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RE: Dominant's application of 'strict' - Information re... - 9/6/2006 5:39:06 AM

Focus50

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ORIGINAL: aleshaDreams

OMG Focus, yes the orginal post is the same inquiry as the second. However. trying to maintain 'focus' on the original inquiry is: For those Dominants that use the word strict how do they apply it in their D/s relationship. The inquiries are the same different wording prehaps.

The question was asked, I requested perspective from Dominants/Masters that use the term and their application of it so to speak; I did NOT nor did I request a bunch of opinions thrown in as matter of factly statements. Hence, if a Dominant uses the term or not it is irrelevant (reverting away from the opinions of those that seem to have an opinion). I requested information from those that do........ how simple is that.

Now with that out of the way, focus on the question at hand please. I did not request a bunch of opinions.

Thank You Everyone that responded to the question, it has come clearer to me.

Ok, let's just agree I'm really dumb and now I need you to spell things out even more specifically. IE, the underlined passage - "that use the word".

I'm a Dom, of course I'm strict with my sub in many ways - maybe not as strict as some; maybe more than others. But when you emphasise "that use the word", as opposed to administering the action, exactly where do you mean, if not the profile?

This isn't helping:

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Hence, if a Dominant uses the term or not it is irrelevant (reverting away from the opinions of those that seem to have an opinion). I requested information from those that do........ how simple is that.

Where you state "simple", I see contradictory, thus complicated.... Either you wanna hear only from those "that use the word" or it's irrelevant if a Dom uses it....

Ok, enough of the word play.... Surely all Dom/mes apply "strict" as a normal part of maintaining a D/s relationship or general dynamic.... What's the big deal about those "that use the word" (in their profile?) as opposed to virtually all other Dom/mes who practice it anyway? Some things just don't need to be said in a profile; they become redundant - in name at least....

But hey, this is a public board expressly for offering opinions, and I yousta "use the word", so who is more "Focus"(ed) than I?

Focus.

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RE: Dominant's application of 'strict' - Information re... - 9/6/2006 6:39:35 AM

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You know, i could be wrong, but i think a lot of us bottom-siders hear "strict" as "having a lot of rules" and the top-siders tend to mean "If I only have one rule, don't ever think of breaking it."

Some do have a ton of rules, some have very few, but almost All believe they are unmoving on the things They hold dear. (That's not always true though!)

Inexperienced or not so great Dominants tend to have a lot more rules than They care to actually enforce, so the "strict" thing is all part of Their perception of what a Dominant should be, not what They actually are.

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RE: Dominant's application of 'strict' - Information re... - 9/6/2006 7:01:44 AM

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I don't identify with the word strict, but I've had people say that I am.

Being strict means expecting a submissive to be consistent and accountable, and responding if the desired behavior isn't forthcoming. For example, if I ask someone to do writing for me and give it to me by Friday at 5:00pm, and it's 5:05 and I haven't gotten them, I'm going to respond. I'm not going to jump up and down, but I'm going to let the person know that I'm aware he hasn't kept his agreement.

Strictness, in this case, means being aware of agreements a submissive has made and tightening up the response time between neglecting an agreement and my responding to it.

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