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Tempestspet -> RE: New Dom - Please Help (1/17/2005 1:40:06 PM)
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i started reading E/everyone's replies, and started to get confused. So i am going to simply reply to the new Dom.
From my experience, thinking on when i was new, i had enormous amounts of curiousity. The first thing i did, incidently the day that i new this lifestyle was for me, i was in a chat room. i asked about where i could go and read about the life i was wishing to begin, there was i believe Mistress Fire, that posted some very good sites. i would read those. They will indeed give You a good grasp of things.
But as with everything, reading..online.. is much different from doing things in real life. Much harder...whatever it is O/one may find it to be.
Perhaps, as some have mentioned that You may not present a true picture to the sub....very likely she , he ..whoever is sitting on the other end...and not "really" doing the things You have set her to do.
Interaction: the line that is to be drawn to determined by the involved Dom & sub. You go as far as You and she are comfortable with. Does it require that she call You when she wakes, what to eat, wear? Or simply an evening exchange of what did You do today? Did You accomplish the things i set you to do?
Assignment ideas: This may get repetitive, and i apologize... but it drive this point home... You choice of assignment ideas are as varied and open as Your imagination lets You be. wash the baseboards....take a long bath, preparing herself, as if You where really coming over or she going to You.... Online, is for imagination if nothing else. So go ahead and use it.
Punishment: Again, imagination... silly, embarrassing, to painful, strict, and creative. It really depends onn her and what she dislikes. Example... my Master would never (says He) punish me by spanking me....i like that. Therefore, it is not much of a punishment now is it. Because no matter how it hurts my heart, or is harder than normal.... some little part...likes it. However as silly as it sounds i have been made to simply put my finger on a wall. i must be totally quiet until told i may stop. This is embarrassing and very hard for me. It's mental, you are staring at your finger..thinking about what you have done, and being quiet (as O/one can tell by the length of my reply [:)] ) is very very hard for me.
All said i wish you luck, i found online in the end, unfullfilling, but that is just me. i can't pass judgement on what fullfills You, that is just for You to decide. Though i think that if Your wife was ok with reg. socializing.... You may enjoy finding and connecting with the community. But i mention this only that i made a lot of really good friends this way. And not everything is play... movies, dinner out also.
Good luck!!!
Tempest's pet
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