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LadyHugs -> RE: What to do when protocol is breached by another Master... (8/9/2006 8:43:25 PM)
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Dear DsCoupleOhio, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my mind's eye--Trust is earned. In reading what was posted, I am aware that things race through your mind and emotions are running a bit rapid.
We're all reading a cascade of events that happened and the end result is indeed a mess.
Others have made wonderful comments in regard to using the mind of a slave through hypnosis. So, I will by-pass that element somewhat.
What jumps out into my mind's eye, is that things went on at a rather fast time frame. In addition, sex has been the entire theme of the encounters. Having Mr. Dick over, a new Master -- It really was 'striking' that sex was the whole premise of any interactions with your 'clan' and Jane and Dick. And, I am seeing that Mr. Dick had sex on his mind from the start and would do anything, to get "slave sex." Much like 'sex on demand' and or "have it your way, like Burger King."
Perhaps I am an old fuddy duddy however, possession of a slave may be an ownership but, not always a master make. So many have come into the lifestyle, under the guise of M/s or D/s and really has been all about kinky sex. So, in my old fashioned mind, sex is a privilege--not a 'right' and or 'expectation.' So, it is much like giving the sack of gold per se to the visitor of two prior occassions--hardly enough time to establish trust in my mind's eye. And, wouldn't even consider such individuals to have sexual liberties so early on in the interactions, regardless if Ms. Jane was a friend since the days she was in kindergarden with Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden's classroom.
Another thing that jumped out in my mind's eye--communication was lacking, as it was stated in the post; "...We all decided to take a dip in the pool after dinner and things began to get frisky. I made it clear that I had not yet even played with my girl and to be gentile with the playing. Dick seemed to understand that and backed away going back to Jane who was obviously offended by his actions..." All I could see is the I haven't driven this car yet, so when you drive it--be gentle with it. In a way, your words offered the suggestion to go play but be gentle. So, like any horny male--he did. In addition, you should have noticed Ms. Jane offended--it was obvious. So, it would have been most kind of you to remove any temptations as to cause further offense. Because there was an assumption of "understanding" that his backing away, as to let you play a bit with the girl--he can come after you, to which some can take that as you could tweek a nipple and that was play, when done-it was his turn--ravishing her radishes.
Might not been the intent however, the effect is what I see happen with an assumptions as it wasn't clearly established, by saying-- "Mr. Dick--she is sexually off limits to you period until I clear it and will say so clearly." And then have them orally acknowledge. Keeps assumptions to a lower level and if the behavior of Mr. Dick was done as posted, then you know you have been 'offended' with justification.
However, with the words used--it had dual meaning and it wasn't clear as to the 'intent.' So, I do understand why Mr. Dick made the assumption as he was sexually geared throughout your whole interactions.
In addition, I am not pleased reading that the command was to get rest. Now, rest in my mind's eye is not having sex but--sleep, as in sawing wood with a lot of snags. But, your protocols are yours so, I don't know if it holds the same value as mine.
In summary, it is very important to choose words, as to hold weight and value as to it's meaning and intent. Being vague as to fall to either side in it's meaning, is unfair. Allowing words to allow assumptions which behavior towards the lad is allowed and the lass was under the same standard, invites issues. So, somebody can come later and go either way-pro or con, after the fact. Being the lass was new, even more clear the commands must be. That would be rest means rest and nobody, is to counter that command but the house dominants--not the guests. Guests should also have the attitude and behavior that invitation does not mean free license to disrespect you, your house and or your possessions be it slave or your fine china. Some individuals think being a master/mistress is a license to be rude in other's homes and not act as guests. So, perhaps guests should learn that coming to your home does not mean--immediate sex toys for use and abuse.
Only you can decide how your "house" reputation will be seen. But, for me, I wish my guests to get to know me and my slaves as human beings first, before they have any sensual contacts with them and then months down the road, would any sexual interactions be considered. Again--trust is earned. Respect is earned. Being on my guest list is earned.
Respectfully submitted for consideration with a tad of wit,
Lady Hugs
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