RE: want to serve but am not rich.. what am i to do

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stef -> RE: want to serve but am not rich.. what am i to do (1/2/2005 11:46:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyBadger grasshopper, chop wood, carry water... [:)] Indeed! In this instant gratification world, it's a concept that few seem to understand anymore. ~stef

LadyBadger -> RE: want to serve but am not rich.. what am i to do (1/3/2005 7:19:48 PM)
to follow up on my instant reply ::smile:: it's not the expensive things in life I would look for... I would ask "how can you make my life easier?" that covers lots of little tasks around my home & in my life... such as washing my car, checking fluids... or maybe cooking a meal for me some evening... or drawing my bath... picking/hanging up my wardrobe (properly!)... cleaning the catboxes & the surrounding area... do the dishes & clean up in the kitchen... little stuff like that... on the low end financially, fill the gas tank occasionally or take the car to a carwash... treat me to my favorite manicure parlor... take me to lunch at McDonald's on the Big Mac $1-days... it's the simple, little stuff that clogs my life -- it has to be done, it takes time and I sure appreciate it when someone else can help out... [:)]

MsPurrmeow -> RE: thank You to all of You (1/7/2005 8:21:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: floridasub MizSuz :) Unfortunately that is what was meant only. i told them that i am a gourmet Chef, a professional bartender, a professional server and also am good at general cleaning etc... so i was not coming into a relationship empty handed. i also said that i would be glad to learn and do whatever else might be needed of me. if i could have i would gladly give what ever i can monetarilly or physically. That was not enough and so i was dismissed. :( Honey, you are a millionaire in the land of available male subs! She turned down a goldmine only because she couldn't see green. If you are willing to provide service simply from the professions you listed above, most any Dominant Woman I know of would love to have you at her side. Now, on the other side of this question, I'm curious as to what you asked or expected of this woman. Was it simply to allow you to do serve, or did you have a specific scneario or fantasy that you wanted played out? If you are looking for a real relationship, then money shouldn't be involved. If you are looking for a temporary playmate to scratch an itch, I can understand asking for an exchange, although I don't see where it should be money. Purr

GoddessJules -> RE: thank You to all of You (1/7/2005 8:30:50 AM)
quote: If you are looking for a real relationship, then money shouldn't be involved. If you are looking for a temporary playmate to scratch an itch, I can understand asking for an exchange, although I don't see where it should be money. I'll have to respectfully disagree here. I think it is up to the individuals involved if their "real" relationships should involve money. In my "real" relationships, the boys involved want a power exchange. Part of the exchange of power will also include money. They aren't going to pick and choose the manner and mode they submit to me. Period. I guess in your eyes, that would make it "not real". . .and that is fine and I won't lose sleep over it. I think that is "real" can only be determined by the participants in that actual relationship and not by some external peanut gallery. If this particular domina required money. . .then that is her requirements when it comes to a relationship. If you are uncomfortable or unable. . .then move on and pick another that doesn't require it. J

springrain -> RE: want to serve but am not rich.. what am i to do (1/7/2005 4:39:10 PM)
floridasub, I think that you need to wait and find someone who accepts you as a student and knows that you dont have finances available right now. I dont think that a sub needs to bring the support for a Mistress but that is me, a submissive, talking. I would probably never have accepted my collar if it had come with a financial obligation. just my thoughts, not necessarily the way it should be for everyone. hanna

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: want to serve but am not rich.. what am i to do (1/7/2005 11:00:10 PM)
Wealth is measured in many different ways. If one seeks to live-in with Me, then I have to admit it is a consideration. I do not want to end up supporting another in exchange for some time and chores. And I really do get a lot of that. But "being rich" is not a deciding factor. "Struggling and in serious debt" will be a definite factor. However, as a live-out, and sincere submissive, I look at other things. I love having things done for Me, and all those tasks such as housecleaning, yardwork, washing the car, running errands, are wonderful and more than acceptable to Me. I adore being adored and pampered, and these types of services make life so much more pleasant! I have a commercial banker coming over tomorrow to work for 5 hours in My garage. I imagine he could pay plenty, but I would rather have the garage cleaned.

