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LeatherLord2003 -> Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 2:52:30 PM)

I know not everyone has the ability or means to do this, but I would like to know: Being a slave/submissive, if you were to have a part in making the collar and restraints that were to be used on you, would it make you feel any different about them while wearing them? Would it increase/decrease the intensity for you?



Littlepita -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 3:51:32 PM)

Well I don't have any desire to actually make them. I have pointed in a book and said I want those. :)

I also have been a part of us picking out and designing what will be my permanent collar. I know the Dom has the right to decide, but I am fortunate to have one that wants me happy with choice. Now I just have to get it around my neck.



KnightofMists -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 4:15:41 PM)

my girls have each made several of their floggers.  I have made a few myself as well as the restraints, furniture etc.  I think something that is personally made is going to have a great effect on the emotional connection within the scene.  However, such connection is usually short lived unless one makes the effort to ritualize the particular item in question.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 4:34:04 PM)

It would be nice, but nothing I'm driven to do.  I'd enjoy a flogger we bought together as a birthday present or something just as much as something we made.



Slipstreme -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 4:34:08 PM)

I make all my stuff. As a masochist, I have found that those implements that bring me the most amount of pain, the ones that have drawn my or z's blood I am most proud of. These are loved and treasured, almost as if they are pets. Unfortunately, being that I make my own toys, and scene with multiple people who I also Top, I am not able to go as far as I can with them, because most of the toys are meant for me and my slave to which I am fluid bound. She is the only person who has been able to really taste my sadism. But there is such a sense of pride in them knowing that what I made did what it did, to me, or to her. Under Ed, she has made the cat of nine she was punished with (my idea, when talking about it to him). There is a certain psychological rush when you are beaten with your own creations. I do not know what mentally happens being punished with the implement you made, because I am not punished in my dynamic. I could have her post her views on this here.

I want to make the collar I will put around z's neck. There is something I find a bit more powerful knowing the collar she has I made.



sophia37 -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 4:42:41 PM)

At this point theres probably a Mcalls pattern for BDSM toys at your local Joann Fabrics store. I suggest you start there. 



littleone35 -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 5:26:31 PM)

I am not that creatitive and Master just does not have the time.  I did however have a say in my play collar.  Master gave me a choice of 2 and asked me 2 times before he purchased my choice are you sure this is the one you want.  So even though we did not make it i am thrilled with it.

Matt's littleone



DanielsHeart -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 6:00:05 PM)

i made the first flogger He used on me.  i also made the paddle that happens to be my favorite.  i think they both mean a lot to me because they were something made at the beginning of our relationship and i worked on them as he instructed me how.

Daniel's heart



bluelace001 -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 7:20:10 PM)

Hello Leatherlord,

Master is a leathercraftsman. He makes all his own toys , collars, cuffs, ect , ect, ect. He does allow me to help and help design and yes it does make me feel different toward them. It is something special in that he allowed me to have some sort of imput or workmanship in it. I tend to have a stronger connection with said toy or restraint, i also talk a lot more pride then i probably should in the items. Having my collar crafted by Masters hands makes that collar mean more then if he had bought it. That he allows me any imput lets me also know he wants me to like it as well.(not that it matters since he's the boss, but it's nice to be considered).
sincerely,
bluelace_V
(property of Viper_001)



lilsubl -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 7:30:06 PM)

Master told me to come up with a collar that had significance for me...i finally decided on a heart-shaped padlock as a symbol of my love for Him & His ownership of me...W/we agreed on the one that i finally bought, after looking at many online...then, W/we looked at examples of collars for the padlock to hold, He chose what He wanted me to wear & told me that He wanted me to make it, rather than just order it...because W/we were together in the choosing of the design & the symbolism & because He wishes me to make the actual collar, it means so much more to me than if He had simply presented me with one He had bought...
a sub friend told me that if i made the collar, that i would then be collared to myself, but i see the collar as a symbol, the outward reminder of my status & the fact that He was involved in the design, i feel collared to Him completely...



KazeNoKitsune -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 7:31:33 PM)

I would love to be able to make or help out with my collar and restraints, but I don't think I have the patience to do so.  As to how it would make me feel, I think that they would be very prized and would have almost an energy of their own.



PrincessGirlie -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 7:34:53 PM)

I love to create things....not just lifestyle toys...  But the pride of making something for my Dom .... it makes me happy to serve this way....  but it also made me happy to make a nice pair of curtains for his boat.  This is the past becaue I am not collared now...  My first pair of restraints were made by me as a gift to him.  Even when I got a brand spankin new pair as a gift from girl I helped him to train.... he prefered the ones I made.  And since he did.... well I did, too.   I still have them and they are still special to me.

Girlie



slavejali -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 8:42:00 PM)

Master had me make my own wrist and ankle cuffs, also a flogger and he had me sand a cane. I loved the whole process. He was going to get me to cover some paddles he made but he broke them on my ass before that was done lol.I think it does make a difference when you've had a hand in the things that are used on you.



Hercuckslave -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/8/2006 11:39:38 PM)

i am a professional maker of custom furniture (mostly 'nilla high end stuff, but I do d/s stuff for fun, for our local dungeon, and for ourselves).  i also make most of our toys.  for me, there is a different energy in things that I've made, over things that we've purchases.  i can't exactly put my finger on it, but there just is a different energy.  plus its a HELL of a lot cheaper.  lol   I've got a great memory and when we see something that we like, i take a mental picture of it and go and make it myself. 

M's m



ownedgirlie -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/9/2006 12:50:46 AM)

I just made my first flogger which he will use on me.  I had that in mind while creating it and it made me feel quiet and peaceful.  Plans to use it are for this weekend, so I'll let you know. ;)

And if anyone wants to give tips to a novice on creating a better handle, I'd welcome any advice - here or on email.



Feminita -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/9/2006 2:20:46 PM)

Any pet shop provides a nice selection of (leather/chain) collars, a riding-tackle shop offers many restraints and floggers/spanking devices; any handi-man (I married one) can construct paddles, restraining tables or crosses custom-made and better than those purchased via inter-net.....of course, if  you don't have your "own" handi-man perhaps you can trade "services" for what you desire



LeatherLord2003 -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/9/2006 3:18:42 PM)

Thanks for the replies it is nice to see so many perspectives from a variety of people. I have been putting off making new restraints and a collar because I thought it would be somewhat in line of a sub/slave going to get the leather strap that was going to be used on her and holding it out for me to take, basically another form of submission that might make it mean more to her. I love the mental aspect of this lifestyle and try and use every opportunity to caress the mind.



pipuncollared -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/9/2006 5:00:53 PM)

I made both my first cat-O-nine as well my first collar. I absolutely love working with my hands and moderately good with leather, wood, and metal. I'm saving up to get a welder so I can do some real pieces. And yes the work I do is special. Whenever you find you're worried about making something "just right", it represents the desires that went into it's creation. Plus, in the end you save a fortune. [:D] My personal favorite site is Sartans leather workshop http://www.saroftreve.com/wwl/index.htm



boytoy4female -> RE: Helping to make your own restraints and collar... (8/11/2006 6:11:48 PM)

Most definately! It can't get much more submissive than making the ties that bind yourself. It isn't hard either. Anyone can take a broom handle, drill 2 holes in it and attach some rope.



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