Focus50
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Joined: 12/28/2004 From: Newcastle, Australia Status: offline
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As you can already see, everyone has their own definition, as do I, and the best way to make sense of it is to consider all perspectives and decide how that equates to your own thoughts, wants, needs, desires, goals and current life situation.... With a bit of experience, you'll soon know where you fit. I define Master and slave as committment.... First and most basic pre-requisite for being a Master is to actually own a slave and vice-versa.... I believe all Masters are Doms but not all Doms wish to be Masters. A vanilla comparison is that all husbands are men but not all men are husbands. Your relationship is lived as Master & slave, it's not just about roles for physical play - the dynamic of M/s operates outside of scening. A D/s relationship, on the other hand, tends to be more about how you play and express intimacy and the D/s couples I know generally live as equal vanillas until next they scene.... Of course, there's still room to be equal vanilla partners in M/s when the mood suits; being "in role" all the time can be draining and, besides, owning a slave is owning *all* she is. But generally, M/s means far greater controls over the sub/slave that's not scene related.... For example, my slave dresses, grooms and generally maintains her body to my expectations of a feminine woman - my last slave, for eg, had short hair and I required her to let it grow. Temperature and mood permitting, I keep her naked at home when we're alone and so forth. These (and many more) are examples of the Dominant/submissive dynamic operating outside of physical scening and that dynamic is what the very relationship is founded upon and why I regard it as an M/s rather than D/s relationship. Focus50.
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