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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/16/2006 4:14:14 PM

SirDarkside357

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Hi LadyHugs,

I enjoy your post, most of them, sometimes you are just "too" nice in my opinion. LOL.

You may have noticed in my first post I didn't say that I agreed with any of those reasons, why, cause I don't chase anyone. In the DSF we have a few basic rules....one is that we do not disrespect anothers way...if that way is something that is totally against what we believe, we just stay away from them and let them live their life in peace. I don't ask folks to agree with my way, it's just the way I am, like it or not.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/17/2006 12:44:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: mons

greeting to all

i has a simple question this is it why do master chase dommes. maybe i am giving off a scent or maybe my writing back is to nice or do i need to be hard. but why do some master and or doms chase me, i am proud to be a domme and i am a very good one i am sure it is just a man thing to see if they can change my mind on who and what i am or hey i am just fun but someone please answer this for me oh yes no i do no think i am better then anyother person her on the cm boards i am nice to everyone i gave and get respect so tell me anyone?

(i am dyslexic so excuse my writing i am doing much better) but i do have one i do adore

Some dom/mes have the need/want/desire to have a dom/me of their own (don't even start on the who posesses who topic from the wording ;-). More power to them. It's not my gig but as long as they happy who gives a rip.

As for those that don't take a good solid hint. Kick em.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/30/2006 2:54:24 AM

mons

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greetings
i want to thank everyone who wrote i found so many different ideal of why this happens i see now it is not the true master and doms, i had one male dom tell me i must have another woman and i must and will liosten to him i was shocked this is why i had wrote the letter this has happen manytime even though my rpofile say i am a dominant woman

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/30/2006 6:48:35 AM

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I have to say, this has definately been an interesting topic. My thoughts and words are not aimed at anyone in particular, just randomness from reading this, so I hope no one takes offense and if you do, oh well.
I started out in this lifestyle as a submissive, I was new, knew zip, didn't even know what the name of this stuff we were doing was. I learned alot, hated a lot, loved alot of every part of that experience. I learned alot about myself without the aid of the internet *gasp* I do get letters sometimes from dominant men and women too who seem to be of the mind that since I tried out being submissive that that means I am a sub at heart. EEEEEEEEE wrong answer. I'm not. I tried it, found it wasn't for me and moved on. I'm more a sadist than a domme, but I do like the control I have as a dominant female with a submissive regardless of whether it's a male or female.
I think that some of us spent time in the beginning trying out different hats so to speak until we found the niche that made us stand up and go Hmmmmmmm that's for me.
I'm masochistic and I love playing with a strong dominant male. I have issues with female dominants and prefer not to play with them. I don't feel submissive toward either sex, I just get my jollies on pain.
I will admit too that having a strong male dominant come to me wanting punishment or play is a turn on. Why wouldn't it be?? He came to me, I didn't hunt him down. In some cases I think people get confused over what it is they want, they may be dominant but get turned on by masochistic behavior. Being a masochist doesn't automatically equal submissive.
There are so many options out there that it boggles my mind when people don't at least attempt to try new things out. Natural dominants, natural submissives, natural sadists, natural masochists....whatever. Given the opportunity to try something new and be open minded about it just ups you in my opinion. There's a thrill to seeing a dominant on their knees...just call me strange I guess for liking it.
I'm not a closet sub, I'm not looking for a dominant man to show me my inner sub. I've seen her, lived as her and found her not to my liking. It was fun and interesting at times, but in reality when I was forced to say "Sir, Ma'am" I really wanted to gag and say "Screw you".
Why not try something new? If you find someone that tickles your tender spot and gives you the notion to try out something you've never done (such as crawl across the floor) why not give into the urge? It doesn't make you less, in my opinion it makes you more.
Just my thoughts.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/30/2006 7:06:50 AM

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There are young Ladys I meet who I find attractive but who I find identify as Domme... guess what, no matter how attractive I find them, we are not likely to be compatable. Enjoy their company but move on, look elsewhere.

IF and it is a big if, if they come to ME and say they are finding that I am drawing a submissive responce from them, THEN maybe time to re-evaluate. But otherwise, you take them at face value. I say what I mean and mean what I say. I expect them to be doing likewise.

