Question from a straight Male sub

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

Question from a straight Male sub

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> Question from a straight Male sub

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Question from a straight Male sub - 1/17/2005 7:45:14 PM

WulfMan

Posts: 115
Status: offline

Howdy Ma'am

I'm very very new to the submissive life and I'm really not sure how to go about it just yet. For example what should I look for in a Mistress? Um how should I go about acting as me being a male sub? In the professional world I'm working on becoming an United States Air Force officer, is it possible to seperate being a comanding figure in the professional world, and a submissive male in the private?

Thank You very much for your time
Lassez Le Bons Temps Rouler
The Wulfman

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: Question from a straight Male sub - 1/17/2005 8:05:28 PM

BeachMystress

Posts: 2156
Joined: 4/3/2004
From: Naples Island- Long Beach CA - Southern California
Status: offline

You need to do a lot of reading first off.. Educate yourself. Do not expect us to do it. If you claim to want to submit, but have not bothered to take the time to educate yourself, you may find people not taking you seriously.

http://www.malesubmission.com/faq/index.htm
http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html
http://www.femalesincontrol.com/courtship.htm
http://gloria-brame.com/domidea/dompoe.htm
http://www.jaggery.com/meetdomm.htm
http://www.frugaldomme.com/etiquette/dometiq2.htm#how%20to%20meet
http://www.soj.org/articles/A%20Beginners%20Guide%20to%20BDSM%20Munches.htm
http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/

It is very possible to be an aggressive kick-ass man in daily life and still submit to your Lady when with her. Being a submissive doesn't mean you bow to all. It means you have a boss. Are you able to obey your superior officers? Then you can obey a Domme. (All you have to do if find one with whom you have chemistry.) I've actually found that military men are much better at obeying orders without asking questions. *grins* Good ole Uncle S. is teaching you obedience already. All a woman has to do is tap into it with you.

_____________________________

Beach Mystress
*Do not threaten the weak. Intimidate the strong. ~ Stevenson*
http://beachmystress.jigsy.com
http://www.flickr.com/photos/beachmystress/

(in reply to WulfMan)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: Question from a straight Male sub - 1/17/2005 9:52:32 PM

NATI

Posts: 177
Joined: 1/5/2005
Status: offline

Being submissive to one does not mean that you cannot still be the biggest bad ass out there. All it means is that you have chosen 'one' with whom you feel safe enough with to be able to achieve that release. In your kind of high stress life - your desire to find that 'one' is not even a little surprising. Yes. You can have both. One does not exclude the other and - in fact - you will probably be better and do better HAVING that release.

Good luck to you.

(in reply to BeachMystress)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: Question from a straight Male sub - 1/17/2005 10:43:39 PM

WulfMan

Posts: 115
Status: offline

Just wanted to say thank You to You both for the advice. I will surely follow it and I'm sure that it will better me. Thanks for the links too I'm surely going to educate myself fully.

Hoooyaaahh
Dayton
The WulfMan

(in reply to NATI)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: Question from a straight Male sub - 1/17/2005 11:11:39 PM

LadyBadger

Posts: 176
Joined: 11/6/2004
From: Lake Forest, CA
Status: offline

even a General may have his Queen whom he serves... ::smile:: doesn't mean he isn't as tough, skilled and deadly as the troops at his command... doesn't mean he can't voice his considered opinion, with all due respect *Ma'am*!

it does mean that Her Will is his command, even if he disagrees -- unless/until her welfare is at risk/stake... and even then, disobedience is not without risk/consequence... ultimately, his will is to serve his Queen to the best of his considerable abilities and skills...

so yes, educate yourself, be the best you can be for the One who will lead YOU!

(in reply to WulfMan)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: Question from a straight Male sub - 1/18/2005 12:43:47 PM

pantera

Posts: 210
Joined: 1/7/2005
Status: offline

wulfie: Thank you for your service! I can't give you any advise but to take it slow and be yourself. you don't have to "act" a certain way- well...maybe you do, but I'm guessing that comes later...first you develop a friendship - being humble, honestand having a good sense of humor would work for me!

I just read your profile: you are going to be quite a challenge for your Lady when you find her- ;)

(in reply to LadyBadger)

Profile

Post #: 6