I have never asked for pictures or sent pictures. And I have no problem meeting folks from online who are real.
I can just tell by the conversations we have. And it's always 100% accurate. I never get a no show ever.
We usually plan to meet at anywhere where we can make a reservation, so that we will be sent to the same table.
That's how you meet without knowing how each other look like.
And I honestly always don't want to know how the man looks like until I meet him in real life.
1) Men always send bullshit 10 years younger photos of themselves
2) I don't want to judge him by his looks, I want to know him as a person first. If I hate his picture, I will have preconceive notion already and it could end just right there. And I could miss out on someone who I may really like character wise.
Ya know I have been meeting men from online since a teenager, and not once did we ever exchange photos. Because I never wanted it. And I always get to meet genuine men who turn up because it's like seriously impossible not know if someone is real. The conversations says everything. If they are dodgy, you'd know from the conversation already. Because, bullshit people who are just messing around aren't capable of deep and meaningful conversations. It will get less entertaining for them to keep up. Ask them very personal questions. Not about sex, but beyond.
And I think it's extremely unreasonable to demand pictures from strangers. Because with all the "catfish" things going on these days. Where people take your pic and to commit fraud on others.
How can ya all feel comfortable sending your pictures to strangers from online.
I never would.
And men who are shallow who needs pictures first, are probably not my kind of man anyway. That eliminates.
This is an interesting perspective. What's funny is that I actually do look 10+ years younger than I am. It throws people off in the real time all the time. Whenever I share pictures of myself, I make it a point to stress this too. Some seem pretty stunned that I'm not some fat, ugly looking guy. Although I don't think I'm all that in the looks department. I have always considered myself as average looking. But I can see where somebody might think I'm full of shit and believe I actually am sharing 10 year old pictures. LOL.
You are dead right about conversations saying everything. What you wrote applies to women too, if they are dodgy and can't have deep and meaningful conversations. I try to look for those which take ownership of who and what they are. I have no problem talking trashy and all that, but also look for more deep and meaningful exchanges in the mix of things. The same with extremely deep and serious conversations. I look for other things, like humor, or emotional depth.
Now, about these "catfish" types. Sadly, I have got mixed up with some here. They passed off photo's of somebody else. Then we ended up moving into phone conversations. The sad part is that I'm exceptionally easy to talk with, and sooner or later they out themselves by accidentally telling the truth. I had one which freaked out as soon as she realized what had happened. She ended up throwing her cell phone across the room and screaming. There's this mantra I have "Sooner or later the truth comes out, always does".
Ok, I had one "catfish", she lifted her sisters life and sister's lifestory to spoon feed me with. Now, that was mind blowing. What was sad, is that I found this out when I ended up dealing with her sister on the end of the cell phone one day. Having an indepth conversation about things. The girl I had been dealing with (her sister) was recovering drug addict and totally relapsed and went off the deep end of things. But this is just another of many stories of so called damn "catfish".
I have my own share of stories from things online. I actually used to own and run a massive BBS system back in the day. Adult content and more on it. Sure enough got in more than my share of "hot chat" and phone sex and more. I'm a womanizer of sorts. I don't always move on anything either. Personality and how well things click. Plus I get different or have gotten different things from women. Be it friendships, Sexual, to more emotional/mental things. I'm rather complicated because While I'm highly sexual, have a sadistic side, into humiliation and degrading women, I also have a Daddy Dom side. The funny part is that I don't hate women, but I'm into sexual objectification which makes me a borderline misogynistic type of guy in a certain sense. So physical appearance does matter to me for relationship material. I need to be sexually attracted to them for anything real up close and all that. I actually had some issues, with not seeing pictures first, then meeting and I was the one going on recoil mode. It was not fair to them, nor myself.