CreativeDominant
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ORIGINAL: zenofeller albatross said something to the effect of how squeamish bdsm folks are when it comes to real (normal ? common ? anachronic ? whatever) sex, and that's something i noticed myself. i always explained it as a manifest inferiority complex. so, do you think bdsm has an inferiority complex with respect to vanilla ? only sex or other things too ? or not at all ? do you agree some squeamishness exists, but it's explained otherwise ? do you not agree it exists at all ? and any comments about my cock you wish to share. My ex "outed" me to her lawyer during the divorce (she outed me to others also but that's a whole different story). This led to there being a lawyer who acted as "guardian ad litem" for my unmentionables. He, along with the ex's lawyer, insisted that I undergo a psycho -sexual evaluation to make sure it was "safe" for my young, vulnerable unmentionables to be around a "twisted perv" such as I had become. The evaluation was mainly, as explained to me afterwards by the psychiatrist who did it, a ways and means of exploring whether or not truly criminal images and thoughts (adult-unmentionable sex) turned me on, whether or not vanilla sex turned me off, if the only thing that aroused me was kinky sex, etc. Surprise, surprise...I turned out NOT to be a criminal who could only sport a hard-on while wielding a flogger against a hapless female and who did not reschedule my patients so that I could don my Aqualung-shabby clothes to hang out and leer and drool in the schoolyard to watch the frilly panties run while touching myself. What does "normal" mean, in my case anyway? I am a person who prefers to live in a D/s relationship, I am an honorable sadist, I like kinky flavors with my sex but every once in awhile, there's nothing wrong with a good old-fashioned vanilla lay...perhaps spiced by having the girl on top (horrors). Oddly enough....you'd be surprised at how many of my submissive partners have been more squicked over the idea of a certain type of 'vanilla' positioning (them on top) or even vanilla sex in general than I was. So...given the above, I can say that I have no problems with vanilla sex or a vanilla relationship. It is just that in the first instance, I enjoy it only occasionally and in the second instance, I've lived that and don't want to anymore. I'd rather be alone, if it came down to a choice of having to live that or live alone. I've met others that feel differently. As to the aforementioned submissive females, I never got the feeling that it was a problem with a feeling of inferiority or superiority but rather just a "squirm" over being on top of the dominant in bed.
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