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First professional experience - 9/5/2006 7:20:07 PM

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I never experienced professional BDSM experience. I was thinking to try a session with professional mistress as her slave but I am very nervous about it, literally I afraid to go to dungeons which people advertise on the Internet or Magazines. I think having a session with a professional could be interesting but I do not like to be photo graphed or exposed to any danger or trouble. I will be happy if give me some comments or tips that how I can have a safe experience and how I can find the safe place. Also please let me know any comment about these places in Australia (Where I live)

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RE: First professional experience - 9/5/2006 7:38:20 PM

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My first and only rt experience was with a pro domme. I got real lucky and had a wonderful lady that made me feel right at home (in her home). She read me real well and sensed my limits. We talked abit before my interview/lunch date and after she accepted me after interview we set a date. She did tell me that there would be some electrical play.....I said "no way" she said "you WILL do the electro stuff!" and to "trust her". I trusted her and she showed my quite a few things that helped me understand some things about the lifestyle and myself....some things I liked...some I didn't..some I will tolerate if the other person wants/needs it? All in all....a great experience! Will I ever do it again? I highly doubt it.....need something with abit more meaning with a partner I care for.
I definately found 2 hard limits from this experience...1 is that electricity is out! lol....
I would suggest you take your time before you grab any ol pro and de some homework,communicate, and get a feel for her before any play date... I feel I got real lucky and hooked up with a REAL pro who took the time/effort (not just my $) to make my first experience a rather positive thing....... Good luck!

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RE: First professional experience - 9/5/2006 8:03:26 PM

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aa try Salon Kitty's in Sydney

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RE: First professional experience - 9/5/2006 9:57:46 PM

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My first and only rt experience was with a pro domme. I got real lucky and had a wonderful lady that made me feel right at home (in her home). She read me real well and sensed my limits. We talked abit before my interview/lunch date and after she accepted me after interview we set a date. She did tell me that there would be some electrical play.....I said "no way" she said "you WILL do the electro stuff!" and to "trust her". I trusted her and she showed my quite a few things that helped me understand some things about the lifestyle and myself....some things I liked...some I didn't..some I will tolerate if the other person wants/needs it? All in all....a great experience! Will I ever do it again? I highly doubt it.....need something with abit more meaning with a partner I care for.
I definately found 2 hard limits from this experience...1 is that electricity is out! lol....
I would suggest you take your time before you grab any ol pro and de some homework,communicate, and get a feel for her before any play date... I feel I got real lucky and hooked up with a REAL pro who took the time/effort (not just my $) to make my first experience a rather positive thing....... Good luck!

I think your first experience was very good. I like to have the same experience and see Pro-Mistress in a friendly place. To be in her home is good or bad, Her home may be more friendly, but a professional dungen is more offical.

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RE: First professional experience - 9/5/2006 10:13:56 PM

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there are lots of very good professionals in melbourne as well as many good public and semi public events
In fact we have a leather festival on right now
http://www.melbourneleatherfestival.org/

If you want to message me I can share If I have heard about any particular premises that you like the sound of..... most have very good reputations, but it does depend on what you are seeking

Salon kitty's is excelent but sydney is a long way from melbourne

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 2:09:20 AM

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Any comment or experience about Correction Centre?

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 2:29:47 AM

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I would suggest, if you are thinking about seeing a professional Mistress, that you do your research well, as you already are doing! See if there are any reviews listed on some of the professional sites that list Mistresses, but keep an open mind as some of these reviews may not be genuine. Ask around, see how active they may be within their local BDSM community, as that can be an indicator of having an interest in what they do outside of the 'day job'.

There are also things that you can do to improve any session that you may have, be realistic, look into yourself and know the type of session that you want, decide your limits and STICK TO THEM! It's far better to leave knowing that you could have taken more than leave feeling abused (and not in a good sense!). If you can, open an email dialogue with any Mistress that you may wish to see, that way she will be able to learn a little about you before you see her. Arrive clean and sober (you'd be surprised at the number of people who don't!) And remember, Mistresses are people too, even they have off days! Sometimes, it doesn't matter how good the Mistress is, you just will not click with her, nor she with you.

