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MuscleyandCute -> RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! (2/11/2007 7:53:34 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MistressDolly
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ORIGINAL: MuscleyandCute
Just thought I would ad something. When I was just getting started in the scene a few years ago I talked to a Domme who was in her 50's and had been active in the scene for many years so obviously considerably more experienced than me, she was just a Dominant woman who enjoyed dominating, not a Pro or anything else. On the subject of Dommes she told me that most of them are just after what they can get. I thought that was interesting.
I'm sure this "experienced and active in the scene for years, non-pro, just a dominant woman" you describe above gave you a lot of other wise advice, too.
It was quite a while ago, that was basically what she said though. I was reffered to her as someone good to talk to by some others who are now good freinds. I dont want to sound nasty but sadly in reality it doesnt suprise me. We only have to look at for example the fact that in Russia there are 3 women to every 1 man because of Chechnya and the fact that actually many Russian woman are looking to get out of the country partly due to the worse treatment of women by the men who do so because there are so many more women to go round, of course this is not talking of isolated incedences and there are of course some wonderfull Russian men, but in terms of a general trend is does prevail sadly and that is only 3:1 not 100:1. Infact post WW2 it was 1:1.9 males to females and this caused huge problems economically as well as others although I know little about that in the context of relationship dynamics between the 2 sexes so thats a bit of a tangent but you can see what I mean.
Its just the way it goes Im afraid, in the case of femdom there is a strong vacuum because of the very skewed numbers. This could be because women percieve too much risk in coming out as a Domme in the face of a womans needs in life, namely getting a man, settling down etc and having all the important things in life that she thinks might be made harder if she where out as a Domme, who knows. I know that a woman who is turned on by dominating cannot be inherantly bad for that reason in itself. (Turned on as in its her sexuality, not because she is disgruntled at men thus gets 'emotionally' turned on by it, neither someone who gets turned on by free stuff and free labour otherwise I might as well label myself and every member of the human race a 'Domme' by the same premise knowing that few complain at a free lunch).
The problem as I say is essentially just this vacuum, this inexorible vacuum HAS to be filled by something and seeing as the need that this vacuum calls for is barely there (otherwise there wouldnt have been a vacuum in the 1st place obviously) it will inevitably be filled by people with motives that are not conducive of the need that caused the vacuum in the 1st place, while if their motives where conducive of the need then there wouldnt have been a vacuum in the 1st place. Its basic pure and simple common sense logic.
So this is why there are so many threads on here of this nature that indeed ask things such as 'Why are Mistresses all about the money'.
It cannot be said that being a submissive male in itself is tantemount to being an intrinsic whinger anymore than any other sexuality. That is as illogical as making out that tranvestites have a tendency to lose their temper, homosexuals are afraid of commitment or that foot fetishists are overbearing or Vanilla people are kinder to their pets, wheres the connection? lol. Personality and sexuality are quite seperate things. Have all the Dominants reading this never been shy at some point in their life? Have you at some point not been able to assert yourself about something? exactly! Im not making out Dominants are shy and unnasertive Im just saying that your human, not some kind of weird robot whos every aspect is dictated by your sexuality.
So in that case the sub males who come here to make these threads are doing so not because they are intrinsically flawed, there is another reason.
Infact I hope that this post has been an articulate insightfull answer to the original question and to those who may be reading also wondering for themselves.
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