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For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 12:11:55 PM

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Okay ppl's i know yer out there and that i'm not the Only one.

For those of us who despise eating. Arg! Say it with me phooey!!

See now, i find it difficult to be around those who like eating who can make me eat. Which of course is only like one person.. so for most of the time i'm good. Tho there are those times.. when its time to eat. Aaaaaaaaah. Its a struggle. Mys onnnnly thought when it comes to eating is "how can i get out of it" Doh! Which of course usually ends me up with a big plate or bowl, or generally more food to eat. So far i've eaten double what i would have to eat, if i had jist shadduped and eaten.

Those who dun like food - how do you cope????? Whatcha do n i've tried it all. Feeding it to the dog <grins>, hiding the food, not being able to place an order, offering to eat something low key like a banana, saying i've already eaten and of course the tried but always fails - saying i'm not hungry. DUN work. AAAAAAAAAAAH

Its silly, i knows. Generally i end up feeling like a petulant, spoiled child whining about not being hungry. Which sucks even more. No win situation!! Course i could just eat, right.. but then like thats no good.

i knows i knows. Its silly, retarded, stupid and well retarded again. Cant help it. i HATE it.

So, anyone else want to like share any sort of struggle on this to make ME feel better?

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RE: For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 12:14:52 PM

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For you I'd simply tell you to remind yourself that you need to be a good example to your daughter and show her what healthy eating habits are.

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RE: For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 12:23:50 PM

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Just eat small portions.
But eat good things like vegetables, fish, chicken etc.
And yes, like L.A. said set a good example for your daughter.

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RE: For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 12:59:38 PM

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Hello Devilslilsister,

I'm also not a great *eater*.....I do actually like food but don't seem to get as hungry as other people do. I can go for stupid amounts of time not eating and sometimes eat soley out of necessity...ie...I can't workout in a gym effectively if I'm half-starved....lol

I really would dislike like being *forced* to eat and thankfully that doesn't happen.........I seem to be ravenous when my Master's around but even then I am full quite quickly on a relatively small amount. Sometimes I like the IDEA of eating and really WANT to, but when I get the food in front of me, a few bites and the interest just disappears. It's almost like * Well, what was THAT all about!*.

I don't worry about it too much, the two sprogs left at home don't have a great interest in food either.

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RE: For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 1:22:02 PM

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I like some of the ideas - eat small portions. And eat things you like. If you have trouble eating, I think it's more important to eat anything than to worry about what you are eating specifically. Gradually increase your potions or just eat more smaller amounts throughout the day. You don't want to get in a situation where you are battling with yourself over food. Like LA said, be a good example, sit down and eat with your daughter, make it a pleasant time you spend together.

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RE: For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 1:43:35 PM

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Being a diabetic the last 6 years, I've found that I consider food as 'medicine', until recently, that is. (Yes, I do consider myself an authority regarding food.) Even before I was diagnosed, I loved to cook, and lately I've missed that. So I'm getting back into cooking, only a little differently. I cook for the pleasure of taste, rather than quantity.

What with our society's obsession with 'economy' sized portions and costs, it's insane that the amounts of food that I see people eat. Many of those portions would provide nutrition for three people, rather than one, for the most part. As a diabetic, I have to work with my dietition to work out the appropriate amounts of food I must eat to battle the restraunt portions that seem to show up at home. :)

So, here's my advice. "My doctor has said that this is an appropriate portion for me." If you're uncomfortable with the fib, talk to a doctor, ask for a referral to a dietition, and talk with the dietition and ask THEM about food portions.

I'm sure they'll tell you that your body knows what it needs, don't bolt down food in less than 30 minutes, and find out what flavors or medly of flavors you enjoy. Remember when you were often told to 'chew'? Fear of choking was only part of it, the other part of it was 'enjoy and give your body time to tell you it's full'. It'll take your body about 20 minutes to tell you that it's full and has had enough, btw. :)

So, take a half an hour to 45 minutes to enjoy your small serving. ;)

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RE: For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 1:52:30 PM

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Maybe if you only allow yourself a pepsi after eating two things from the pyramid of food groups?

