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marie83 -> New and clueless (8/27/2006 7:47:22 PM)
Hello everyone! Im new to this lifestyle, and would like to learn more about it. I was wondering if I could get any good recomendations on helpful sites or books to read. Thank you for taking time to read this and your help! kathleen marie

kc692 -> RE: New and clueless (8/27/2006 8:58:39 PM)
www.castlerealm.com is a good place to start.

JustaDom -> RE: New and clueless (8/27/2006 9:07:54 PM)
Welcome to the forums, kathleen marie. For books, a good general resource I'd recommend is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns. It is designed well for newcomers and does a good job of covering the basics. The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori and Craig Morey is a great introductory book on Shibari. The New Bottoming Book by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton is specifically geared towards the submissive and bottoming side of things. Websites abound, the trouble is finding the good ones. Not a lot of people are updating their sites anymore, most of the good stuff is on email lists and forum sites where a large user base is providing most of the actual content. A willingness to host diverging viewpoints or a quality exploration of a single topic are good signs. Based on the interests in your profile, I'd recommend some of the older static websites such as http://www.castlerealm.com, http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html, http://www.goreanwhispers.com and one of the few that I've seen regularly updated, http://www.takeninhand.com/. With websites, the most important thing is to expose yourself to a variety of viewpoints to get a better perspective on the information and personal opinions. The best recommendation I can give you is to join the Boston TNG, it is a great resource that is right in your neighborhood. http://www.boston-tng.org/ The Boston TNG is a social bunch of kinksters in your age bracket (18-35) that you'd probably have a lot in common with and are very welcoming of newcomers. It isn't just about kink, they go out to clubs, movies and other fun and social things as well as BDSM educational stuff. In a little bit, LuckyAlbatross will probably be posting links to 14 dozen previous topics, she's pretty good about that and they'll likely have more quality sites listed than I can think of at the moment. I haven't been in New England for about 4 years now but the Boston TNG was the gem in your area and I'm sure it still is. They have an email list that you can post an introduction to and you can get to know people through it before you meet them if you are feeling shy. Good luck and enjoy, Joe

marie83 -> RE: New and clueless (8/27/2006 9:12:43 PM)
Thank you both so much for all your help! I cant wait to start reading lol!

gretchenS -> RE: New and clueless (8/27/2006 10:21:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kc692 www.castlerealm.com is a good place to start. Grrr... I was about to say that too [8D]. And also, you can do some helpful reading in the forums too, by putting your questions in the search box. Always works! Welcome to the forums!

diamonddreamlove -> RE: New and clueless (8/27/2006 11:31:25 PM)
you don't sound so clueless to me. Asking for help in learning is the smartest thing you could do right now. Keep reading the forums too as much of the info is good to have and will help you be safe as you learn. Hope you find happiness!

swtnsparkling -> RE: New and clueless (8/28/2006 2:42:49 AM)
steels_private_chamber

twicehappy -> RE: New and clueless (8/28/2006 4:50:35 AM)
You are here aren't you? Lol, welcome to the boards.

smilezz -> RE: New and clueless (8/28/2006 5:10:48 AM)
Here's a few books.......i also suggest that you see if you have a local group in your area that may have munches. SM101 by Jay Wiseman Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Miller and Devon Sensous Magic, A Guide to S/M for Adventurous Couples by Patrick Califia The New Topping Book, by Easton and Hardy The New Bottoming Book, by Hardy and Easton Learning the Ropes, a Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking by Race Banno S-M: The Last Taboo - Greene & Greenen Different Loving, by Brame, Brame and Jacobs (for general reference) Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual & Training with Miss Abernathy, a workbook for erotic slaves and their owners, by Christine Abernathy Partners in Power, by Jack Rinella The Masters Manual, by Jack Rinella The Loving Dominant, by John Warren slavecraft, by a grateful slave and Guy Baldwin Erotic Surrender, The Sensous Joy of Female Submission, by Claudia Varrin The Compleat Slave by Jack Rinella Becoming a Slave by Jack Rinella ~smilezz~

amlonging -> RE: New and clueless (8/28/2006 5:12:05 AM)
http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/index.html http://www.angelfire.com/realm/dstherealmofhonor/thehealthysubmissive.html http://www.submissivewomenspeak.net/subintro.htm www.submissiveloving.com Claudia varrin's book EROTIC SURRENDER These are my choices for a self proclaimed newbie and for those who need a refresher course in submission. [:)]

porcelaine -> RE: New and clueless (8/28/2006 4:04:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie83 Hello everyone! Im new to this lifestyle, and would like to learn more about it. I was wondering if I could get any good recomendations on helpful sites or books to read. Thank you for taking time to read this and your help! Welcome aboard. Here's a few sites for your enjoyment: Best Slave Training: http://www.bestslavetraining.com/Welcome.htm Gor on Earth - Slave Musings (kaylee's site is very good): http://www.gor-on-earth.com/kayindex.htm Internal Enslavement: http://www.enslavement.org.uk/ Leather and Roses: http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/journeysub.htm#advice Albany Power Exchange: http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/Default1.htm Jack Rinella's Leather Views (has a weekly column): http://www.leatherviews.com/home.htm BDSM Resource Center (check out the book reviews): http://www.thebrc.net/home.htm Within Reality (lots of links as well): http://www.withinreality.com/main.html The Dominant's View: http://www.thedomsview.com/intro.htm Service With A Smile: http://www.wildfleurs.com/service/service.html Soul's Haven (houses the BDSM checklist that can be completed online): http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/nchk_main.php3 The Iron Gate: http://www.the-iron-gate.com/ D/s World Magazine: http://www.bdsmlife.net/dsworld/main.html Seekers.org: http://www.seekers.org.uk/ Sensuous Sadie (has a weekly column): http://www.sensuoussadie.com/home.htm This should get you started. Best of luck on your journey. porcelaine

babyboyk -> RE: New and clueless (8/30/2006 7:50:27 AM)
i do not belive anybodies mentioned this as yet-----but the best thing you can be is just be yourself, as i am sure any potential Master will take you for just as you are (if they do not---they surley must have a tool short of a tool box), im sure you will find true happiness regards & best wishes babyboyk

KatyLied -> RE: New and clueless (8/30/2006 8:19:39 AM)
http://www.pittsburghleather.org/ It's a site with a lot of information for newcomers to the 'style

Sunshine119 -> RE: New and clueless (8/30/2006 8:51:26 AM)
Marie, Welcome to the boards. It's a great first step. You've gotten, I believe, the comprehensive list of all of the sites I can think of. I just have one word of caution however and it has to do with "subby fever". Everything is going to look so good, so hot, so wonderful. And it is. Just take it slow. Don't make any dramatic moves, like getting collared by someone you've never met or meeting with someone in a non-public place until you trust them. Caution and safety, first, last and always. Sunshine

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