sting516 -> RE: thank You to all of You (1/8/2005 5:21:02 AM)
Part of my objection to the whole idea of financial domination is this...is the person one is with dominating because they want the power or the money...also, are they with me because they want me, or the money...no one disputes that if the relationship is live in, obviously there are certain financial costs which make contributing in that way necessary...plus, who would want a freeloader...but if it was not a live in situation, demanding money in the relationship to me, comes off as begging. I'm always amazed to see how many people look at subs as their ATM machine...i've even seen this stated in profiles (i forget if that was here or on AOL)...as PT Barnum used to say there's a sucker born every minute...and i'm sure someone out there responds...but i just find it totally distasteful...unless it is a prodomme who makes no bones about being a prodomme and they are requiring tribute for services provided. My two cents are up. sting

MaitresseEden -> RE: thank You to all of You (1/8/2005 7:23:09 AM)
You could have more money than " Donald Trump" but if you won't willingly rake the leaves in the yard, or do dishes, you won't be attractive in my eyes. Yes, money talks and I supposed you could hire someone to do those chores, but then you'd run the tisk of me falling for him as it is the servitude that I find most attractive. Ms. Eden

Lynksman -> RE: thank You to all of You (1/8/2005 7:53:04 AM)
Leaf raker/dishwaser looking for work in Austin. Lynksman

MaitresseEden -> RE: thank You to all of You (1/8/2005 6:13:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynksman Leaf raker/dishwaser looking for work in Austin. Lynksman drive 3 hours east on 1-10 to houston..BYOR ( Bring your own Rake) LOL

sting516 -> RE: thank You to all of You (1/8/2005 9:11:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MaitresseEden drive 3 hours east on 1-10 to houston..BYOR ( Bring your own Rake) LOL He's a fool if he's not on his way! sting

REDsoon -> 'Dominance' as a form of begging (1/9/2005 3:21:36 PM)
I don not think Dominance is always a form of begging. There is a lot of discussion on why it's the men that usually pay here.

sting516 -> RE: 'Dominance' as a form of begging (1/9/2005 3:27:22 PM)
i agree...dominance is not always a form of begging...but in the instance i had mentioned in the earlier post, true dominance is not what we're talking about...asking for money without doing anything for it is. sting

servantnj -> RE: want to serve but am not rich.. what am i to do (1/9/2005 10:14:47 PM)
well in my, somewhat humble opinion, good present is not allways expensive one. True a nice fur coat would do a miracle to any Domme in this cold weather, but sometime take a time to see what she trully likes, and spend great amount of time trying to find that little present. And stop listening to major networks commercial and their mind-numbing adviceS. If that didnt work then she should understand that there is some difference between sugar daddy and submisive man.

floridasub -> RE: want to serve but am not rich.. what am i to do (1/9/2005 10:33:47 PM)
[:)]Thank You for all of the wonderful and educational responses to my enquiry. i am relieved that the situation i was put into is not normal or at least since i was not looking for financial domination it was not normal. A few notes i would like to add. The first is while i said i am a student, this does not mean that i am a poor man. i am not rich by any means but i make a nice living as a waiter at this time. The reason i am stating this is that when and if i find my Goddess to serve i would give the world to Her if i could. i would bring fresh flowers to Her daily. i would compose works of prose depicting the feelings of devotion that i am feeling for Her, and even love. i would cook incredible gourmet feasts for Her and all of Her friends. In short i would do whatever was in my power to do for Her. In the situation that occurred i would have contributed to Her had She asked me, but She had another slave ask me to pay for Her 100%. Now i could not have done that even if it had been Her asking but i would have, if we had gone into a relationship, helped Her as much as i could without making my financial situation go down. i feel that a slave/sub should contribute something to the relationship. Now i also do feel that this contribution as writing so eloquently by so many of the wonderful Ladies here, does not have to be money. Any services that i could perform to make Her life easier would be my pleasure, priveledge and honor to do. Thank You once again everyone for all of these wonderful entries. i had no idea when i posted my question i would get such a response. Thank You [:)]

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