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help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 7:37:41 AM

truckin2some

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We have been married for 3 years, and about 2 months ago, after 3 years of butting heads, I expressed to my wife my submissive nature, which I had been hiding because I was afraid of rejection, and what "normal" relationships are. Well, it was the best thing I have ever done. My wife is a "natural" dominant, we both love each other very much, and she wants me fully trained and submissive. I have a tendency to get "uppity" sometimes when she insists that I do something I Really don't want to do. I have what she calls a "pocket of resistance", and sometimes an "attitude problem". We are exploring some bondage and corporal punishment, "training sessions", and the like. We have both agreed that this is how our life is going to be permanently, and that it is Real and important for our marriage. Any ideas as to how she can train me Fully and keep me from "rising up" when there is something I don't like, would be helpful. This is totally new for her, and experiencing it is totally new for me, and there are some wonderful and different emotions we are both experiencing. My desire is to stay submissive and keep her happy, because when I get an attitude, it ruins things for both of us for a day or so until I come back to my senses and get back in my place. Any experiences or ideas will be appreciated and read by us both.

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 7:56:24 AM

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For me, it just does not work for my wife. Althought she is vary dom at work and home, that's where it ends. I have tried to share my sub side with her, to no avail. So we agree to disagree an go our separate ways in my interest of bdsm.

That being said, when I meet with a woman friend of mine, she knows vary well that I need to be put in place. What hase really been working for us for years is ball torture. We started out with a simple squeeze now and then and now share ball weights, she uses her feet, fist and much more on my balls and belvie me, my attitude reverses.

If you guys need some ides and or experience let me know. Ball decipline is ot for everyone and one has to be carefull, but safe and sane ball play can go a long way..

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 8:05:41 AM

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The one word that came to mind was .... Chastity :)

Here is the link to alterboy for you both to read.
http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/newstuff.htm

If I can answer any questions, please let me know. I keep my submissive in a CB2000 off and on. The longest period has been 9 1/2 weeks and it's very effective.

have fun,
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RE: help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 8:11:56 AM

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Hello truckin :)

The best of luck on this new path. Here are 2 sites that may help you and your Mistress explore some of the aspects of loving female dominance. I hope these help.

Ms Sandi

http://www.femalesuperiority.com/

http://www.geocities.com/ladymisato/

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 8:17:18 AM

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Good site and thanks. I have worn the CB2000 and other nasty toys if you will, but never for more then an afternoon, as most of what I wear is to cause pain when attempting to become errect, vary effective I might add. Yet for myself and my wonderful woman friend, a good round of ball torture keeps me well in line. I must say that it's not the only thing we do, but for us it's the most effective.

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 9:47:29 AM

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Greenry press has several good titles about FemDom..and basic D/s go explore there. Also I would encourage you to get involved in your local community.. find some events .. there are always great seminars given.. I specifically like Laura Antinou's for basics in protocol, discipline and transparency. Good Luck Im glad you found a partner you could be honest with.

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 12:45:11 PM

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Staying upset for a day or so is really unhealthy for the relationship. I believe in communicating your feelings right away so that you dont build resentments. Sit down and discuss rules, and, bounderies so there is no confussion in the relationship. Make sure you stick to those rules. Know your place in the relationship and things will work out fine.

< Message edited by GoddessMarissa -- 4/23/2004 12:45:43 PM >

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 2:22:44 PM

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Let me add an emphatic me too to sirrob. After a few days of relying on her for orgasms you'll be extremely submissive.

Have fun!

and be careful what you wish for, someytimes you get it.

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 3:14:21 PM

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quote:

I expressed to my wife my submissive nature, which I had been hiding because I was afraid of rejection, and what "normal" relationships are. Well, it was the best thing I have ever done.

I did the same thing truckin, hid my submissiveness from hubby for 3yrs until i was "caught" when my former Master posted a pic of me online that hubby saw. We had a long talk about it and he shared the blame because he hadn't been satisfying me for years. Thank goodness he forgave me and he is now learning to be my Master. I only wish i had communicated with him better sooner, but like you i was afraid of how he would react. BTW we have been married 36 years now--you can teach an old dog new tricks.

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/23/2004 6:18:41 PM

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You know proudsub, you are enviable. I will probably die unfulfilled and looking for my "ONE" and you are married to yours.

(Fortunately my green eyes are hidden behind rose colred glasses right now.

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/24/2004 5:33:41 AM

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Wow, Thanks for all the replies and info. We looked at all the websites that were posted last night, some we had already bookmarked, some we hadn't. Wife(Mistress) says she will definitely be on here engaging in discussion. I hope to be on here discussing a lot, too, as soon as I find out from her what the boundaries are for me to talk about. Our marriage is totally monogomous, and our commitment to each other is very strong, our purpose here will be to share experiences and ideas, get advice, and maybe if my Wife(Mistress) allows it I can share about our everyday life. I consider myself one of the luckiest men on this planet, am in a marriage with the woman I love, we have been together long enough to really get to know each other, and now this aspect is a touch of heaven. It is the beginning of a journey that does something to you deep inside, something very wonderful, feelings and emotions that you never even knew about, with an intensity that you never knew existed. It is this way for both of us. It is nice to have a place like this to share. Thank you all for being so helpful and welcoming.

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RE: help on training a husband - 4/24/2004 7:16:57 AM

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A good site for general information is sexuality.org. I believe it's a list of articles taken from newsgroups, and I wouldn't say that everything on it is gospel but it is a good place to peruse topics that might interest you and get information on rudimentary techniques.

http://www.sexuality.org

Click on the BDSM link on the front page and then scroll the topics.

Welcome to the boards and best wishes to both of you as you begin your new journey.

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RE: help on training a husband - 5/6/2004 9:27:52 PM

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You are far better off than most who visit here...you have a woman that has taken control of you. Work hard on letting go that male pride.

Let go anf let her...the answer you seek is inside you...all you are doing is testing her to see how far you can go. Not a good tribute to the woman that listened to your needs and desires and became your Mistress,show some respect...
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