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Aine -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 6:36:31 AM)

(mons...Sinergy ish on our side.  he was replying (mostly,I think) in jest to my backhand comment.)

Some people like face-slapping as a form of sadistic humiliation....not my bag though.  Slap my ass, not my face lmao

It seems that some don't take into account certain things, and once clarified, they choose to ignore those things and continue on their merry way of ignorance and insults.  Ignore her hun.  I wish I had more time to get even more into the actual topic, but I woke up WAY too late this morning and I need to git ta work.  I'll check back in after I get home.




juliaoceania -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 7:25:10 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mons

greetings juliaoncia
 
thank you for defending me you kindness show your a true woman and a strong one a smile takes one muslce a frown takes over thosnad so geeky an sniery are wrinkle lol
 
take care i read your post and lt an anine many times
 
mons

Mons,
Sinergy would NEVER make fun of someone with a learning disability, I know that to be absolutely true. You have misread is posts.




NINASHARP -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 7:55:47 AM)

Mons,

OK, Call me a parent, but I didn't have any problem understanding what you wrote in your OP. I think it is great that you took the time to share some of your progress with others here. I am sure that there are some in a similiar situation lurking here, that your words have actually helped. I'm grateful to see you come back after getting the flack about your grammer and spelling crap.  I've seen such criticism pointed out to others who use to be here, and it was one of the reason they chose to leave this site. I for one, miss seeing their posts. I'd miss yours too if you had taken that path as well.

Nina




zumala -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 10:01:52 AM)

I admit to having trouble comprehending a lot of mons' posts, but I'd never be so rude as to say something about it.  I've been here long enough to observe that she has some difficulties with writing - and that's perfectly okay.  A lot of the time I can get the gist of her OP by reading the responses of others, and then re-reading her post.
 
mons - Don't let rude asses and self-obsessed people mess with you.  Just ignore them and go on with your life.  I'm afraid I don't know much about inner children or therapy, so I can't really contribute much to your OP.  Sorry about that.  I just wanted to say that while I AM a grammar and spelling nazi toward the genuinely lazy, I do not extend that to those who really have problems writing.
 
Have a good one!
 
zuma




DivaDuchess -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 7:00:20 PM)

LaTigresse ... I just love your postings *hugs* ...

As for the original post ... I HATE spel chek *lol*.  I write novels and have an editor for all that crap.  On a forum, I'm not feeling much under display or a microscope (I looked that one up).  I simply type until my fingers hurt, then move one.

My inner child follows me around like a puppy.  I learned to roller blade so my little brother could win a bet.  I love making a hot fudge sundae ... on my slaves butt, then licking it off, like an ice scream cone.  I have played street hockey (after learning how to STAND on the roller blades), and attend every circus that comes to town.  My favorite thing in the whole wide world are ROLLER COASTERS *giggles*

Everyone one is a child inside somewhere.





blackwinterbyrd -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 8:11:35 PM)

So what is this deal about childhood trauma and BDSM?  I need some kind of parent, and I hear that sort of thing is available out there in the community.  What hey?  we all need love, right?  and safety in love is such a huge concern of mine.  Hrm.  I don't feel okay like this, I feel like a pain in the ass to my lovers who are chronologically younger than me and seem a little confused and disgusted about my desire to cry myself to sleep on them.   I need a therapist.  any recomendations?  Oh wait, there are no shrinks left in New Orleans.  Those that are a incredibly busy, PTSD and all that.  I promise I will stop feeling sorry for myself soon. 




Aine -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 8:30:01 PM)

So what is the deal with relatively non-sensical, rambling replies that do nothing but seemingly poke fun at a common topic in reference to threads here on CM?

Sorry, but you must have just come in during the time when (just like always) many threads of similar nature pop up in the forums and the recent topic has had in some way or another had to do with childhood abuse.

It's not necessarily a direct correllation or connection.  It just so happens that a lot of people have been abused as kids.  Hell, even I have.  Do I attribute it to why I'm now into BDSM?  No.   Do some?  Yes.  And there are also a shit ton of people -outside- of BDSM (ie: nillas) that have been abused in various manners as children.  Big surprise? No.  Common (unfortunate) fact.

