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rahvenga -> psychology of bdsm? (9/11/2006 12:26:42 PM)
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ORIGINAL: WyrdRich
Well, "the Psychology of BDSM" shows up as a topic for the lectures fairly regularly but for some reason those are always the weekends that life gets in the way. I doubt switches would be on the lesson plan anyway.
From what I've seen, the pop psych model of Doms as people frustrated by a lack of power in day to day life and subs as powerful people who need to release control is pretty much crap anyway. I just go with what feels right to me and I hit the lottery finding a woman whose tastes run right along the same track.
I picked this from another thread (Outed as a switch), but it was buried so I thought I'd post it again.
I wonder if anyone has anything interesting to say about this, because more and more, I think most experts just simplify matters of the heart.
For me, I think my switchiness comes from the fact that as a person, I have some stereotypically male traits (I like being "the decider") and some female traits (I like talking about feelings, I like helping/nuturing). I don't mean to be sexist, but I think it's just a fact of our culture right now that male traits tend to overlap with dominant traits, and female with submissive. I guess I like to play with gender roles, I don't want to actually be female or cross-dress, but it's fun to not be an aggressive male sometimes. There's also some curiosity for me, I like being dominated just to see what it's like, to see what women experience when they are with me.
Anyway, this is either my first or second post, but I thought I'd share.
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