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RE: A Father's Reaction - 9/25/2006 11:31:13 AM

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Your thoughts?

I'm not very close with my father and also it would just feel weird talking to him about anything like that. He knows very little if nothing about my personal life. On the other hand my mother knows (the general information, not the details), because I felt that someone needed to know if anything ever happened to me. So I picked the parent that would most likely (and was) absolutely fine with it.

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RE: A Father's Reaction - 9/25/2006 11:39:48 AM

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This has been a truly fascinating read. I have no children of my own (I'm only 22 and I don't want kids), and I'm a submissive, but I will give the perspective I have- I do not breathe a word to anyone in my family at all about this. As far as they know, my Dom is this very nice guy that I love with all my heart, a boyfriend I've had for over a year, and that's that. They like him quite a bit. Now, were I to say to my parents: "Mom/Dad, my wonderful boyfriend is my Dominant and I'm his submissive", everything might change very quickly. Should my parents have ever tried to "peg" me as being Dominant or submissive, my guess would be that they would think I was a Domme, which I certainly am not.
Now, as a teenager, I bought a collar for myself at a local goth shop. I thought it was simply pretty and edgy, and I liked the way it felt around my neck. My mom forbade me to wear it, saying that I "was making a statement I didn't want to be making about myself." With this, I believe they know that this lifestyle exists, but that they do not approve. I know for fact my Dad is not the most monogamous man in the world (my parents, at this point, not only have separate beds but separate floors of the house as well), and that I run the risk of going to strip clubs and running into him. I've seen his personals ads in the local papers. We live only 20 miles away from my family. I think I could not be reproached by him per se, but that it would be uncomfortable, and that like all issues regarding sexuality in my family, it would never be discussed- I wasn't even allowed to take the sex ed unit of my high school health class. I prefer to leave what's mine mine, and let them do and think what they will. I think at this point they are still feeling greatful that I have found a guy I like, since they were scared for about seven years that I was a lesbian.

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RE: A Father's Reaction - 9/25/2006 12:13:06 PM

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In our family Dad is treated like a mushroom, he likes it, we prefer it. Sometimes he makes the odd foray into *asking* things and usually recoils when met with the frank replies.....LOL.

This week I found that my 72 yr old Mum's current bedside reading is The Story of O..... which did give me a real chuckle. Her only comment was..*Oh, don't take it, I haven't finished it yet*.

Dad doesn't want to know lots of things in general, Mum likes to understand but doesn't require details.

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RE: A Father's Reaction - 9/30/2006 6:51:38 AM

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As a new father, I have thought about this question. In general, I would be supportive of whatever path my daughter takes towards self-actualisation, and so long as she is safe and happy, I would be unconcerned about the details.

However, I believe my natural protectiveness makes me recoil at the thought of her being treated like a sub. I'm sure I would get over it, as it's not a 'rational emotion,' but I would feel not a twinge if she revealed herself to be a Domme.

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RE: A Father's Reaction - 9/30/2006 9:01:58 AM

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Unless you want to be able to express that side of who you are around your parents, why tell them or discuss it with them? To me my desires in this realm are as private as what kinds of sex i enjoy and who i enjoyed them with. Some things are simply better left unsaid.

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RE: A Father's Reaction - 9/30/2006 9:05:44 AM

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No one in my family knows what I do. I would never tell my father, he would be disappointed in me and I couldnt stand that.

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RE: A Father's Reaction - 9/30/2006 3:13:56 PM

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For me I dont think I would be able to tell eaither of my parents.

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