Does the childhood abuse necessarily have anything to do with why people get into ageplay and/or Daddy/Mommy/babygirl/babyboy play?  No.  Some people will say it has a part to do with why they gravitate towards those things, and others will tell you it has nothing to do with it and then there are those that haven't even ever been abused that are into ageplay and such aformentioned things.

So in conclusion, I'd like to say to you, please.  Please.  Have some modicum of decorum and tact.  Save your snide remarks for a topic and a thread more suited to it. 

Thanks.




Sinergy -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 8:31:34 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mons

geek, singery both of you singery you became violent what was the slap backhanded to the cheek bone if you a dom or master your a violent one. geeky on my cm my spell check does not work. your a professor singery of english and i am a reader of sonnets you see there is nothing wrong with my reading i have a problem with word placement. i am  spurpise most of you you should know of learning disablity have you never had a student who need it to be taped or do you aloud this in your class room? for 14 years i work as a speak and langugae assistant not an aide i made little one who could not even speak walk out of my class with knowing many things i am a damn good but you attack my writing not knowing who i am or what i am how dare you judge for you will be judge. you brains are ;lost you may write me again with long words you think i donot know bu there is where you would be sadly msitake i read pass college level it is just i can not write well.
 


Hello mons,

The name is Sinergy, and if your post was referring to me, I wanted to clarify a few things.

I dont do anger or violence in a scene.  I dont do backhand slaps; bones hitting facial bones make them do weird things like crack.  My comment was more of a joke about hurting me, but I dont think it is safe.  I dont even do many forehand slaps, and would not even think of doing them to somebody who did not want me to.

I am not a professor.  I am a longshoreman with an extensive reading history and graduate level education where I was working to earn a degree in teaching special education.  I also teach full-contact women's self defense.

I apologize if you took anything I said as attempting to insult you.  From what you have stated, you have a longer row to hoe than most people, and it sounds like you are doing a better job at it
than most people would.  I have nothing but deep respect for your words and insights.

Sinergy




caitlyn -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 9:31:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
I simply see a poorly written response or post as proof of laziness. Granted , a spell-checker isn't perfect. It's a good start, though. I have very, very little tolerance for poor writing. I think it's one of the biggest problems facing america today. At one time, it was expected that a person who wanted to be successful would learn to write properly.These days we just pat them on the back and say, "There, there, you must have a learning disability!"

This is a casual internet forum, and some slang, some typos, etc are to be expected. However, I dislike having to read a post several times through just to figure out what the poster is asking. It shows a disrespect for your intended audience if you don't at least TRY to make your post presentable.


1. insert comma after post
2. space not needed after Granted
3. remove the comma after start
4. American needs to be capitalized
5. if a comma is used after time, there should also be one after successful
6. period after forum, remove and, and capitalize Some
7. remove comma after slang, insert and and remove second some
8. etc is not proper - etc ... is
9. remove the a between shows and disrespect - you show a house, you don't show a disrespect - or, substitute, "It shows a lack of respect for ..."
 
Please repost this on my desk by first period tomorrow. [;)]




Mavis -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 10:04:22 PM)

Caitlyn..  giggles!




mons -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 11:36:09 PM)

sinery greeting
 
it is nice to meet you i am so sorry i do not say things about anyone i thought you were oh lol but picking on me my inner child came out i almost cried but then i remember i am a grown up and i will not let anyone hurt me i am deeply sorry i attack you. being a domme has taught me to control my angry and i do not curse in my post nor in my mouth, so your a long shore man i use to live in philly and i also thought you all as so strong you are a guy right? if you saw my twin lol her husband had to teach her to reread again he was concern about her learning disorder we both have it. i do hope we can be friends i adore efreinds it is good to have them. also you going to be a special ed teacher you have my respect so much i work fourteen years with those little ones and big one i love my job. but i was knock out and i can not work only in private seeting with on child. i am proud of you sinery you will make a different in a person ;life i am so sure
 
so nice to meet you and i mean this
 
mons [:)] i love hisotry the elizabetha age was so great i love this era




Sinergy -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 11:44:38 PM)

 
Hello mons,

No harm, no foul.

I am uncertain at this point if I am going to get a teaching credential.  As a longshoreman, I have the most profoundly cool benefits and a job that pays a huge amount of money.

I will probably end up going back for my MA and PhD in history.

