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Mercnbeth -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 9:26:32 AM)

I can't speak from the perspective of a relationship with a submissive; however from the perspective of owning a slave, I had it as a requirement that she "stay-at-home". It is not a case of keeping her isolated, far from it. Since beth has lived in my household I'd say she has access to many more outlets and a wider variety of people. she has many responsibilities that insure contact. Running my home is not a position of leisure. It requires focus and is "work", although beth refers to it as a labor of love.

There is one primary reason for my opinion on this matter. I wanted, and required, that I was the only Master my slave served. A job, career, unrelated home business, AMWAY, name it; all require focus outside the relationship. All require obedience to another master. I knew myself to be very selfish with my important and valuable possessions. beth, my slave, is my most important possession and of 'priceless' value. No amount of money she could bring into the household was equal to her worth to me. When I want to use beth, whether in our playroom if I leave the office early or having her accompany me on a business meeting I don't want her to have to check with her other employer 'master' for permission. When I come home at the end of the day, I don't want to wait for her to log off her inventory spreadsheet or finish packing her latest shipment. I want her to be at the door, naked, waiting with a drink.

I didn't consider taking on the responsibility of ownership until I knew I could afford this luxury. But I'd rather live lower than I possibly could with two incomes, than check the availability of my slave with another master.

Solely MY perspective and opinion. Feel free to flame away about inhibiting beth's growth and jeopardizing her future value in the workforce in the event something happens between the two of us. We are both guilty of planning more for our relationship's success versus it's failure; but we have some safety nets in place. I don't say this is the only way, only that it's our way. Actually, to be precise - MY way.



szobras -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 9:38:49 AM)

I actually do prefer a stay at home submissive. It is currently an issue of practicality.One that we are working towards and once accomplished, we believe will be of much more benifit to our household, and relationship.



GeekyGirl -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 10:08:08 AM)

I haven't read this whole thing but my response to the original poster:

Everyone has a right to be happy, and if staying at home makes you happy, then more power to you. Just make sure that you have a back up plan for health insurance and retirment in case things don't work out. Those would be my two biggest issues.

For me personally, I would love to be a stay-at-home, but I'd be too scared of giving up my insurance and retirement. Also, I tend to have expensive hobbies and I think I would feel bad asking for someone else to pay for them. Plus what if he refused to pay for something I wanted? I rather make my own money and be able to buy what I want, when I want. The stuff I need for my hobbies isn't cheap (we're talking things like $45,000 towing vehicles and $80,000 horse trailers) and I just can't ask someone to foot the whole bill for that.



Devilslilsister -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 11:06:41 AM)

i am not a stay at home sub, but a stay at home mom.  I can do either or, except for a minor detail.  (which drives my mother nuts)  i have major issues with being supported by a man.  (and haven’t EVA!)

Causes abit of problem with Master and the upcoming baby.  Even if financially, he is half responsible, i just can’t....  eh, i don’t feel like i have any right to lean on him.  ::smiles:: and i'm not.  By the time the baby is born, i will have everything taken care of.  3/4 of the way there!  i'm a resourceful girl.....

As far as the future.  Before i became pregnant, a deal was made with my family.  Stop working, focus on school, get my degree and wala i've a job in London, making a good salary, with a resume that will almost build itself and as my father said - if i want i can go to Ireland after London or before.   Since my family is in a very good position to help out, it seemed silly not to take the offer.  Pride is pride, but when it comes to having a future with no monetary concerns, the pride has to be swallowed. 

My pride will most likely be hit abit harder after the baby is born.  Master wants me to live with him, i'll be struggling to take care of a new infant and get through college asap and working then wont seem wise.  i might have to lean on him financially.......  ::sigh::   if it comes to that i can always try and content myself with what i can give back with the future to come (IE living abroad and Him not being able to work.. ect)

eh i dunno, i think its all a matter of pride for me. 

