What are "tops" and "bottoms"?

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Chloelicious -> What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/30/2006 11:08:15 AM)
Hello A/all, First i hope that i' m not posting something that has been explained 1000X. My question is: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? As we dont use this title in French/Belgian Bdsm, it's sound strange to me. Thank you in advance for your explanations. Chloé

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/30/2006 11:15:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Chloelicious My question is: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? As we dont use this title in French/Belgian Bdsm, it's sound strange to me. As always, there are no universals here (yes I like the conflict in that too). Top and bottom are also highly contextual words. IN GENERAL, top = decider/giver, bottom = agreer/receiver. If you stick with those broad generalizations, you'll be fine. In gay male culture, top and bottom are used to describe the sort of orientation a person takes within a relationship, as well as what position sexually they prefer. Tops almost never are penetrated, while bottoms almost always are. In kink culture, top/bottom used to be the main terms. Sub/slave/switch/mistress/master/mentor/etc etc came later as the culture evolved. Nowadays, top/bottom in the kink culture is used to define a specific play relationship, positions people take within scenes, but is not part of their day to day relationship dynamic or foundations. http://www.collarchat.com/m_126254/mpage_1/key_bottom%252Cdefinition/tm.htm#126255 Top vs Dom Bottom vs Sub

Bearlee -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/30/2006 11:42:10 AM)
WOW... very good job, LA! Well put! Thank you (again!!!) beverly

Satyr6406 -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/30/2006 1:41:22 PM)
Firstly, Chloe; Si vous etes "francophone"; Bien venue! If you're flemmish; Goie avond (It's afternoon, here, right now)!

MissyRane -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/30/2006 2:01:31 PM)
oh man and I thought top/Dom(me) bottom/sub/slave was the same I've been living in a lieeeeeeeeeee[:(][:(][:(][:(][:(][:'(]

TopCurious0 -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/30/2006 5:07:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Nowadays, top/bottom in the kink culture is used to define a specific play relationship, positions people take within scenes, but is not part of their day to day relationship dynamic or foundations. As I understand it Top and Bottom are action oriented, who does stuff, or has stuff done to them. Master/Dom/Domme and sub/slave is power dynamic oriented, who controls what. Thus a Dom who is a bottom might be found saying "Whip me harder slave!" or "Tie me tighter girl".

hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/30/2006 7:26:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissyRane oh man and I thought top/Dom(me) bottom/sub/slave was the same I've been living in a lieeeeeeeeeee[:(][:(][:(][:(][:(][:'(] Most people make the (mistaken) assumption that Tops are always Dominant, and Bottoms are always Submissive. Primarly Top/Bottom are used these days in the SM/scene sense - ie the Top being the person who holds the whip, the Bottom being the person who gets whipped. I'm a bottom. I am Not submissive, and have little (if any) use for power exchange outside of SM scening.

Homestead -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/30/2006 9:17:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Chloelicious Hello A/all, First i hope that i' m not posting something that has been explained 1000X. My question is: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? As we dont use this title in French/Belgian Bdsm, it's sound strange to me. Thank you in advance for your explanations. Chloé In genral,it means people more into bsdm bondage and sensation play than D/s.

darkinshadows -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/31/2006 2:34:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach quote: ORIGINAL: MissyRane oh man and I thought top/Dom(me) bottom/sub/slave was the same I've been living in a lieeeeeeeeeee[:(][:(][:(][:(][:(][:'(] Most people make the (mistaken) assumption that Tops are always Dominant, and Bottoms are always Submissive. Primarly Top/Bottom are used these days in the SM/scene sense - ie the Top being the person who holds the whip, the Bottom being the person who gets whipped. I'm a bottom. I am Not submissive, and have little (if any) use for power exchange outside of SM scening. I wanted to also add to peach's statement that not all D-types are tops and s-types arent always bottoms. I am submissive, but I can top if its desired. And usual response to those thinking - no I am not a switch. Peace and Rapture

Chloelicious -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/31/2006 2:45:26 AM)
Satyr, Hello and thank you for the welcome. I'm french speaking/ francophone.

Chloelicious -> RE: What are "tops" and "bottoms"? (8/31/2006 2:47:00 AM)
LA; Thank you for your piece of enlightment, you are always really helpfull. I think i understand better. Chloé

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