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what does it mean? - 1/4/2005 5:24:39 PM

lissalooks

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what does it mean if ive been sleeping with this Dom for 4 mos and we usually ride together to most group functions and all of a sudden he tells me he wants me to go as his sub?

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/4/2005 5:33:46 PM

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That's interesting and Im looking forward to hear everyone's take on this.

Did he just want you to go to the function as his sub or does he want you as his sub now is the question I think you should ask him if you havent done so already.

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/4/2005 6:15:38 PM

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I guess I'm confused by the question. You apparently had some sort of intimate relationship, but you do/did not consider yourself to be his sub now and you went to the group events (I'm assuming lifestyle events) as friends?

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/4/2005 6:50:52 PM

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i wasnt his sub when i was sleeping with him, it was lust, but for me its growing into a lot more, sorry if the question was confusing

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/4/2005 7:20:10 PM

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i wasnt his sub when i was sleeping with him, it was lust, but for me its growing into a lot more, sorry if the question was confusing

Just from the few facts presented. It sounds as though it is growing into a lot more for him as well. However, the only one who knows the answer to your question is he. You need to ask him what he means. If he wants you forever or just to show off as his in public?
Maybe he is trying to ask you yet he cannot find the words?

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/4/2005 7:44:56 PM

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thanks Gloria

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/5/2005 6:08:48 PM

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Let me get this straight you were having sex but you were " Just friends "? You are both into bdsm and you were having nilla sex? Now he wants you for his sub and you're freaking on it? What does it mean is a very good question...for both of you to ask the other...........

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/5/2005 6:39:06 PM

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Nevernilla is right. I"m going to need more info to fully understand what the you're talking about. Are you new to the scene? Is he asking to collar you? If you aren't his sub now then what are you?

I'm pretty sure he's asking you to go steady with him as boy friend and girl friend. He's asking for a more intimate relationship. A type of you're his girl and no one elses. Instead of asking the us the question of what he means, why don't you ask him? I think you'll get a better answer since I don't know who this dom is.

Sir Tyson, looking for an interesting answer? Just for you I'll say the real answer that Lissalooks needs to know.

Lissalooks, don't ask him or us what he meant. Just say yes to being his sub and find out the fun way

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/5/2005 6:47:32 PM

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what does it mean if ive been sleeping with this Dom for 4 mos and we usually ride together to most group functions and all of a sudden he tells me he wants me to go as his sub?

OK I know I'm going to be identified as an insensitive asshole to new posters - but really!

This isn't a psychic website. It isn't even a site for problem solving, group discussion among ourselves - coming up with an answer, submitting it, and seeing if it's correct.

Why ask unknown members of a group a question, sit, perhaps for days, by your computer waiting for answers, seeing which best suits you and deciding it's 'right'; when you can nudge this person next to you in bed and ASK HIM@!????

The open orifice under you nose, and before you get to your chin serves additional functions besides being a food and drink receptacle or sexual appliance.

Who knows maybe your at the threshold of a wonderful life of slavery and submission, but he hasn't bothered to tell you yet. Wait a month or so and see what happens.

JEEZ!

Sorry everyone - it's been below 70 degrees and rainy in LA for the last 5 days and the forecast is for another 5 days of the same. So, I think I'm not the usual, jovial, understanding, sensitive, caring, gentle Master some of you have come to know and love.

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/5/2005 7:14:26 PM

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Merc & beth i agree to some extent. He or she should talk whit this man, is she even interested in a D/s relationship and what would in entail. Aslo, Dominat joind whit submissive not always a good match if the pepole have not talked firt. For exampel if one want sweet love whit only a bit of BDSM trappings meets a sadist, or a slave that want to serve and nothing else meets a teddy bear that only like to be in change. But this is somthing the cuppel in question need to discuss. But on one thing i disagree, somtimes it is good to get the opinions of strangers, becouse they will speak from what they think, not from what they know of you, and somtimes it can be good to talk to strangers aboute your problems.

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/5/2005 7:22:10 PM

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For $4.99 a minute you could ask Miss Cleo.

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/5/2005 7:30:16 PM

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Not anymore. The FTC shut her down.

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RE: what does it mean? - 1/6/2005 12:58:41 AM

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She should have seen that coming.