From: Davis, Ca
i've read this thread with interest and have to say something.
as a young person who came to BDSM after the introduction of the internet, and got most of her information, at first, through the internet, i am upset by those who say that the internet is a wholely bad thing for so-called "alternative lifestyles."
i've had what i describe as "submissive tendancies" toward sexual experience my entired life. we're talking the pre-barbie phase here. because i could find people on the internet who had similar proclivities, i was able to find my kinks early, instead of having to struggle with my competing vanilla identity and "alternative" identity.
yeah, i did my share of cybesexing with losers, but i also met honest-to-god people who were able to guide me, and teach me. i tried my hand at online dominantion, sure, because when your a junior in high school in a conservative town living with your parnents and without a car, meeting people that don't attend your high school can be a bit difficult.
i get tired of people telling me that the internet has ruined The Lifestyle, becuase as i see it, it's opened it -up- to people.
i grant you that the internet has probably changed things a lot. i wouldn't know, i wasn't around before it.and i can definatly see how it has removed BDSM from the realm of a clan of people all doing something one way, with certain protocals. frankly, though, in my opinion this isn't a bad thing.
i would relate this to the GLBT movement. the internet has allowed young people to see that there ARE other gay, transgendered, bisexual people out there, at a much younger age than they were previously able to. it has allowed young queer people to make contacts and, i think, helped many to avoid hiding themselves in a heterosexual lifestyle for years, at the detriment of themselves and their families. i feel the same has been done for alternative types of sexuality.
um. yeah. again, sorry this is long, but i get personally hurt when people blame the internet for ruining their life. i'm invovled -now- because of the internet, and because it allowed me to see that other people were interested too. bascially.