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cuddleheart50 -> Perfectionist (8/2/2006 6:19:06 PM)
What is your personal defination of a perfectionist? I have come to realize that it means different things to different people. I was married to a perfectionist for 30 yrs and I have vowed never to become involved with another one again...is being a perfectionist a good thing or a bad thing?

Fawne -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 6:37:27 PM)
Good Q, Cuddleheart, TY. I can be a perfectionist. But, of course one can never be "perfect". So, in not being perfect, I end up kicking myself in the ass, acting like one once in a while and creating a negative cycle. This is a quite recently learned experience; yet I'll never forget. I will forgive instead and try, try again, but with a postive loving mindset which includes loving myself. take care and lots of love and luck to you

popeye1250 -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 6:40:19 PM)
An anal-retentive asshole?

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 6:41:42 PM)
yep, thats what I had ...eek!!!...nothing I ever did was good enough, nothing!!! It was hell...

joyinslavery -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 6:49:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50 What is your personal defination of a perfectionist? I have come to realize that it means different things to different people. I was married to a perfectionist for 30 yrs and I have vowed never to become involved with another one again...is being a perfectionist a good thing or a bad thing? Someone who strives for perfection. A worthy (?) yet (of course) unattainable goal. Okay, that's a bit simplistic but I've got to get back to Comedy Central.

Estring -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 6:53:02 PM)
I think a perfectionist usually runs into problems because they expect their partner to be perfect or be as much of a perfectionist as they are.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 6:57:11 PM)
A perfectionist is a type of control freak who gains a sense of security by trying to manage everything perfectly in hopes that the world will be well and good if they are successful. It's usually a very self centered, insecure, and anxious person as well, but perfectionism can be used in a positive and productive way if moderated properly.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 6:58:41 PM)
wow, you just described my ex....amazing.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:00:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50 wow, you just described my ex....amazing. It helps that I AM a perfectionist myself :)

sub4hire -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:00:27 PM)
A perfectionist to me is someone I will never be. I'm more like a I like my life in order-ist type. But perfection...never.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:03:12 PM)
How can you be happy being a perfectionist knowing that nothing will ever be perfect?

Estring -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:05:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50 How can you be happy being a perfectionist knowing that nothing will ever be perfect? Exactly.

Sasy -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:12:43 PM)
They say practice make perfect ... well I do not believe anything or any one is truly perfect but now the practicing ... * smirk * Sometimes that can be fun !!!!!!!!!

Kagesuta -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:12:55 PM)
per·fec·tion·ism [image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/JPG/pron.jpg[/image] ( P ) Pronunciation Key (p[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/schwa.gif[/image]r-f[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/ebreve.gif[/image]k[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/prime.gif[/image]sh[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/schwa.gif[/image]-n[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/ibreve.gif[/image]z[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/lprime.gif[/image][image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/schwa.gif[/image]m) n. A propensity for being displeased with anything that is not perfect or does not meet extremely high standards. A belief in certain religions that moral or spiritual perfection can be achieved before the soul has passed into the afterlife. per·fec[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/prime.gif[/image]tion·ist adj. & n. per·fec[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/lprime.gif[/image]tion·is[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/AHD4/GIF/prime.gif[/image]tic adj. As far as my opinion on it... It tends to be an annoying trait, if said perfectionist lets it rule their life. But I think they have medication for that.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:15:08 PM)
I wish I knew about the meds for my then husband.....he was never happy because nothing was ever right in his eyes, what a terrible way to live your life.

SirKenin -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:17:50 PM)
They have pills (and schools for that matter) for everything. Just watch the shit on American TV... You will see it between all the lawyers' commercials.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:27:17 PM)
Too late for the pills now, we are divorced...finally!!!

popeye1250 -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:29:27 PM)
Was he one of those people who washes their hands all the time?

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:33:03 PM)
yep, he washed his hands all the time, was constantly cleaning "something", "anything"....everything had to be in its place at all times ( thats hard to do with children)....no matter how much I cleaned, he would Always find something that I missed and complain about that.

kunlex2003 -> RE: Perfectionist (8/2/2006 7:33:04 PM)
I know some people might think as waht you said. for someone to be perfect is very common unless he/she is very perfect in everything. I can assured that there is no one perfect than others unless the other part broke off the relationship. That is my own view...but i normally perfects in my side no fock up with other guys..treating them as myself...that is all my believe is around the perfectionist.

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