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how do i... - 1/1/2005 10:43:11 PM

esclavedefille

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hello! i am a subby who is getting into a new relationship with a Daddy/Master as His babygirl and i like him a lot. the thing is is He doesn't really and truely know it! i have tried pampering and kissing and telling Him i care about Him. i have even been a good girl! which is pretty hard for me lol i am a brat. what else can i do so he knows that i really do want to be his and that i care about Him a lot!?

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RE: how do i... - 1/1/2005 11:22:38 PM

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Just tell him. If you have a hard time with face to face, write it in a letter, then ask him to read it since it's important to you.

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RE: how do i... - 1/2/2005 1:57:04 AM

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This is rather bizarre to me!

It's ideal to be in a relationship with someone you "like a lot" but what do you mean "He doesn't really and truely know it!"? He doesn't know he's in the relationship, too, or you think he's in a relationship with someone he's not sure likes him?

It doesn't matter what form of relationship it is (vanilla, D/s, M/s, gay etc), it's not enough for one to love the other, it has to be reciprocated or it's unhealthy and doomed to failure! Are you really sure he wants you as much as you want him? My honest opinion is that it doesn't sound like he does....

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RE: how do i... - 1/2/2005 6:31:51 PM

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Its nice that you like this person so much but if you have come out and told him and it doesn't sink in is it a beneficial situation.?

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RE: how do i... - 1/3/2005 7:35:36 AM

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In any relationship communication is a matter of major importance, but especially so in all forms of the BDSM lifestyle. Obviously, some subjects are hard to bring up, and the fear of rejection rears it's ugly head in your particular case. Still in order to fulfill your needs, or at bare minimum determine if they are at least possible, you will have to find a good method to communicate this without leaving any misconceptions.

If you cannot find a way to do this now, perhaps it is a bit too soon and you will need to have a little patience. In this case demonstrate your affection through action and eventually you will either get a response that answers you, or you will grow more comfortable so you can effectively communicate your feelings.

Good luck,

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RE: how do i... - 1/4/2005 6:43:01 AM

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Perhaps a silly question, but have you told him your feelings? If so and his behaviour is still as you describe, have you considered the possibility that his feelings for you may not match you feelings for him? It is hard to say as none of us really know you or him and have not enough info to base a solid advice on...

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