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I want to get back into the scene - 7/31/2006 3:13:41 PM

aldornza

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I have only had one Master in the past and I am scared that I could not please anyone else. Where do I start over ?

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RE: I want to get back into the scene - 7/31/2006 3:32:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: aldornza
I have only had one Master in the past and I am scared that I could not please anyone else. Where do I start over ?

With yourself! Scared that you will not please anyone else? That simply screams lack of self-worth and self-confidence. Petal if you can't see what you have to offer then how can you hope to show that to any prospective Dom? And EVERYONE has SOMETHING to offer!

Be a bit positive, give yourself permission to acknowledge your good points, work out what you want and keep all your options open till you find it..... and be careful to make sure you get what you need, not just what any low esteem makes you think you have to settle for!

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RE: I want to get back into the scene - 7/31/2006 4:02:40 PM

SweetSerendipity

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Raven,

You are a wise and thoughtful man.

Blessed Be

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RE: I want to get back into the scene - 7/31/2006 4:17:27 PM

mstrjx

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You already have started over, in a sense. It would seem you just joined CollarMe today. You have created a profile (perhaps on the light side, but still), and therefore you are marketing yourself.

You didn't say how long you served your first master, but perhaps you consider yourself new. You will undoubtedly receive email from dozens or more prospective men, some of which will sound better than others. You can also do your own searching and find people near enough to your area that seem intriguing in their profiles.

Go slow, be careful. You know enough about yourself, and your experiences with your first master (hopefully) to know what your needs are. Find local 'groups' to visit a munch or a play party.

I agree with RavenMuse to be introspective. But, you had some value that your first master saw. Every experience with good masters give you more of yourself to build from. Hopefully he was one that built you up.

Read through these posts. Find people you think are genuine, and inquire whether they will be kind enough to be sort of a mentor to help guide you. Some might, others might not have the time.

Just a bunch of thoughts. Good luck.

Jeff

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RE: I want to get back into the scene - 7/31/2006 5:16:01 PM

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Hey! Me too!
But if you don't please someone they punish you!

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RE: I want to get back into the scene - 8/1/2006 1:45:11 AM

CaveatViewAskew

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you might find it less threatening to attend one of the organized events, munches, etc around Atlnata, Savannah, or wherever you're located. I noted that you're not seeking 24/7 so, I'll assume that you want a relationship that only meets your needs whenever you're feeling the need. That doesn't make you a bad gal, but it may limit your choices especially since you stipulate single Men only, and again, I'll assume that you probably made that choice because there's always the hope of a permanent attachment, blah, blah, blagg, urp.
Maybe you should concentrate on playing at one of the events with someone that you met at the munches or on-line. you can get your fill of impact play, but you'll find yourself somewhat frustrated if you need sexual interactions during a session.
If you really only want a limited relationship, I'd suggest the study of a poly-fidelity family. Some of them are quite lax about their fidelity tenets.
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I have only had one Master in the past and I am scared that I could not please anyone else. Where do I start over ?

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RE: I want to get back into the scene - 8/1/2006 8:13:14 PM

FangsNfeet

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ORIGINAL: aldornza
Where do I start over ?

One never forgets how to ride a bike. You just pick up where you left off.

Your profile already says who you are and what you want. Go for it and never settle for less. With such a confident profile, I'm somewhat supprised that you would write such a unconfident post. Perhaps it just a bad day for you. It happens to the most of us.

Anyhow, when you do submit to someone again, I'm sure he will be very pleased with all your talents.

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RE: I want to get back into the scene - 8/2/2006 12:38:53 AM

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Number one rule is: Be patient.

It will take time to find a compatible Master. Meanwhile learn all you can and make lots of friends.

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