled to a woman’s attention, time, bodies are the ones most likely to threaten and stalk when they get rejected.

How many death threats have you received for rejecting someone? How many do you feel is fine? When do you get scared? How many men do you know who had to move across the country to escape a stalker? Because every woman here has been subjected to harassment and abuse. The only person who gets to decide my risk assessment is me. Not some stranger online.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/19/2017 3:17:24 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit


quote:

ORIGINAL: preytolife

You are never, ever, owed an answer online.

For many it's safer and easier to just stop responding then send a negative response because people are assholes. It's not worth the energy to try to be nice if over and over you get people exploding at you for saying no thanks.


You are always owed an answer, even online, but most people are assholes.

Definition of asshole: Someone willing to be rude to avoid their own social anxiety and/or 5 seconds of work.

It is ALWAYS worth the effort to be nice - it's about who YOU are, not about how people respond to you being nice.



Definition of fucking idiot.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 12/19/2017 3:23:32 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit

You are always owed an answer, even online, but most people are assholes.

Bless your heart, precious.

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 1/12/2018 6:18:00 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit


quote:

ORIGINAL: preytolife

You are never, ever, owed an answer online.

For many it's safer and easier to just stop responding then send a negative response because people are assholes. It's not worth the energy to try to be nice if over and over you get people exploding at you for saying no thanks.


You are always owed an answer, even online, but most people are assholes.

Definition of asshole: Someone willing to be rude to avoid their own social anxiety and/or 5 seconds of work.

It is ALWAYS worth the effort to be nice - it's about who YOU are, not about how people respond to you being nice.





I don't know you... but I love you!

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RE: Lacking common courtesy or scammers? - 1/12/2018 6:23:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2


quote:

ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit


quote:

ORIGINAL: preytolife

You are never, ever, owed an answer online.

For many it's safer and easier to just stop responding then send a negative response because people are assholes. It's not worth the energy to try to be nice if over and over you get people exploding at you for saying no thanks.


You are always owed an answer, even online, but most people are assholes.

Definition of asshole: Someone willing to be rude to avoid their own social anxiety and/or 5 seconds of work.

It is ALWAYS worth the effort to be nice - it's about who YOU are, not about how people respond to you being nice.



Definition of fucking idiot.


Definition of fucking idiot from a special olympics loser who should spend a month inside a dark head box.

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