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depresion - 8/10/2006 12:34:54 PM

dorsaisgirl1

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i have suffered with depresion all my life and have been in and out of the hospital since i was thirteen.its just something i feel constantly at some level or another .daddy always trys to get me to discuss my depresion with him but i feel it bothers him that he cant make it go away like he thinks that if i am happy with him i should not feel this way i have tryed to explain that i am very happy with him but still feel depresed.does anyone else here have a similer problem ither with being the one who is depressed or the master lover dom or daddy of one who is going through depression. how does it effect the master slave dom sub daddy lil girl what ever the dynamic you have relationship

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RE: depresion - 8/10/2006 1:00:57 PM

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Hello dear,

Depression is a hard thing to deal with in the best of cases. Even worse when things are less than perfect. Its not an easy thing to live with, and its not easy to discuss. My advice would be to make sure that your Daddy understands that your depression has nothing to do with Him, or what He does to or for you. It is completely independant of that.

i had to explain my depression to my Master, and i told Him that i envision a little man in a deep pit. The little man wants to come out of the pit, but to do so, He needs my help. On good days, the little man climbs almost to the top of the pit, sometimes even managaing to ease a bit out of it, on bad days, He's at the bottom, struggling to find a foothold.

Granted, i don't know the specifics of your situation, but when i fall into my pit, i do things that make me happy to pull me out as quickly as possible. My Master takes me shopping, buys books or cross stitch patterns, just little things to make me happy, and it pulls me out that much quicker, and He feels like He is lessing my depression. So it is a good thing all around.

Having said all that... i realized i didn't specify. i have bi-polar disorder (yay for me, i'm off meds and stable). i only cycle about twice a year, so life is good for me most of the time. i'm a lucky girl.

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RE: depresion - 8/10/2006 1:08:33 PM

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I think this thread belongs in "Ask a Submissive" forum, because it certainly isn't random stupidity!

I have suffered from depression in the past, actually I was only able to overcome it in the last 18 months or so. I am not chronically depressed like you are though, which is a completely different type of depression. There is situational depression, acute depression (like mine), and those who are chronically (they are somewhat depressed all the time, like you). I had a different strategy then would probably work for you. I have had phobias and a level of PTSD since I was a teenager that I have overcome also, without drugs. I used exercise and nutrition to overcome some of the physical symptoms of this problem. As you know, depression is a physical problem, it is not just a mood disorder. It can make you tired and sore.

I resisted using drugs, and would encourage diet changes, weight loss, and exercise if you are able to do that.. But if that wouldn't work then perhaps medications may help you?

I have not been involved with a dom in real time when I was suffering from this illness. I do not know how it would affect my relationship if I relapsed into a depression. I fear this some days when I am tired or feel a little down (all of us have bad days after all, but they shouldn't become bad months or bad years either). I think he would help me as long as I took responsibility and tried to help myself, and since I do not believe in quitting or giving up that would probably be the case.

This is the hard part to remember, I realize this because my depression at times impacted those I lived with and love the most.. just because I feel like shit gives me no right to treat others poorly or make their lives less fulfilling or happy...

Just some thoughts from my own experience.. if you found nothing helpful here then leave it, but I hope you did...

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RE: depresion - 8/10/2006 1:18:58 PM

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thank you to you both . i have been on meds befor but they have not helped i have good days sometimes but for the most part i have grown acustumed to feeling this way i appreseate your posts

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RE: depresion - 8/10/2006 4:14:36 PM

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it sounds like perhaps you've got some manic-depressive phases, not all medicines will work for you, you just have to keep trying them until you find one or two that work.

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RE: depresion - 8/11/2006 10:04:40 AM

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thanks to everyone who wrote i was interested in how others with depresion had dealt with how it effected there relationships.

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RE: depresion - 8/11/2006 10:43:13 AM

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I have dealt with it off and on and after Rita I probally hit the worst and longest depression I have ever dealt with. But they called that post tramtic stress sydrome or something like that......I just know it had all the same effects.....Nothing was good for me I didnt eat I didnt sleep I didnt let any one in ... I immersed myself into an online game I loved ... it let me not be me for awhile...and it was the thing that finally made me come back out a little ... then I passed from that to studying something I really liked and became very knowledgeable... Happy to say tho now a year later I feel I am better person and a bit more educated in a few things. Not that this is a garunteed cure but how I worked through this without meds ... Oh and I used alof of scents the last few months combination of vanilla lilac lavendar and sandlewood

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