Unless they are self-labeling as sub/slave or switch then they ain't going to get an intro mail and all I maybe look for is someone to chat too as a friend.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/30/2006 8:15:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Here's an atypically male answer (from, well, you know).

Perhaps it is because they want to encounter the force of a woman, but certainly not just any woman, that could bring them to their needs.

They are foolishly attempting reverse psychology. Foolish only because our men-are-assholes radar (of which I generally share) are taking them at face value.

Just a thought.

Jeff

I think you have it right about wanting to give it up to the Force of a Woman.
I know this as many Doms have said exactly that to Me.

I can appreciate a nice comment from a Dom,have had many write just really to say Hi and say what a cool Dungeon I have.Sometimes it comes across as a pick up line,lol, I just politely write back no thank you.

And then there are the ones in the other catagory....the Arsehole catagory.Who think they can Dom anyone.They get a much sterner not so polite No thank you.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/30/2006 8:25:21 AM

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I get 'hit on' by a Dom at least once a party. I think it's because I'm small and quiet...and my husband/slave is more out going than I am...Most Dom's once they figure out who is wearing the collar don't make the mistake again. I've even had a few apologize for thinking my husband was the Dom...most have confessed assumption based on sex...IE the male is normally the Dom...

What really annoys me is the ones that KNOW I'm a Domme and persist. My favorite was the one that tried to stare me down at the last party. He held onto my hand and even after I introduced my husband and my other sub that was with me that night he still tried to get me to sub for him claiming he had seen another mutual friend do fire play on me once...didn't I want to submit for him too? I reminded him that there was no submission to the friend...no collar, no cuffs and I was just the bottom for the demonstration...a demonstration being done for my husband who is a not so closet case pyro...figured if he was going to learn might as well learn to do it right...

But the ones that are really persistent I usually smile and tell them they must be confused they really want to submit to ME and to go get my toy bag bitch. The other answer is I tell them I’ll submit to them right after they get off the cross for me…and that I’m a sadistic PMS’ing bitch that will play to blood. That normally has them running for the hills…something about PMS will scare the most Dommly of men…

But the Doms that are confident in their position normally treat me as an equal. I don’t think all men are submissive and they don’t think all Dommes are. I think it’s a matter of confidence. The insecure ones are the ones trying to top what they can’t have.

As for Domme’s being attracted to male Dom’s…I think there are levels of submission. My husband is a very dominate male in work and most of his vanilla life. He’s independent and confident and not at all submissive. And I love him that way. But when it comes to the house, sex and our play, I’m the boss…and there are no doubts about it. He qualifies it as “I am a slave to my wife”. Which explains our relationship to most people and also explains he’s not just anyone’s meat. My other sub is the same way. I guess I’m attracted to independent, intelligent, confident men…but I still want my own way! Mistress Taboo

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RE: master chasing dommes - 9/2/2006 7:00:32 AM

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hi all.Not quite on the same tac but def related.
i often recieve mail from sub guys,informing me that i cannot possibly be a submissive only woman.That all i need to fullfill my life is a submissive guy.That all of us are switches,and i should not deny myself the pleasure of being Domme to them! smiles gently,replies very firmly..sorry but this wench has no Domme aspirations at all ..lol.
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RE: master chasing dommes - 9/3/2006 10:14:25 AM

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Dear Sir Darkside357, Ladies and Gentlemen;

You wrote;

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ORIGINAL: SirDarkside357

Hi LadyHugs,

I enjoy your post, most of them, sometimes you are just "too" nice in my opinion. LOL.

I do thank you for such a sweet post. I do enjoy being nice and can afford being to nice. I have just as much creative sadism in me to counter the 'being to nice' part at times but, just not enough victims to deploy them on willingly (if you know what I mean) and, it doesn't always have to be physical sadism either. [Big grins]

Usually, the masters who chase me just want me for my toys. You can tell that is true when you shove the cart of toys forward, I stand and the masters whiz by in male dominant sneakers in a blur. The trick is, let them chase the cart of cheap toys and sneak in the good stuff in while they aren't watching. [Big grins]

Respectfully submitted with a LOT of humor,
Lady Hugs

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