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RE: Session Starter - 10/11/2006 6:32:16 AM   
MsKatHouston


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Perhaps I'm missing the point of why you'd leave hints out about what you intend to do...especially if you're saying you need to be discreet and that there are others around.  Me personally, I don't do that.  If I wish to engage in play, I grab the boy and do what I feel like, or tell him.  I don't need to leave cue cards or clues all over the world about it. 


I agree with this also.  If I want to play, we just do and I don't need to warn him that it is coming.  But I can also see it as a tease.  I like the candle.  If you are having a dinner at your home with the in laws and just get up and light the candle, nobody would think twice but the submissive may start squirming in anticipation which may add another dimension to an otherwise mundane evening. 

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RE: Session Starter - 10/12/2006 3:52:01 PM   
sunnydays


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RE: Session Starter - 10/13/2006 7:27:41 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		I'm assuming that you rise at different times and can't call her during the day. So need an indicator to get her thinking sub and not mom or employee. What about her hairbrush? If usually it's in the bathroom and you take it and put it next to the bed, she'll know what's coming and nobody else will ask why the hairbrush is on the end table.

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RE: Session Starter - 10/21/2006 11:50:13 PM   
shadevarr


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Status: offline 		In the past, I have just whispered to her "Later" and let her mind to the rest of the work.

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RE: Session Starter - 12/27/2006 5:35:26 PM   
spenser


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RE: Session Starter - 12/28/2006 9:00:17 PM   
BootBlackBlast


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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: appletonmale

these are some great ideas, what else does everyone do.

Perhaps I'm missing the point of why you'd leave hints out about what you intend to do...especially if you're saying you need to be discreet and that there are others around.  Me personally, I don't do that.  If I wish to engage in play, I grab the boy and do what I feel like, or tell him.  I don't need to leave cue cards or clues all over the world about it. 


For those of us who aren't in a 24/7 power exchange I often use things like these to check my partners headspace. Sometimes she wants to play and other times she wants to just be us or vice versa. She often wants to play more than I do, so she uses this kind of thing as a way of checking where my head is and sometimes as a way to get thos juices flowing. Often, I'll leave her collar at the bottom of the stairs to our apt. or I'll leave clothes down there for her to change into. She'll send me a playful text message asking if she should set the table or serve dinner in her doggy bowl. I have to agree with what others said, often it is the anticipation of the "signal."

However Mistress Pandora, and others when it comes to my boy whose only relationship to me is one of service, I do the same, I tell him or show him what I want, or I simply take it.

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RE: Session Starter - 12/31/2006 5:57:36 AM   
ohbiguy32


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Status: offline 		We have two bottle style insence burners in the bedroom.  When there are two sticks of insence and a lighter laid out next to them,  that is our signal.  We use signals sometimes due to having a teenaged daughter.

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RE: Session Starter - 1/1/2007 4:04:50 PM   
badboy1212


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Status: offline 		I did this in a previous life, it was a whiteboard (like a message board) for days it would be plain and one day I would walk in and there would be simply a time written on it.  It was one of the most intriqing things we did as once I saw the time, nomatter what I had scheduled it would be changed and I would ponder what the event would be. As far as others seeing it, it didn't really matter some would question what it was for I would have to concoct some silly answer.  lastly I was not allowed to touch the board.   

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RE: Session Starter - 1/15/2007 3:19:17 AM   
MsStick


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Status: offline 		Scent is one of our strongest and most evocative senses.  It certainly works for Me (having 3 of the aforementioned unmentionables tends to ensure a certain amount of discretion regarding signals!).

Why not try a ceramic oil burner in a certain room (preferably one which can be sensed as soon as your sub walks through the front door) with a particular essential oil scent kept for just this purpose.  I have found Frankincense a powerful one (use 100% pure natural essential oil for full benefits) as it facilitates a deep meditative state almost immediately, but a more erotic one such as Jasmine or Ylang Ylang, or Sandalwood may work well too.  Do some research, and make it a joint venture - settling on which scent to use - as the smell then becomes as effective an anticipatory trigger as anything else!

Ms. Stick

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RE: Session Starter - 1/15/2007 11:36:16 AM   
BD123


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Status: offline 		Do you have a kitchen counter top with objects on it? Select on the objects and as a signal move it to a new position, turn it around, or turn it upside down. Other alternative is a special figure *small statue* tha twhen moved out of normal position would be your signal.
Hope this works out for you.

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RE: Session Starter - 1/18/2007 12:37:25 PM   
Cuffur


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Status: offline 		I think what you want is a flag of some sort. Something to signal that the evening coming will be special with BDSM play.
That flag needs to present all the time but neeeds to have a neutral position and a signal position.
Find something, anything, that can be presented in one of two positions.
examples might be...
A mug on a shelf with the handle turned one way or the other.
A wine glass upright or inverted.
the list is endless.
Unscrewing the light bulb in the private bedroom bath is a sure signal.
you'll find something that means she is going to be tied and used tonight.

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