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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 4:54:30 PM   
MsIncognito


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Status: offline 		You have to YEARN for it? In all seriousness, I don't YEARN for a man's touch any more than I YEARN for a woman's touch (I have way too much to do in the course of a day, spare time for YEARNING is a luxury I don't have). I very much enjoy the touch of someone who is attractive and has that certain je ne said quoi that trips my triggers but I can't say I spend time YEARNING for it. Does that make me asexual?

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I've thought about this and I think I have the answer for you and one that will fit everyone that wonders about themselves: "Do you YEARN for the touch of your same sex as you would the touch of a man (if you are het identifing orginally)


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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 5:26:07 PM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		A year ago I wouldn't have considered myself bisexual at all, but now I do. Sometimes it's the sexual/intimate experiences we have that shape future attraction. Perhaps you are not attracted to women outside of a scene with your Dom present because it's the combination of his presence and forced bisexual activity that makes it exciting.

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 5:42:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MsIncognito

You have to YEARN for it? In all seriousness, I don't YEARN for a man's touch any more than I YEARN for a woman's touch (I have way too much to do in the course of a day, spare time for YEARNING is a luxury I don't have). I very much enjoy the touch of someone who is attractive and has that certain je ne said quoi that trips my triggers but I can't say I spend time YEARNING for it. Does that make me asexual?

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I've thought about this and I think I have the answer for you and one that will fit everyone that wonders about themselves: "Do you YEARN for the touch of your same sex as you would the touch of a man (if you are het identifing orginally)



You can be just as asexual as you want to be :)

Yearning means "desire" to me.  And what a cheat to be with someone intimately and not really desire them.. kinda sad.

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 6:43:42 PM   
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Did I mention somewhere that I'm very attracted to males who are content to wear a plug and chastity device while I fuck their wives' brains out?


Interesting fact but how does that relate to the question??


Dont mind him. Like other would say about me, he talks to hear his own voice.


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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 6:47:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		My my, that comment seems to have hit a few people where it hurts.

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 6:52:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
My my, that comment seems to have hit a few people where it hurts.

I thought it was a cute sidenote to add to the humor and bring levity to the topic, with perhaps an ironic edge.

It's ok LAM, everyone knows I talk to hear myself wayy more than you do.

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 6:53:16 PM   
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Link to a topic I started months ago about this subject.  Some of the danger is that we have a need to label ourselves.  Sometimes I think it's more fun to go with a good experience than to get overwrought trying to analyze it or trying to label yourself from one experience.  I view bisexuality along a spectrum.  Maybe that will work for you as well. 


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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 7:08:03 PM   
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My my, that comment seems to have hit a few people where it hurts.


Naw. I just never give up an opportunity to bash someone ;) lol.


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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 7:43:33 PM   
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Its not the label that I care about...I could care less about that. What I care about is trying to better understand a part of me that I dont fully understand. I have no problems with labeling myself as bi or bi curious or anything else, I guess its just about a lil self discovery. Better understanding me and my dislikes and likes and what they fully mean.


I think the only way you are going to learn and understand yourself is by trying things and experiementing. Thinking it through and actually doing are soo very different.

Good luck in your inner search *S*

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 7:54:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am attracted to the person regardless if they are male or female it doesn't matter. I think some women are absolutely beautiful and sexy, I think some men are handsome and sexy. It just depends upon the person and their personality really, the outside is just eye candy For me it is what is on the inside that counts and what stirs the passion.

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 8:35:55 PM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I am attracted to the person regardless if they are male or female it doesn't matter. I think some women are absolutely beautiful and sexy, I think some men are handsome and sexy. It just depends upon the person and their personality really, the outside is just eye candy For me it is what is on the inside that counts and what stirs the passion.

~Lashra




Very well said.. but I'm just SO shallow.. I've gotta have a certain packaging :)

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 8:38:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I consider myself bi-sexual. I have always been attracted to men and women. No, not every man or every woman attracts me. Many do. I think the most important thing is to always be true to yourself. If you are attracted to women in a scene context, then pursue it. If you are attracted to men outside of the scene and in the scene, then pursue it. I don't think you have to fit with any particular notion of any label. Be true to yourself and tell people, I am _____, because I like _____.

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 7/31/2006 9:38:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your replies, definetly gave me something to think about.

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 8/1/2006 7:14:48 AM   
sublace


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Status: offline 		Well I'm not sure what I am.  I absolutely love women and I like big cocks, so does that make me bi sexual?  Men do nothing for me to look at them and kissing a guy is very difficult to do for me but I can kiss a woman all day.  So what am I?


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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 8/1/2006 7:37:42 AM   
yourMissTress


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Status: offline 		I have considered Myself to be bi since my mid teen years.  I've been aroused by both men and women all of My life, but all of My relationships had been with men.  I had never considered a relationship with a woman as being a possibility for Me.    When I met My girl I was in a relationship with a man.  It had been a very long time since I'd been with a woman and was actually rethinking My bi-sexual status.  This woman just did it for Me in every single way, there was nothing about her that didn't attract Me to her.  I came to think that I didn't want to be with anyone if I couldn't be with her, and now I can't imagine life without her.
 
I think that we as sexual beings are not ever absolutely one way or another.  There are varying degrees of sexuality in us all.  It's just a matter of honesty within ourselves.

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 8/1/2006 2:26:12 PM   
MsIncognito


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ORIGINAL: LotusSong
Yearning means "desire" to me.  And what a cheat to be with someone intimately and not really desire them.. kinda sad.


Yearning and desire are more certainly NOT the same thing but I can see how they'd be easily confused. Nowhere did I say I didn't desire the person/people I've been with, that's a leap you took all on your own. What I said was I don't spend (or waste for that matter) time yearning for something. I'd rather go out and get it, if I want it that badly rather than torturing myself by passively yearning for it. Self inflicted pain isn't my cuppa :)

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 8/1/2006 5:26:58 PM   
SoftTop


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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 8/1/2006 6:35:49 PM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: sublace

Well I'm not sure what I am.  I absolutely love women and I like big cocks, so does that make me bi sexual?  Men do nothing for me to look at them and kissing a guy is very difficult to do for me but I can kiss a woman all day.  So what am I?


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Well, whatever you are sweety, you're a good one! :)

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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 8/1/2006 7:50:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I am attracted to the person regardless if they are male or female it doesn't matter. I think some women are absolutely beautiful and sexy, I think some men are handsome and sexy. It just depends upon the person and their personality really, the outside is just eye candy For me it is what is on the inside that counts and what stirs the passion.

~Lashra

I have always labled myself bi because it was the easiest way to explain how I feel. Lashra, thank you! That is exactly it. I am attracted to the person so it doesn't matter what sex they are. You put into words what I was feeling all along. I agree.
 
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RE: Understanding Bi-sexuality - 8/2/2006 4:51:16 AM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		I consider myself bi sexual because i find women just as appealing as men but honestly for me what counts is the attraction not the gender, but lucky me i have one of each......

Let's see so i have two great butts to look at and grab, one perfect pair of perky tits to admire, one hairy chest to snuggle, one oversized beautiful cock to enjoy, one perfect pussy to worship, two great heads of hair to brush, two pair of lips to kiss,(or is that 3 pairs?.....hmmmm...) two pair of feet to pamper.....


Ooopppsss, what was this post about? 

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