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raiken -> During a scene... (8/9/2006 1:36:49 PM)
Or a play session, do you find it to be more of a comfort, or more of a distraction when you are playing/scening with someone other than your sig other, and your sig other is present in the room and watching? Does it cause you to do, or experience things with a bit more reserve than you would if your sig other was NOT present? One of my friends told me she felt guilty to allow herself to go to the place she wished, because her Dom was watching and he was less experienced in that certain area of play. Her Dom is the one who set the whole thing up though. This got me to wondering if others have experienced this on either side of the whip, so i decided to simply ask! *smile

sub4hire -> RE: During a scene... (8/9/2006 1:38:37 PM)
We rarely play with other's. Though when we do it is more of a distraction. I cannot stop myself from thinking and looking at Doug to see his reaction. Which is why I am more than happy not to play with the world..and carefully choose who we do play with.

KennelDeSade2 -> RE: During a scene... (8/9/2006 1:58:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: raiken This got me to wondering if others have experienced this on either side of the whip, so i decided to simply ask! *smile Ah yes. The dread "phrase of doom." Often spoken in a moment of diminished mental capacity, by a submissive in just that situation. The words that will make it a set in stone given fact that never again will that Dom be allowed to subject her to that level of intensity. "Dear god, I've never felt that before. Can you teach my Master how to do that?!?!" And you know, it's never more than two heartbeats before they realize they just made a big mistake.

onestandingstill -> RE: During a scene... (8/9/2006 1:58:59 PM)
For me it was both. Knowing he was there was a huge comfort to me. Even if he was just in the same building and not paying attention to me at all. At the same time I was concerned about his ego being bruised by someone better than him in his mind at something or him being upset over something another Dom did with me or got out of me that didn't work that way with him. Honestly my Dom had no issues with me playing with others. He even encouraged and required me to play with others long after I voiced I wanted to be monogamous. I even then I felt we might have the potential of these open relations getting in our way. I guess as I said before I didn't feel safe without him & exposed with him there too. Suzanne

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: During a scene... (8/9/2006 2:09:01 PM)
Actually it gets me hotter and more into it. It's got all that voyeur/exhibitionist/humliation/objectification stuff slamming right into me. Guilt is so often wasted energy based on insecurity. I hope they talked about it and he helped her get over her silly guilt.

raiken -> RE: During a scene... (8/9/2006 2:26:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KennelDeSade2 Ah yes. The dread "phrase of doom." Often spoken in a moment of diminished mental capacity, by a submissive in just that situation. The words that will make it a set in stone given fact that never again will that Dom be allowed to subject her to that level of intensity. "Dear god, I've never felt that before. Can you teach my Master how to do that?!?!" And you know, it's never more than two heartbeats before they realize they just made a big mistake. i know an M/s couple who broke up over this very situation. To add to this, i think i have experienced everything the others have shared as well at one time or another to some degree. Now i am more or less akin to the way LA has expressed. Being older and wiser, i am going to enjoy the one who takes me to my zone, and it really doesn't matter anymore who is present. However, depending on the people, there is a level of comfort knowing that if i am playing with someone less familiar, no matter how experienced others say they are, that there is someone around who actually cares about my wellfare.

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