(As an aside, without getting into the whole gift debate - taking a bunch of flowers with you, shows, in my opinion, that you have taken the time and energy to actually think about the Mistress, it goes a long way!).

http://www.maxfisch.com/world.php#australia is a good place to start looking for Mistresses in your area .

And good luck!!

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 2:31:27 AM

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Is it normal if some one afraid alot from his first experience?

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 2:34:48 AM

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Absolutely aa, you are stepping into the unknown! And any professional Mistress worth her salt, recognises that! Though you do need to be honest with her, about what you want, your fears, your health etc, so that you can both getthe most out of the session!

Fear adds a delicious edge to a session, use it, ride it, enjoy it!

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 2:58:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: BlueVelvet

Absolutely aa, you are stepping into the unknown! And any professional Mistress worth her salt, recognises that! Though you do need to be honest with her, about what you want, your fears, your health etc, so that you can both getthe most out of the session!

Fear adds a delicious edge to a session, use it, ride it, enjoy it!

BV

Thanks,
I know what you mean,
Some time fear makes it more exciting and erotic.

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 3:06:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: MzMinx

there are lots of very good professionals in melbourne as well as many good public and semi public events
In fact we have a leather festival on right now
http://www.melbourneleatherfestival.org/

If you want to message me I can share If I have heard about any particular premises that you like the sound of..... most have very good reputations, but it does depend on what you are seeking

Salon kitty's is excelent but sydney is a long way from melbourne

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want to message me I can share I

I had look at Salon Kitty website and looks very clean and elegant. Do you know any place like that in Melbourne?

I was thinking how much a good website makes people feel better, I guess although some Mistresses are very good in their job but unfortunately there is nothing in their home page that can express this idea.

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 4:52:27 AM

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I'll relate an experience I had that you might find interesting. I was contacted by a professional Domme here. She said she's like to exchange ideas, experiences, et cetera, one Dom/me to another. I'm always looking to expand my horizons, knowledge; so I agreed to meet her. We had lunch and talked. Then I stated asking questions, about technique, what types of activities she was into. To make a long story short, she had not real BDSM experience. Basically what she offered her clients was kinky sex, but NO BDSM. That's why she wanted to talk to me, because she was trying to learn about this from someone who actually had some real knowledge and experience. Was a real eye opener, to say the least.

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 6:13:24 AM

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is there any website or forum that I can read people feedback about different Pro_Doms and professional dungens?

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 9:49:31 AM

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I know of one mainly for the UK but specifically for Australia I'm afraid. Try a google search, you never know!

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 9:56:56 AM

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Is it normal if some one afraid alot from his first experience?

Oh Yes!!!! I was shakin like a dog shittin razor blades...

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RE: First professional experience - 9/6/2006 10:13:39 AM

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This one sounds fairly reputable.

http://home.mira.net/~batgrl/enter.htm

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Pro dungeon in Melbourne - 9/7/2006 6:48:39 PM

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Pease recommend me a Professional Dungeon in Melbourne, Australia? I am looking for people person experience about Professional Dungeons in Australia. Also I am interested about any feedback about Correction Centre in Melbourne.

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RE: Pro dungeon in Melbourne - 9/8/2006 9:03:13 PM

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I saw a few pro-dommes starting in the 80s before (finally) getting involved in the non-Pro scene. My first meeting was in a hotel and I was so worried I would be jumped and either mugged or blackmailed that I could not really relax and enjoy the experience, even though nothing bad happened. It probably didn't help that I was not attracted to the Mistress.

In the next few meetings I went to Pro-Domme houses in Los Angeles that had been around a while and was more comfortable there. Later I saw a Pro in an apartment a few times and had some good, some great sessions.

So, as the others say, try to check the places out and find someplace that has been around a while and that attracts you. I would check out that Max Fisch link as they usually have good reviews or have people who can give you feedback if you post an e-mail there.

Good luck and don't be so nervous you don't have some fun. You might want to start with a pro-house (many Mistresses) vs a home or hotel for your first session for that very reason.

If you get a chance afterwards, it would be nice to hear how it turned out.

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