That's the only way i got myself to drink the right amount of water when i was pregnant... NO coffee until i had done my water intake. (nearly killed me, but i guess the babies were happier)

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RE: For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 2:45:18 PM

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Hmm, a here's a question that no one's aksed so far. How often and how much do you normally eat? No one should force you to eat things you don't want to (well okay, unless they're your Dom and you've agreed to letting them control your eating habits), however eating is one of those necessities of life. Like breathing, it's something we have to do to live. You certainly don't have to eat as much as other people do. You just eat what's right for you and your own body. What others have said regarding portions is true. Small portions are generally recommended. We do live in a "super-sized" world so we're surrounded by all sorts of temptation to eat bigger and eat more.

I actually struggle with the opposite problem that you have. I eat too much. This is just an unhealthy as eating too little. I have trouble controlling portions and I tend to like to eat out a lot. So, for someone to force me to eat LESS is similar to somone forcing you to eat MORE. However, if you aren't eating enough or aren't eating the right foods, it's a similar problem to eating too much and still not eating the right foods. I'd welcome someone who was willing to work with me and help me with my problem. I don't smoke or do drugs and I rarely drink, so eating tends to be my vice. It tends to be what I do when I'm bored and/or depressed.

What you should do is explore WHY you have these feelings, why you just don't want to eat IF you're not eating enough.

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RE: For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 2:55:02 PM

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I'm totally with you on this one. It's not that i don't like eating its just well for one i'm never hungry and two i cant eat in front of other people. This means restaurants, cafes, picnics etc are all out for me. The thought of someone watching me eat makes me feel sick, get sweaty and brings on absolute panic.
My Sir is trying to get me to eat healthily and three times a day but its so easy with Him not here to just not bother. I eat maybe once a day or every other day.
Suggestions of eating little amounts regularly - i so wish it was as simple as that. Eating healthily - yeah i do but i guess with the little food i intake it does me little good.
To say eat healthily as a good example to your child - again if only it was that simple. My daughter eats 3 meals a day and healthy meals. My eating habits have no effect on her whatsoever.
Will power - no coffee until ive eaten what i should in a day. Not gonna happen.
I'm not sure what will help with bad eating habits, especially a dislike of eating. Its certainly not really medically accepted as things like bulimia and anorexia are.

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RE: For the Non Eaters - 8/6/2006 3:07:48 PM

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You know my husband has this issue, he dislikes eating because of the sounds of chewing noises both from himself and other people... I personaly think he's a little crazy, but some people do make really gross noises when they eat, he is far beyond that issue though...

anyways this seem like you perhaps have an unhealthy concept of food, have you ever considered perhaps talking to a therapist about it. I'm not saying you're crazy, or that thier is anything wrong with you, just have you ever considered that thier is some issue here perhaps you need to address, and sometimes it's good to have a neutral person thier to guide you through it.

Now I do agree with the above person who stated that as Americans we do have kind of odd ideas about what we need to eat and how much we need to eat. Some people can exist quite well on one small meal a day, other people need 3. We do have a mentality that you have to have very large proportions, and eat alot of XYZ. I have had alot of this demystified for me by the fact that I no longer consume meat (and I am not preaching the values of it here, but we are a very meat centered society). Moveing away from the idea that I need protein constantly shoved down my throat *pauses for bad jokes* made me realise that I really had an unhealthy idea of how much and what I need to eat. Now if I could just give up on fatty fast food tacos! haha :D

Anyways good luck for your quest to figure out what's right for you here. The reality is you need to eat something. Your body needs fule to run, perhaps you should at least experiment with proprtions, and consider takeing some good food supliments like a multi-vitamin, and/or some herbal supliments to compensate for the lack of fiber and other such things you wouldn't be getting by refuseing to eat much. It never hurts to err on the side of healthy after all.

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