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SherriA -> RE: Attend a munch alone? (4/15/2004 8:44:47 PM)
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I can't speak for your local munch, but ALL the munches I've been to are very welcoming to new people, whether they're single or partnered. As for how to conduct yourself, just be polite and friendly as you would in any other social situation. There should be no pressure to share anything you don't want to, and you're always welcome to just listen (or join in the conversations if you want to).
Here's the FAQ for my munch, which might have some helpful information in it:
Frequently Asked Questions
What is a munch?
A munch is a gathering of people involved in or interested in bdsm (bondage &
discipline, dominance & submission, sadomasochism) and related pursuits.
They're generally held in public places like a restaurant or food court. Its a
no pressure way of meeting like minded people in a casual, relaxed atmosphere
without the pressure of roles, party etiquette, etc.
Is it like a play party?
Our munches are NOT play events. We hold them in a family restaurant, and
expect people attending to act accordingly. However, once people get to know
you, they might invite you to the next play party. Isn't that reason enough to
show up?
What should I wear?
Wear whatever you'd normally wear when you go out to eat at a casual restaurant.
This isn't the place to display your latest fetishwear. Some people at the
munch will need to be reasonably discreet about their interests and we try to
accomodate that.
Who comes to a munch? Can I come by myself?
The munch is populated by a wide variety of kinky folk. We're the people your
mother warned you about! No, not really. We're interested and active in BDSM.
We are people with many years of experience, people just starting out, and
everything in between. We are men and women, tops and bottoms and switches,
doms and subs, masters and slaves, and just about everything else you can think
of. We are het, gay, bi, straight, trangsendered, and everything in between.
We're the people who live next door to you, who do the things others are afraid
to dream about. We are not an organized leather educational/support group. We
don't have a hierarchy, or a power structure. We are not a politically active
organization. We range in age from early twenties to ...um..."well seasoned".
People are more than welcome to come by themselves. Some people at the munch
will be single, others will be partnered. There's no requirement to be in a
relationship of any sort.
Will you help me find a partner?
We're not a dating service, and we don't do match making. While its possible
that you may meet a potential play partner at a munch, that's not the primary
purpose. The best suggestion is to come and get to know people, and see where
it leads. Perhaps the dom of your dreams will be sitting across the table from
you, but don't count on it. It never hurts, though, to let people know you're
available and looking. Perhaps they can introduce you to a friend who might
turn out to be your ideal slave. You never know.
What do I do once I'm there?
Eat, drink, and be merry. Seriously, find a place to sit, and introduce
yourself to the people around you. Ask for the host and s/he should be happy to
introduce you to people as well. Feel free to join in the conversation. Talk
as much or as little as you feel comfortable. The munch is a "dutch treat"
affair, so get the waitress's attention and order whatever you like from the
menu. We all pay for our own meals/drinks.
Hope that helps. :)
-- Sherri
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