Why the word "Gorean" causes so much closed minded knee jerk response I never understood. There is great beauty in the words of the novels, and yes some wisdom. There is also a lot of fantasy that could not and should not be brought to real life situations. Face it the novels discuss a world of slavery. Those slaves have no rights, no choices, and their owners could do what they wished with them. But we dont live on Gor. Face it, if my slave displeased me in a restaraunt in most countries, and I chose to toss her over the table and whip her for it, its pretty likely I'd see the inside of a jail cell soon. Which is a good thing, laughs.
Just like any fantasy novel, in the bdsm realm, i.e. The story of O, The beauty series, The Marketplace series. There are things one can take from them and things that are at best, not realistic in our society. As with any relationship, Gor, BDSM or vanilla, you have to find someone that you can trust, that has similar beliefs to yours.
My advice to all is in this world of bdsm with so many different interests fetishes, beliefs, desires, that last thing one should be is judgemental of those that use structure or beliefs or protocol that may be different than ours.