Enjoy your evening,

Sinergy




mons -> RE: what age are you (9/19/2006 11:52:24 PM)

greetings to all
 
i want to thank all who understood my writing and for those who did not well that is ok. the subject was the inner child which i am now about 15 still i am grown but i feel like a teenager i will not know how too dress some days i do not know if i should dress in something a teen would wear but i dare not lol. but it still makes for a horrible day i must have my twin help me dress. i come to now this last month learn to dress the right way.
when i was in my 20s i would cry and if i id not get my way i wou;ld act like a 5 years i would scream and throw things and my family wou;d baby me and clean it up i am so sad i did act this way. but it is all to do with abuse at what age it start you are there forever if you never gotten help. i was 5 for so many years i still collect dolls and dolls houses ok i play with my dolls still but does this make me any least of a domme no it really helps. i was abuse by my sister who was older at 3 i blocked that out now i see it everyday no it is not sexual but at one time i thought i was gay and i know i was not but until i remember this i understand why.
with my borther it was i do not want to remember i feel sick
but as my therpisay said it was good that i am a domme who protect me from many things he was so support but he left and now i am back and going back until i find a new one . many people are abuse and do not remember anything at all but they have this feeling or a nighmare that comes back wetting the bed as a adutl. once my son come to wake me i did not know who he was this hurt me i scare and said no no no and he calm me down whisper sicken me and wakes me but if someone drop a plate i am ok my inner child had been good to me for years i at 20 would play jacks, jump rope and i still look so you but they would ask me to come and see if i could go to the store =. i would laugh i take care of my inner child he yes he needs toys and shopping for thing minture stuff i love marbles
 
i hope this is better some mistake will be there i do not know it looks great to me lol [&o]
 
all of you i thank you so deeply
mons




mons -> RE: what age are you (9/21/2006 11:23:22 PM)

caityln
your one who thinks it is easy to stop and many comma and caps one noun but you have no ideal how hard it is for me to write i will get mess up if i stop and did the shit you said i am going my best her oh if i could i would call you names you mother never heard of stop being picky what else does life have for you come you do not need to have fun on my expense you have too much time on your hands use them it may make you scream ok i am a poor rwriter and yes i make mistake but lord girl you really went out for it i would say f you b etc etc but hey i left off the comma and caps on you b a name now this is when i do get mad you w watch out ok do not write back b now all of those letter i left on here hmmmmmmmm b ia for ball f is for fun w is for work see i know something how to f with you oh mmmmmmm f is for fun

i did not take it so bad take care cat no harm done

mons




Mavis -> RE: what age are you (9/22/2006 12:17:05 AM)

Mons,  i think you misunderstood.  Caitlyn was making the point to others who criticised, BUt also had errors in their messages.  she's saying non of us are perfect, so we can't criticise. 




Kedicat -> RE: what age are you (9/22/2006 1:47:34 AM)

It always saddens me to see a bad thing in ones life, continue to taint the rest of life.
To mistrust a whole segment of society or certain situations because of past horrors is a continuing loss.
I hope you can grow further from those past troubles. Far enough from them to be able to fully enjoy and ineract with everything and everybody in this world.

I think we all go back to the child within now and then. Hopefully only for the joy of it.





cynthiamarie -> RE: what age are you (9/22/2006 2:20:16 AM)

mons...I skipped my teenager years, went straight from playing with my dolls and stuffed toys (till age 13 or so) to adulthood.  When I see cliques and weirdness about designer clothing and which cars are considered "hot", I have no idea why other people do or need any of these things.  Mentally, I can sort of grab onto the concept, but emotionally I'll never really get it.  Even if I could find a shrink to help my inner child grow up, I don't think I'd want to go through that if that's what being normal would mean. [:D] 

If I see a lovely water puddle and want to go wading through it...*sighs*.  I miss it when my kid was little and I did anything I wanted cuz everyone thought I was only doing it for him. [;)] 

I'm still saving the gadget that makes "I Love You" show up on toast and the alphabet icecube trays for my future *crosses fingers* grandkids.  Also leaving pix and notes in the scrapbooks on how to drip food coloring into water balloons, fill them up, put them in a plastic tub, then take them outside to use on icicles...wow, splatting them and making the ice turn all colors is wunnerful...alongside the pix of my son riding a camel, and then an elephant. 

