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Mavis -> RE: working within multiple dynamics (9/18/2006 9:58:51 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Celeste43
In a situation that you describe, the slave listening to the sub being given choices while she is not, there are many things going on. the sub is wife, he spends most of his time with her and simply may not be interested in micromanaging 24/7. So they've agreed they need new dishes and he tells her to pick whatever she likes. This doesn't mean that he didn't research the cost and give her a price not to go beyond, it could just be that he doesn't care if they have blue polka dot borders or red peonies decorating the bottom of the soup bowls.
There's also the fact that he does this deliberately in front of the part time slave. This may be to remind her of her place, that she is lower in the hierarchy then his wife/sub is.
Yes, you've got it.. and i see the "many things" and appreciate how delicately He's balancing them. He makes sure we both see His dynamic with the other, it redefines our places and gives us each security in our spot.
He also does this in front on my Hubby who is learning how to deal with me in a D/s way, and He'll point out that His directives to me as a slave might be worded this way, but to His sub, might be phrased differently. He takes pains to model D/s dynamics that would apply between Hubby and i.
Since this thread was begun long ago.. i was initially wondering if O/others who cross dynamics could tell me if there was planning and forethought involved, or if it just comes natural to some. Obviously with new data recieved since then, i'm leaning in the direction of "forethought and planning", which only makes me appreciate it all the more.
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