As for Master...... he mentioned me taking a "break" from school and just staying home after the baby is born, but i don’t think i could handle that. 



mixielicous -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 11:15:37 AM)

fast reply,

while i am fortunate enough to live in a prosperous household, i cant fight the need to financially contribute. i have been stay at home since x mas, and continur for one more month. i tried to find PT to keep myself busy but thats another story entirely. to make up for feeling like a handicap for the household, of course i do everything i can to make up for its absence. everything. once i start work in a month my status will take a new form in that of finances because of course i will hand over my pay to Him. . . to be honest i am really looking foward to it. a great stress reliever. i just really cant feel justified stay at home, without kids at least for now.

ok- now to read the rest of the replies lol



LaTigresse -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 11:30:03 AM)

OMG this dude has a tail!

As to the topic, since it's old I may or may not have replied months ago. Regardless, whomever should move into my home must have financial independence and able to contribute to their living expenses. If they cannot handle that concept then they are not for me.



SusanofO -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 11:46:16 AM)

OMG I cannot believe this thread has been revived!!

- Susan



LaTigresse -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 11:47:49 AM)

Me either, that is why the first thing when I was perusing the additions was that there was a guy with a tail. 



KatyLied -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 11:51:00 AM)

I think it's a good thread.  I'd like to not have to work, but I can't see that ever happening.  If I didn't need money for anything else I'd want it in order to add to my retirement, give to my um's and have money of my own so I wouldn't have to get approval for spending.  I'm working two jobs at the present time so I won't stress over money.  It's a big issue for me.



szobras -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 12:10:00 PM)

A tail that is a tax right off to boot.LOL



losttreasure -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 12:16:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

OMG I cannot believe this thread has been revived!!

- Susan


Ummm... I'm afraid that is my fault.  I linked to it in a comment I made in another thread.



SusanofO -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 12:22:50 PM)

losttreasure: That's fine - I was just kind of surprised. If people want to read it and contribute to it, still - hey, that's okay with me.

- Susan



Missokyst -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 12:38:10 PM)

These days is it just as important to be able to say what you were doing when out of the workforce.  After taking a look at my son's recent entry into the job seekers I have noticed many employers want a consistant history.  My son opted to enter college out of high school and chose not to work in his first years.  Now, 1 1/2 yrs out of high school, employers want to know WHY he doesn't have a work history.  It has been very difficult watching him be turned away before he even gets an interview.
The job market out there is competitive.  Most employers can overlook people new to the job market, or (horror of horrors), those who have willingly chosen not to work for a time.
I don't envy those that are forced back into the workforce after a long sabatical away.
Kyst
quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

MY biggest concern is for when the relationship ends! I would expect that the one earning the money would also have been contributing to a fund



proudsub -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/12/2007 7:26:16 PM)

(Fast reply)

I am a stay at home sub.  I feel i contribute financially by making it unecessary to hire outside help for the yard work (6 acres of it), housework, child care (in the past), house painting, and  an accountant for the business (i do the books and taxes).[:)]



GeekyGirl -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/13/2007 2:01:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub

(Fast reply)

I am a stay at home sub.  I feel i contribute financially by making it unecessary to hire outside help for the yard work (6 acres of it), housework, child care (in the past), house painting, and  an accountant for the business (i do the books and taxes).[:)]


[:-] You don't outside help to do yardwork...we have 5 acres. Horses and goats keep the grass trimmed quite nicely [:)]



FukinTroll -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/13/2007 2:25:41 PM)

Its a huge problem when they stay at their home.



bludemonn -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/13/2007 2:28:33 PM)

Or they stay IN a home...for the criminally insane....



FukinTroll -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/13/2007 2:29:23 PM)

The only problem with that is when they are not clever enough to escape.



bludemonn -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/13/2007 2:33:14 PM)

Are you out of your tree troll (tree-troll the next generation of pest) ? How many criminally insane guys do you know who are as clever as anyone...loads, i know lots and lots and....anyways i think stay at home slaves are a problem cos they will end up institutionalised and dry up and croak.



FukinTroll -> RE: Are stay-at-home submissives a problem? (2/13/2007 2:35:03 PM)

Don't much care about the guys. It's the chicks i'm talkin about!



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