RE: the midlife transition

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kdsub -> RE: the midlife transition (12/22/2017 12:20:32 PM)
I don't believe there is anything to learn.. What we do is follow our desires period...all we must do is find someone that matches them. The words like power exchange...sub... dom...switch are really meaningless... we are what we are and desire accordingly. People often come here and state what they are looking for and are put down by the asses that think they know what the person should say or like. We are all different and desire different things... I like new people because they are honest in what they desire...and not brow beaten... yet... by those that think their ideas of the lifestyle is the only correct way to desire or act. What we should be doing is just suggesting safe ways to the uninformed to fulfill their desires if they should ask us. Butch

DesFIP -> RE: the midlife transition (12/22/2017 1:01:35 PM)
If at 45 or older, you don’t have the life skills to learn about something you’ve always wondered about, then you’re beyond hope. But telling someone who’s buried loved ones, raised children,changed careers, etc that they’re too stupid to do this the way they want, makes the one true wayers rude beyond belief.

kiwisub22 -> RE: the midlife transition (12/22/2017 7:21:57 PM)
I was 50 when i realized my submissive side, and discovered collarme. I read enough from the posts to understand the basic ins and outs of meeting people who might be a bit nuts. Of course, i had dated during the '70's and '80;s so i had a fair amount of experience with nutty people. The thing for me was that dating vanilla and bdsm-type people was much alike. If i was so naïve I couldn't make a fairly accurate judgement about people by the age of 50, i would need to be under someone's care, and not in a bdsm way. The things I need to know was what could be involved in a D/s relationship, because i didn't know enough to determine my limits. And really, if i was with a person where those discussions were being raised, I would trust them to not push me past my comfort levels. And oddly enough - the men i found were exactly those sort of men, which i attribute to the fact that i was self aware enough not to choose a baddie. I might be submissive/masocist, but I'm not stupid. There was some sub frenzy, but again, NOT stupid. Relating this to the original post, I'm not sure that there is a huge need for a newbie forum. If you are a newbie and even a bit not stupid, the regular forums work well. They (collarme) gave me a lot of info. with things to be aware of, as did google.

WhoreMods -> RE: the midlife transition (12/23/2017 4:59:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP But telling someone who’s buried loved ones, raised children,changed careers, etc that they’re too stupid to do this the way they want, makes the one true wayers rude beyond belief. Oh, don't even get me started on that...

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: the midlife transition (12/23/2017 2:38:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince while there will always be the younger set that keep the kink path going, the reality is that many are finding the path after midlife; perhaps from a divorce or boredom. It is sometime painful to see the results of misconception and learning errors occur as these folks are met with mirth and sometimes mean spirits instead of guidance.Might it be a possibly workable effort to establis a chat room for beginners and some of the wise serious folks volunteer for mod duty?? Just a thought. CP OK, and your point is?

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