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Fawne -> RE: trust and abandonment issues (8/15/2006 4:50:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: meatcleaver
If you are having a relationship based on sexual dynamics, when those dynamics change, someone is going to be dissatisfied. It seems to me at times, a lot of both subs and doms forget the relationship they entered into was based on sexual dynamics and misintepret physical intimacy with emotional intimacy. There is no use complaining about the lack of trust, honesty and integrity, when a relationship is based on something so fickle as sexual desire.
If she can't handle abandonment, she needs to develop a relationship with someone on more solid foundations than just sexual power exchange but the possibility of abandonment is always going to be there. She could consider getting even. Revenge served cold is apparently, a delightful experience.
Hmmm...
Always had some abandonment issues, along with those of learning to fully trust.
Well, thinking in the past, I should have insisted on a fully developed friendship first.
A foundation set, yet not rock solid.
Sex can cloud the picture. Has me feeling very vulnerable. Comfort, feelings of emotional safety to allow tenderness, surrender, submission are needed for a full relationship. If a gentleman didn't feel a need to push, I do believe he would have felt more content, settled, happier too.
Revenge, however served, is not my style. Bratty as one may appear - this girl really just jokes in a playful way and is among the kind hearted. I care.
I respect your answer. "Godfather-esque" as it may be. You certainly don't pull punches, meatcleaver. TY
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