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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/26/2006 7:01:11 AM   
RedSavageSlave


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Status: offline 		Sir frequently checks in when we are playing by asking me what color I am ... I know he is asking me to say green yellow or red.. but each time he has asked me I say pink.. he will then look at the area he is working over..chuckle and say .. yes you are!  and then go back to it LOL

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/26/2006 7:18:41 AM   
sapphirepleasure


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Status: offline 		I've only had one relatively long-term partner, my training dom.  Initially when we played, he had me use 'mercy' as a safeword, but he was always very tuned into me and I never had to use it.  When sufficient trust had built up and we defined our relationship as M/s, I guess if I'd felt I needed to I could have safeworded, but again, he was always completely in tune with me and if he thought I might be unable to handle something, he would ask.  I never had any problem communicating with him even when I was bound and gagged.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/30/2006 6:36:57 AM   
Manawyddan


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Status: offline 		Agreed with Pandora. I always enquire of a safeword before I play with someone for the first time ... but I also enquire whether my partner is actually willing or capable of using it. If they're not, because they're too proud, too inexperienced, or too spacy/nonverbal, I adjust my play accordingly.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/30/2006 7:31:24 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		I've always had a safeword.  And I've forgotten it every time I've been in session with anyone.

There's only been a few times I'd really have used it, once in particular.  That time I not only forgot I had a safeword, I forgot what a safeword is.  After the session I was thinking, 'there should be a way to stop when I really need to'... and then I remembered that there was, it's called a safeword, and I have one, and I'm an idiot.

But I've been fortunate, my Doms have always been careful, and each of them has stopped when they knew it was time.  In a few cases I wanted more, but it would have been dangerous - as I realised later, when I came down off the high.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/2/2008 9:34:59 AM   
TickledToDeath


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

I dont see how one could even say a safe word during tickling anyway!!! does peeing your pants count as a safe word???

Magik's slave


Nope,  peeing while being tickled does not constitute the useage of a safe word.

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(Ps I say this as both the tickler and ticklee, although as the lee I have yet to be ticked into peeing)

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/2/2008 9:38:39 AM   
fluffyswitch


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ORIGINAL: Master96


Did it happen to anyone during the play? Say during the tickling, for example?

Master96,



we have two for that reason though He tends to just watch my reactions. i appaerntly have a higher pain tolerance than what He expected so i tend to use it more out of boredom than anything else and He's learning to just switch things up every little while.


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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/2/2008 9:53:34 AM   
celticlord2112


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

I dont see how one could even say a safe word during tickling anyway!!! does peeing your pants count as a safe word???

Magik's slave


No

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/3/2008 8:32:13 PM   
LunaticDesign


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Status: offline 		I've never had a safe word called on me before. When I'm playing with someone I keep reminding them in subtle ways that I won't stop until I'm done or until they say _____. I have even taken a break during a fairly intense scene and even asked my sub to tell me what her safe word was.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/3/2008 9:53:23 PM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		i've safeworded once.  Daddy stopped, we determined what was going wrong (muscle spasms from the position i was in) we fixed it, then proceeded again.  after that, he knows what to look for, and i havent needed to safeword again.

i *do* go nonverbal and he frustrates me by asking me "continue?" and all i can do is nod vigorously....he laughs about it afterwards "nothing so good as a slave who cant talk!" 

kitten

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/4/2008 12:08:22 PM   
mhawk


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From: Washington
Status: offline 		well we really do not have a safe word in place we feel we do not need one,that is just our opinions,but if there is an off chance we use hand signals.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/4/2008 2:10:15 PM   
fullofgrace69


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Status: offline 		i tend to use the traffic light code, and i've only ever had to safe word once when a Dom just wouldnt listen to me, most of the time i only ever get to a yellow and then its slowed down til i can take more.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/5/2008 7:04:04 AM   
Cyis75


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Status: offline 		I've always used a safeword when I've played with a submissive, and I've ran into times where the submissive couldn't or wouldn't use it so I had to recognize the non-verbal body langauge. A big reason why I've always preferred to have built a relationship where by I know what to expect, rather than random casual play. Easier to read the more you know the one you're with.

I had one submissive I played with a few times that when put into subspace was completely non-verbal and unresponsive. Bringing her back out she'd sleep for hours before becoming functional again. Was a bit of a shock the first time as she didn't mention this, so future play I worked to keep her on the edge of going into subspace and then pulling her back down to earth which made for some intense power exchange.

Another submissive was quite competitive and while playing with her she would refuse to safe out even though she knew it was too much for her. So I pushed her but was always watching and observing to know when I'd reached the absolute limit and didn't pass it. Ulimately things didn't work out with her for many other reasons.

During some of the sessions with my wife, who is a switch, she's been unable to vocalize her safe word. Luckily we have built a good foundation where I know how she reacts. One of the more interesting times where this happened was during a large weekend lifestyle conference play party. I had checked in to see where she was, we use the traffic light system (red, yellow, green), and she just simply said "more" ... I didn't think she heard me so I repeated my question and she just started chanting "more" and getting louder and more insistent. So I gave her more, lots more... We ended up playing for a couple hours and actually closed down the dungeon that night. The next morning when we talked about it she couldn't recall any of it after a point. She remembered getting setup and me starting but then she went into her space and didn't recall what implements were used or even chanting "more". Made for some fun humilation play for the rest of the conference.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/5/2008 7:13:53 AM   
Justme696


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96


Did it happen to anyone during the play? Say during the tickling, for example?

Master96,



sounds as stupid as forgetting your safety belt..while speeding.

that is why a simple 'STOP"  or "NO MORE" always should lead to a stop

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/7/2008 8:06:31 PM   
MichiganHeadmast


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Status: offline 		How can anyone possibly forget "polyphrasticontinomimegalondulaton"?

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/7/2008 9:23:47 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I don't have a safe word, but the other night, "Oh my god, dinner is about to come up" worked pretty well.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/8/2008 1:26:00 AM   
Taintedblood


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Status: offline 		i have had a dom forget a safeword on me - and that was horrible as i knew he wouldn't stop if i was screaming or crying or anything and struggling didn't help...in the end i managed to scream red and he stopped immediately.
 
The person I am with now we have decided to use the traffic light system however, the first time we played was very impromptu and there was no safeword discussed or agreed…
I have discovered though that if I get to a certain point, whether it be sex, playing, etc then my senses tend to go – all but touch really as, I find it hard to keep my eyes open, I lose the ability to hear and it becomes extremely difficult to speak for me

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/8/2008 5:55:25 AM   
Faeorie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

I don't have a safe word, but the other night, "Oh my god, dinner is about to come up" worked pretty well.


That has to be one of the best "safewords" I've ever heard. I remember watching a friend of mine using a crop on a guy. The safeword was "pineapples." She said she would beat him until he used it, as she was trying to find his threshold (at least I think)

You don't know how funny it is when you hear. CRACK *grunt* CRACK *grunt* CRACK *grunt* CRACK! "Pineapples!!!"

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 2/8/2008 9:47:00 AM   
greyangelus


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You don't know how funny it is when you hear. CRACK *grunt* CRACK *grunt* CRACK *grunt* CRACK! "Pineapples!!!"


Thanks, I needed the laugh!

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