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ANSWERING A MESSAGE.. - 2/9/2023 11:25:00 AM

breeze88

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what is so difficult abput giving a reply to someone? doesnt take much effort I dont think so anyway.

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RE: ANSWERING A MESSAGE.. - 2/9/2023 2:52:37 PM

JVoV

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I may have missed a few, but I do try to respond to every message I get, whether I'm interested in the person or not. But sometimes the message I send is that they could have saved the energy by actually reading my profile.

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RE: ANSWERING A MESSAGE.. - 2/10/2023 10:47:14 AM

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Women will often not reply to messages if they aren’t interested in the sender, because invariably, any reply message will only trigger further messages at best and aggressive harassment more often. Silence is the best response to unwanted messages and is an answer in itself.
Edit: didn’t mean that as a reply to you JVoV. I’m out of touch with the buttons on here!

< Message edited by Spiritedsub2 -- 2/10/2023 10:53:11 AM >

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RE: ANSWERING A MESSAGE.. - 2/10/2023 12:24:14 PM

JVoV

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I don't even think of posts as personal replies unless names are mentioned, or there's a quote involved. People just post to continue a conversation.

Are straight male subs really still that annoying? Sad. No sign of that here in the forums. Unless you count this one making two threads whining about the same thing. I need to teach a class to Dominant Wimminz. How to type NOPE. the graduate course would be how to say FUCK OFF.

But it's obvious the straight boys don't get beaten enough.

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RE: ANSWERING A MESSAGE.. - 2/21/2023 8:06:19 AM

ncslaveonknees

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i always reply

even if i have no potential interest

i do appreciate that someone took the time to reach out to me

and even if we are not prospective partners

perhaps there is a friendship than can be gained or something perhaps that we can learn from one another

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RE: ANSWERING A MESSAGE.. - 3/31/2023 3:00:37 AM

thursdays

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I think you need to look at it from their point of view .. some folk (this happens - predictably - more to younger females with pics in their profiles) will log on, and within minutes will have a page or more of messages. Many of these are terrible, many are simply "Hi", and a good number will be from profiles that are clearly not a great match.

I don't think it's reasonable to expect these folk to answer every email they get.

So, instead... When writing your opening message, give it a little thought... How might your message stand out? What might you say that could pique their interest?

You can dramatically improve your reply rate by doing this .. and as for the ones that don't reply or even delete unread .. don't take it personally, just accept that you're not a match and move on!

Good luck in your search!

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RE: ANSWERING A MESSAGE.. - 4/2/2023 11:40:18 AM

MsJoy2752

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Some messages are one lines, nonsensical, and absurd at times. And these get no response from me. I usually respond to those that take the time to read my profile before sending me a note, and actually start up a conversation. I try to be polite and respond to messages, but somethings I just don't want to encourage chit chat.

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