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EvilGeoff -> RE: First Time Party? (9/8/2006 11:20:53 AM)
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These may be some helpful guidelines for your first "play party", excerpts taken from T3WD's bylaws:
Section 9.02 Discretion is absolutely necessary. Some members' family, friends and/or jobs may be threatened if their lifestyle were known. We expect people's privacy and identities to be protected. Being mindful of discretion is strongly encouraged.
Section 9.03 Use your common sense. Don't approach other scene people in public and make a reference to any lifestyle topic. They may very well be with someone who does not know of their interests.
Section 9.04 When in doubt, err on the side of caution.
Section 9.05 Don't give out someone else's personal information (name, address, phone number, occupation, etc.). It is not yours to give out.
Section 10. Etiquette Statement
Section 10.01 T3WD recognizes that "Scene Etiquette" is dynamic and personal. It differs depending on the individual and the situation. T3WD hereby adopts and promotes the practice of "Scene Etiquette" which fosters courtesy and respect among individuals within the community. Being mindful of "Scene Etiquette" is strongly encouraged.
Section 10.02 Basic Scene Etiquette
(a) Do not interrupt a scene in progress with questions or comments. Wait until the scene is finished and preferably wait through the aftercare.
(b) If speaking with others watching a scene, do so quietly or step away from the scene.
(c) Don't laugh in a play space. There is nothing quite so jarring to someone's headspace as laughter. This can and often does bring a scene to a screeching halt. If you HAVE to tell a joke or listen to one, step away. You might not be laughing at those in the scene, but they have no way of knowing that.
(d) Respect the scene's physical space. Some items need a LOT of room to use. If you enter the scene's space, you deserve what happens to you.
(e) Do not join a scene unless invited.
(f) Do not be a station hog. Have fun but if you notice that others are waiting to use the station, please be considerate. There are only so many stations to be used.
(g) Watch a scene the way you would like to be watched.
Section 10.03 Willful and ongoing disrespect of other Members or T3WD will be grounds for discipline. (Section 4.05 )
Section 11. Social Rules (These apply to ALL T3WD sponsored events)
Section 11.01 All play shall be consensual.
Section 11.02 All T3WD sponsored parties must have at least one Monitor (DM), appointed by the Board, on duty at all times.
(a) The DM shall not be encumbered with any other duties that may distract him/her from the role of DM.
(b) The DM will have access to all areas during an event.
(c) All concerns should be brought to the attention of the DM. Only DMs may interrupt a scene.
(d) The decisions made by the DM are final.
Section 11.03 Alcohol and Drugs
Section 11.03.01 Since alcohol and drugs impair judgment and effect motor control in the human body, altering reaction time and perception, T3WD finds that use of alcohol and very many legal over-the-counter and prescription drugs are counter to the first leg of our creed: "SAFE". Therefore, we adopt the following policy for alcohol and drug use.
(a) No alcohol for human consumption will be provided by T3WD at any T3WD sponsored events. (This does NOT refer to rubbing or isopropyl alcohol!) If a participant wishes to drink any alcoholic beverages, it will be strictly BYOB.
(b) No alcohol consumption will be permitted on site by those Members or Guests _prior_ to engaging in a scene. A Member or Guest who has been drinking before arriving on site may have their play privilege put on hold by the DM or Host/ess until they feel the Member or Guest is sober enough to give informed consent and play with a clear head. If you want a cold one after you are finished playing, feel free.
(c) If you are using prescription or OTC drugs with drowsiness warnings, or mood altering properties, inform the DM or Host/ess. Please allow them to judge your state prior to the start of your scene. It is less embarrassing than being stopped in the middle of one.
Section 11.03.02 No illegal substances of any kind are allowed on the premises of any T3WD sponsored event. Period. Possession or use of any illegal drugs at a T3WD event is subject to immediate ejection from the event without a refund, and will be grounds for disciplinary action including expulsion. ( Section 4.05 )
Section 11.04 Firearms and firearm replicas are prohibited at all T3WD events. Law Enforcement Officers ONLY, are exempt from this rule.
Section 11.05 All attendees must present their Membership card for admission, or be a guest of a card-carrying Member to attend events designated Members Only.
Section 11.06 Upon entry, all Guests shall read, sign and agree to abide by, the T3WD rules for socials, and in addition, all Guests must present a valid photo ID to verify their age.
Section 11.07 Prostitution, solicitation, and negotiation of compensation for sexual services ARE ILLEGAL and are not tolerated. Violations shall result in immediate removal and banning from future events. Scene professionals may not accept payment for any services rendered at a T3WD sponsored event.
Section 11.08 Normal scene etiquette is required (i.e.; Do not interfere with a scene, do not invade scene space, etc.). Please keep conversation, laughter and comments to a minimum in the play area. Do not monopolize the equipment. Do NOT join a scene unless specifically asked to do so! ( section 10.02 )
Section 11.09 Please clean up after your scene. Leave all equipment free of sweat, blood, other bodily fluids, wax, toys, etc. Bring bodily fluid concerns to the attention of the DM. Scenes involving bodily fluids need prior permission of the DM or Host/ess, unless a designated area has been set aside for those purposes.
Section 11.10 Cameras and other types of recording devices are NOT allowed at any T3WD sponsored event without the expressed written permission of the Board of Directors. (section 9.01 )
Section 11.11 Additional "House Rules" may also apply, depending on location, Host/ess, and/or other circumstances.
Our "Basic Expectations of Conduct" are not, of course, iron clad rules or followed by other groups. They work for us. Please feel free to use what works for you and yours, and discard the rest.
YIK,
- Geoff
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