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RE: help please - 8/5/2006 9:39:37 AM

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to the OP and Dad... GROW UP!!!! You now have a baby that depends on you both of you for EVERYTHING... get past whereever little dramas the two of you want to play with each and take care of that baby! i am so angry by this thread...

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RE: help please - 8/5/2006 9:40:37 AM

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~fast reply~ that wasn't in response to You Knight.

i just have zero idea how the reply works anymore..

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RE: help please - 8/5/2006 9:56:47 PM

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Sir Joe I have told my parents many times to but out of my life but they just wont. They say if I live under their roof I must follow their rules. They allways tell me if I dont like the rules and that they but in too much I can move out. Idk what to do b/c my bf is fed up with my parents and is taking it out on me.

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RE: help please - 8/6/2006 3:53:24 AM

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Dear Cutelinygurl84 ,

Are you sixteen years old or an adult. For God sakes move out of your parents house,
and live with your boyfriend. If your boyfriemd can't afford to support you, stop seeing
him, go to school, get an education, get a job, and move out of your parents home. In
the process, you will find a guy who can support you, and take care of your child. If
not, you will be able to do so yourself, unless there is is reason you can't go to college
or learn a trade. This is just my opinion.

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RE: help please - 8/6/2006 4:07:47 AM

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I try to be impartial when I can, however in this case I cannot....the truth of everything, and what matters the most here is the baby, the child....everything else, including your precious life and the emotional difficulties and drama all comes second.

In terms of your story, I think what you did was cheating and plain wrong, I would not be so forgiving in your BF's place. I mean if you really loved him, out of spite, how could you have sex with another guy? That to me, shows a lack of love. Now it would be different in my opinion if both of you were "sex buddies" (trying to say it nicely) then no issues and both of you are free to swing as you wish, but it is not the case, and all the more so with a baby.

Your BF is also to blame as he broke up over something trivial, silly even, specially if you did not side with your family but with him. I for one broke with an ex because her family did interfere in the relationship and she was always on their side rather than routing for "us"; in any case it was just one of the many reasons that relationship happily ended. Could it be that your family is meddlesome because you tell them many things which maybe you shouldn't?

In any case, talk to your BF, show that you are sorry, do what you have to do, I dont know, maybe an extra act of submission that he likes, whatever works, if not for your sake, for the baby's sake. This will take time and healing, and will be a long process....and then please, both of you grow up.

IT CANT BE CHEATING IF THEY WERENT TOGETHER

Jees what do people not understand about the meaining of cheating.. they werent in a relationship so she couldnt have cheated on him.. was it right well it wouldnt be for me but I not her but he cant have it both ways he cant expect her to act as if they are together IE not sleeping with someone els and also break up with her

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RE: help please - 8/6/2006 6:32:22 AM

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The thing is some lovers are always fighting, telling one another they are
breaking-up then getting back together. If you are in love with someone,
and they say the relationship is over, I wouldn't believe it until I see that
person dating others. She shouldn't have slept with the guy if she had
any desire to continue the relationship. If I remember correctly, she
claims she slept with the guy out of anger and spite. Well, if she ever
entertained the hope that there might be some reconcilliation, this is
not something to do, unless you have an open relationship.

I am not one of them, but a lot of people get angry, say things they don't
mean, claim they are breaking-up, etc. You can believe everything
a partner says when they are angry. If she had any interest in continuing
her relationship with this guy, she should have waited a week or two and
asked him if he really wanted to break up with her. This is just my personal
view, but I am no judge, and we all make mistakes.

With love, lashes and endless hugs,
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RE: help please - 8/6/2006 2:33:01 PM

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Ok I agree live under the parents roof live by their rules or Move out.

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RE: help please - 8/7/2006 2:54:26 PM

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This was replied to under my friends name. This is Cutelinygurl84.

Dear whip aka Michael,

I can not move out of my parents house b/c I am in college and my parents help me pay for it. As for living with my bf, I cant he goes to college in ct and how can I live in his dorm? He ia only in his second yr and will be thier a few more yrs. So really I got no where to go unless I want to live on the streets. I know I am persuing a degree in earlychildhood education so I can take care of myself and my son, but that wont be for at least another 2yrs. But I rather not.

Maybe I am a little immature but having a son forced me to growup fast. As soon as I make enough money I plan on moving out and making a home for my son and I and hopfully my bf. He is the one who said he wanted out not and when he said it I felt he ment it. So not really sure what he was trying to do calling me that night saying he wanted b/c i really felt it was over due to my family. Nothing I can really do about my family b/c I have tried to make bounderies many times and they refuse to listen.

For those of you who say I should be thinking about my son I am he is my number 1 priority. I would just like to bring him up in a home with both his mom and dad. So as of right now me and my exbf are talking and seeing what happens. We are trying to work things out and when he comes home for x-mas break he is gonna have a sit down talk with my family and try and makes some bounderies.

Thank you for everyone who tried to help.

Cutelinygurl84

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RE: help please - 8/10/2006 2:45:12 AM

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Okay, tell me, how long is she supposed to wait then? What is deemed 'appropriate' before she can do as she pleases when the person has walked out on her.

When the motivation is not out of spite! or hurt from the past relationship. When she can make the choice to engage in an interactions with another with motivations that are mature and responsible for herself and those under her care.

editted to add.... no I don't think she cheated... but I think she is irresponsible and he would be better without her. As far as him... I can't judge him for he as not provided anything for me to consider.... I am sure not going to judge his actions based on the perceptions of a childish immature person that spins alot of drama in her life.

I grant you, yes, she was very irresponsible. I'm not saying what she has done is mature, or right. Yup, too much drama.
I think they're both immature, him for walking out and expecting to walk back in and nothing to have changed, her on various levels as well.
We are in agreement though, she did not cheat.

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RE: help please - 8/10/2006 5:10:16 AM

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You are letting your family interfer. Quit laying the blame on other people. You two will never work any thing out. Get on with your life.

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RE: help please - 8/10/2006 7:27:45 AM

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Sounds like you need to focus on one thing at a time. Way too much drama for me.

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RE: help please - 8/10/2006 11:39:12 AM

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Just a thought, what does any of this drama have to do with BDSM or anything else discussed on this site????

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