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RE: what every newbie should know about trainers - 9/6/2006 6:54:46 PM

bignipples2share

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

He's finding out he can't have his cake and eat it too. He wants to have me on the side now and I'm refusing to do any bondage with him without dating. He tried to find someone else since I refused and he found out nobody in our area except me is willing to have bondage without sex. Boy is he ever pissed lol. Looks like instead of having his cake and eating it too, he ended up screwing himself.

Okay, think about this a minute here. Look at what you have said. By your own admission here, he is only going to be interested in you BECAUSE HE CAN'T FIND SOMEONE ELSE who will be interested in BDSM with him. This means you're the only one he can get. You are his last resort. Is this what you want? Because both of you are approaching it this way. You are trying to take an action, a trait and trying make it into a relationship. Again, by what you have said here, you are trying to force him into dating you.
You are dangling BDSM in front of him like it's the last carrot on earth and then because you give it to him, he's supposed to want you on a deeper level. This is no different than your dangling a large amount of money in front of his nose and telling him sure, you can have it if you promise to have emotions for me.
This man may come over to your house, for the carrot, or the money, but he's gonna be constantly looking for the person he really wants to be with, who might possibly have the carrot, money or everything, all rolled into one.
Harsh? Probably, but you are not looking at this realistically.

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RE: what every newbie should know about trainers - 9/6/2006 8:01:51 PM

LordCadence

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I think the op is more interested in getting a date than doing bondage. The date seems to be a recurring theme.

Tamer...in case you missed it....she was doing bondage with a FITNESS trainer.

Boy must have been bleary eyed and missed that. But there are alot of things you can do with the bowflex, of course tey ain't in tnhe instruction manual.

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RE: what every newbie should know about trainers - 9/7/2006 11:07:11 AM

bethane

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Greetings to be honest this one thinks you ahd a bad experience yes with a trainer but this girl has a trainer and this one knew before saying yes to him that he was not going to collar.
so maybe you needed to make sure before accepting what the score was a trainer does not collar and its upto you to not get too attached to him this one is quite lucky her trainer told her upfront what the whole deal would be girl saw it as a way to gain some expereience at being slave and learn whilst she still sought an owner ..

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RE: what every newbie should know about trainers - 9/7/2006 2:12:25 PM

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GREETINGS ,I HATE TO SAY IT ,BUT ,....SOMETIMES .... YOU GOT TO DO UNTO OTHERS, BEFORE THEY DO UNTO YOU ,SO LOOK AROUND WHEN YOU KNOW YOUR NUMBER TWO ,TILL YOU'RE NUMBER-ONE!;

CRIPES SAKE!
;IT'S SIMPLE: ONE SLAVE(OR ONE TOP) CAN BE DESPERATE AND SAY YES ,TO NO COLLAR BUT, 2 SLAVES(OR EVEN 2 TOPS) ARE GOOD FOR THE NIGHT, AS IS ,TO THE "NO- STRINGS ;NO COLLAR-ENCOUNTER ;
SO ADMIT YOURE BOTH DOING EACH OTHER A FAVOR ,OR DESPERATE?
bottoms get desperate ,too;and won't settle for vanilla;
WE ALL GET USED ,BUT ,IT'S DEFINITELY A TWO- WAY- STREET ;
USE EACH OTHER ,
UNLESS ONE OF YOU IS HUNG UP ,OR ,NOT THINKING THE SAME AND , CRAZY,
AND ,remember : 3 slaves (,OR TOPS) IS GOOD TO GO!....
GEEZ; try to STAY ON THE SAME PAGE; LEST SOMEONE FINDS OUT;
you gotta' play the game to win; the one ,that has to get chased the most; vanilla or not ; is the most pursued(wanted);
collar; shmaller!!; if the dreamy- TOP wont give you a 'collar' ;you better find it ,OR SAY YOU CAN FIND IT elsewhere;
so no skin off your nose ,if they do or don't;
PRESSURE;no one likes it,....in bed.
....

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ORIGINAL: bethane

Greetings to be honest this one thinks you ahd a bad experience yes with a trainer but this girl has a trainer and this one knew before saying yes to him that he was not going to collar.
so maybe you needed to make sure before accepting what the score was a trainer does not collar and its upto you to not get too attached to him this one is quite lucky her trainer told her upfront what the whole deal would be girl saw it as a way to gain some expereience at being slave and learn whilst she still sought an owner ..

nihad

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RE: what every newbie should know about trainers - 9/7/2006 10:09:35 PM

defiantbadgirl

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ORIGINAL: bignipples2share

he's gonna be constantly looking for the person he really wants to be with, who might possibly have the carrot, money or everything, all rolled into one.

Never going to happen. I tried to tell him for months that having both his vanilla and bdsm needs all rolled into one is his best option. He's so stupid he doesn't know how to combine the two. He loved the bondage with me, but was missing the vanilla world. Now he's hooked up with a vanilla girl and is missing the bondage. I'm no Einstein, but at least I know it's impossible to achieve complete fulfillment when something is always missing.

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