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Have You - 9/2/2006 7:37:29 AM

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Have you- in a non-d/s setting, with non-scene folk been swept up in feelings of submission?

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 7:50:07 AM

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Yes. When I first started investigating D/s and bdsm, about four years ago, I went through a period where I was reading a lot of stuff on Gor and Gorean ways. I'd got into the gorvery store, and find myself fantasizing about the stockboys really being secret Masters who held sway over not only all of the check-out girls, but all of the female customers as well. That kind of thing crossed my mind often - on the street, in stores, etc..

Now it happens less often, but I wear there are two men in the dinner group I organize monthly (which is all vanilla folks) who I swear would make great Dominants if they knew anything about D/s, because the do have pretty Dominant personalities. But, I keep these thoughts to myself (they would not "get it", I don't think. I just don't want to "go there" with them). But, they are pretty aggressive personalities.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 8:16:27 AM

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Have you- in a non-d/s setting, with non-scene folk been swept up in feelings of submission?

Not sure what you mean- do you mean in relation to a partner, or just as like at a party and being a good hostess and feeling your submissive fuzzy yummy feelings poke up?

The answer to both is yes for me. Again, there's a difference between feeling submissive and being a submissive, and being a submissive TO someone.

This is why I always tell people it's fine and normal not to "FEEL" submissive every single day of their life in a relationship. Feelings shift, orientations and commitments remain.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 8:19:29 AM

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I'm not sure I understand what you are asking. If you are asking if I have suddenly felt submissive TO non-D/s folks....the answer would be no. If you are asking if I have ever had fantasies about non-D/s folks...the answer is yes. If you are asking if I have ever been in a non-D/s setting, such as a restaurant, and had my Dominant do something that triggered me to "settle" right into place...the answer would be more times than I can count.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 9:29:29 AM

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I mean like a non d/s friend- or an aquintence, someone who - maybe have observed from time to time, listen too or talk too they just have this aura about them -some how stir up sublike feelings in you when your around them

I'm sorry- in my head I know what I mean- I just cant seem to get it out in words that make much sence

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 9:36:47 AM

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I think I know what you mean.....let me try an example. Being in a working environment where suddenly (or slowly) the person you are dealing with generates in you a desire to do anything they say, even if it is unrelated to your business, so that you can do something to please them.

How's that?

If so, it happens all the time.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 9:43:04 AM

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I think I know what you mean.....let me try an example. Being in a working environment where suddenly (or slowly) the person you are dealing with generates in you a desire to do anything they say, even if it is unrelated to your business, so that you can do something to please them.

If this is what you meant....nope...doesn't happen for me. The only person in my life who inspires my submission is the one I am involved with at the time.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 10:32:56 AM

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Yes, that's what lead me to the "lifestyle." I was questioning why I desired to submit to the kinky (and often very nasty) things I was doing, and ENJOYING it! I started investigating those feelings and found myself... literally.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 10:54:14 AM

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I am naturally submissive so I have felt that in my life a lot with very strong dominant personalities. I felt it my whole life with my father who is incredibly dominant. I have felt it with bosses, friends, and even strangers. The older I get the easier it is to stand up to that feeling if it's unwanted.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 11:00:00 AM

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From what I gather from this thread, not really. But, in my working and vanilla life, I'm extremely dominant as a personality type, so I only will submit to the one person I call my Dom.
I can only think of one time this has ever (sorta) happened, and that was with a former instructor/mentor (vanilla, vanilla, vanilla) of mine. I would work for her to earn my tuition in her classes, and in that case, I did do a lot just to please her, to make her life easier, etc. But, I hated it after many years of feeling like she was dragging me down and gave me no control over my own life, and broke things off after I was told in front of an entire class that she was disappointed in me for not dancing that day, but was going to go somewhere after class (I had wiplash, so I couldn't dance, and was afterwards going out for a meeting about a music collaboration). I was so glad I ended that. It really made my life easier.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 5:44:01 PM

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Have you- in a non-d/s setting, with non-scene folk been swept up in feelings of submission?

Yes, this has happened to me twice. Not sure it counts though as both Men were related to my Master and reminded me of Him, but the feelings of submission were there and strong.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 7:16:04 PM

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i am a submissive who is not in a relationship but i am still submissive. i was thinking about that just yesterday that i submit with joy in my work, and in all my dealings with other people. i continually wish to please and be pleasing to the people i come in contact with. Now, do i day-dream about sexual service with everyone i meet? Of course not, but i notice my submisive nature every day in all aspects of my life.

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RE: Have You - 9/2/2006 10:08:53 PM

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A catagorical NO. Never felt submissive to anyone, in any situation willingly, than Him. Example of having to be submissive unwillingly, would be doing as the boss tells you at work.

Felt lustfull once when a guy grabbed my hair, does that count? if so, yes, once! lol
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RE: Have You - 9/3/2006 1:45:31 AM

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I would have to say No.

While I am a sub to my very core...I have never felt someone else "stir" or "release" that in me before. I wanted my ex-husband to - but he is more sub than I am...
That being said - my sub tendencies (to serve, to please) I find I naturally and normally express in everyday life. In my professional life, I am normally the one in charge and acting dominant (notice - acting. I never truly feel it - even when I'm the honcho - like when I was in the Navy.)

No...I only feel truly submissive to my true Master.

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RE: Have You - 9/3/2006 2:32:30 AM

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To everyone who responded- Thank You

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RE: Have You - 9/3/2006 5:28:26 AM

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Have you- in a non-d/s setting, with non-scene folk been swept up in feelings of submission?

YES!!! as far back as this slave can remember, each and every day...and not "sexual" submission, either. however, the last 3 1/2 years have been spent focusing on submitting to ONE--Master.

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RE: Have You - 9/3/2006 6:05:20 PM

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Well, you know how many submissive women often feel dominant whilst at their work place but truly wish to be utterly submissive everywhere else?
Yes... I often feel submissive at work. Which, I suppose, is a great advantage to my employer and my bosses.

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