Having an inner child can be where a lot of pure joy and creativity spring from. 

mons, I submerged myself in painting and sculpting and only came up for air some years later to hop a bus from WV to CA a month or two after I turned 17.  I used to love painting doll house sized oil paintings, and now because of you I'm obsessing on making disgustingly sweet doll comforters complete with lace, lol.  *Thinks of lamp shades too.*

*Groans*  Oh no, oh no, oh no...I usually get away with making some barbie doll type sleeping bags and cammo action figure sleeping bags for kids I know but now...the dollhouse stuff sounds so enchanting again.  I've got some Sculpey clay from Walmart and can make anything I want...tea sets, lamps, annnnnnything.  *Thinks of stuffing the doll house kitchen with choc chip cookies and stuff, parasols, crystal chandeliers...and purple carpet.* 

Wait a minute...I can make one room look like a fancy bordello or a dungeon or whatever... [:D]  I think the adult me is a corruptive influence on my inner child!

By the way, I'm not into age play but it's not on my hard limits list.  As for the child abuse survivor=future BDSMer theory, well...the USA's FBI says one in three girls, and one in five boys are victimized.  That would be a heck of a lot of us into BDSM, hm?  NOT.  If there were that many of us, we'd be so strong in numbers that we'd have no fears of being outed or of any nasty repercussions caused by ignorant/bigoted people.  Also, past real abuse made it harder for me, not easier, to allow myself to "hurt" someone else.  I shouldn't have even commented on what was said these other issues, but...
my inner child made me do it! 

*Furtively polishes up her dented halo...grins unrepentently...and dreams of making snowmen this winter and spritzing them with blue food dye.*





UtopianRanger -> RE: what age are you (9/22/2006 2:20:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: caitlyn

quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
I simply see a poorly written response or post as proof of laziness. Granted , a spell-checker isn't perfect. It's a good start, though. I have very, very little tolerance for poor writing. I think it's one of the biggest problems facing america today. At one time, it was expected that a person who wanted to be successful would learn to write properly.These days we just pat them on the back and say, "There, there, you must have a learning disability!"

This is a casual internet forum, and some slang, some typos, etc are to be expected. However, I dislike having to read a post several times through just to figure out what the poster is asking. It shows a disrespect for your intended audience if you don't at least TRY to make your post presentable.


1. insert comma after post
2. space not needed after Granted
3. remove the comma after start
4. American needs to be capitalized
5. if a comma is used after time, there should also be one after successful
6. period after forum, remove and, and capitalize Some
7. remove comma after slang, insert and and remove second some
8. etc is not proper - etc ... is
9. remove the a between shows and disrespect - you show a house, you don't show a disrespect - or, substitute, "It shows a lack of respect for ..."
 
Please repost this on my desk by first period tomorrow. [;)]


Caitlyn.....

Far-n-away......that was the most insightful post written by you to date. [8|]



 - R




mons -> RE: what age are you (9/22/2006 2:54:34 AM)

ranger
 
i am glad you agree with her and it is ok you and no one else can hurt me by being  a teen in school this is what you both are acting like i am in click your not. really i am know her i never see you before. does it feel good to think it hurt this wonderful smart woman? who is kind with a heart of gold. would you feed you friend if they had no food. would you buy they kids toys for christmas and not cheap things good things, can you say in your heart you would or could do this. would you take the time to teach english to a family who could not speak it with out being paid? i did this for four years and they are not in college! could you do more then be on here to pick apart something someone has written? could not know how to spell and write but be able to draw and paint without being taught do you value people who your friends and keep them as friend? help them when they need it. if someone called the police on a niebor and they did not speak english would you take the time to go over there and help them because you know what is happening this would make a difference to this person. would you if a elderly woman came to you door and ask for toielt paper and food would you give her as much as you could, becsue you know you will get more food soon?
 
if you can answer yes to these questions then you might be albe to not take so much time to pick apart someone writing you have no ideal about?
 
take time to do good for someone and then you can come and pick apart my writing
 
judge or you will be judged
mons




mons -> RE: what age are you (9/22/2006 3:08:51 AM)

cat
i mistake a terrible mistake it was broiught to my attention i am sorry deeply sorry i wrote an unkind letter to you and you did not need it sdo anything to get it my mistake is i do not read the post right sometime i hope you can forgive me for this please do not read that horrible note i amsorry

i need to really make sure i get things right when i am wrong i do say sorry

mons




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