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letting go - 4/20/2004 1:55:48 PM

chainedlore

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i need to learn to be able to just be who i am and not expect anything ...i feel i am too needy and i am a caring and giving person i just want to know how i can give and not expect anything in return or not to hurt when i dont receive affection

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RE: letting go - 4/20/2004 3:10:11 PM

MistressDREAD

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2 many in 2days society =
giving = getting. This is
not the fact. U have been
brained washed in2 thinking
this N have had Ur core
values corrupted. Now its U
whom needs 2 change that
thought. Start with what the
meaning of give is. U do not
have 2 let go 2 give. When U
think of give, think of words
like unconditional.The links
below can start U on the way
N B related 2 Our Lifestyle.

http://www.habitat.org/hw/Aug-Sept99/Feature/Uncon.html

http://www.innerself.com/Reflections/gift_of_life.htm

http://www.cmc-shrineofthemaster.com/messenger-unconditional-giving.html

http://www.holisticjunction.com/articles/830.html

http://www.theartoflettinggo.com/giving.html

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RE: letting go - 4/20/2004 3:12:38 PM

MistressDREAD

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Excuse My Post in the Masters area
Masters I dident see it went here till
I pushed the post button.

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RE: letting go - 4/20/2004 3:37:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chainedlore

i need to learn to be able to just be who i am and not expect anything ...i feel i am too needy and i am a caring and giving person i just want to know how i can give and not expect anything in return or not to hurt when i dont receive affection

It sounds like you're already halfway there Chained. You know what the issues are now you just have to implement the cure. Essentially it sounds to "grow up"
I don't think any of us wanted to grow up. I know I did'nt. My Dom tells me I"m childlike at times. The things I happen to like. I'm easily pleased,

I don't know how to offer advice to anyone needing to grow up. The world doesn't revolve around any single one of us. That's not always easy to accept.

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RE: letting go - 4/20/2004 3:38:37 PM

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Giving should be considered the greatest joy.
The ugliest personality trait, selfishness.
The greatest problem to overcome, fear.
The most powerfull force in life, love.

Remember the 5 rules to be happy
*Free your heart from hatred
*Free your mind from worries
*Live simply
*Give more
*Expect less

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RE: letting go - 4/20/2004 3:46:52 PM

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Remember the 5 rules to be happy
*Free your heart from hatred
*Free your mind from worries
*Live simply
*Give more
*Expect less

The nicest words I know are these: thank-you, excuse me, and if you please.

::Winks:: see, everything you need to know in life you learn before kindergarten.

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Don't take life too seriously, no one gets out alive anyway...

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RE: letting go - 4/20/2004 4:46:41 PM

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how i can give and not expect anything in return or not to hurt when i dont receive affection

Dear Lore-

If you are expecting something in return, are you really _giving_ anything?

It's hard, but it's so important to be able to just 'put it out there' and not be expecting to see it coming back at you. When you do learn it, though, you start to see that so much has been coming your way all along-

that we are, each of us, blest so fully...

Stay Warm,
Lawrence

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RE: letting go - 12/24/2004 9:32:54 PM

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Damn have I told You lately TopcAT that You are FIONNE!!!

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