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confusedbymales -> Master's that change (10/2/2006 6:41:05 AM)
i am so confused i lived 24/7 with my Master and then all of a sudden he decides to go Trans gender not sure if it was me ( if i was that bad) or what it was any thoughts

Frank01 -> RE: Master's that change (10/2/2006 6:50:30 AM)
More likely to do with him than you.

Nikolette -> RE: Master's that change (10/2/2006 6:51:16 AM)
First of all.... It WASN'T you. You can't make someone reject their original gender. Only they can go through a process where they decide its right for them. There are basically three possibilities: 1- He has been thinking about this for YEARS and was too afraid to act on it. or 2- He is going through some interal crisis that made him jump to this to cope. or 3- He spontaneously decided this was something he really would love to do, and is probably in general somewhat irrational. No matter what this just totally concerns him and if its too much for you or he seems too unstable your best bet is probably just to move onward. You didn't go into this with that as even a possibility (or you wouldn't be confused) so its perfectly reasonable that you might want out. Don't feel bad, and don't make him feel guilty either. I'm sure this isn't malicious on his part and its just inconvient and confusing for the both of you. Another good thing to do is talk to HIM. Ask HIM why/how/when/what. Get the answers you need if he has them. Good luck

MasterAtsushi -> RE: Master's that change (10/2/2006 6:54:51 AM)
Rather than you causing it by being bad, your Master may simply have felt safe enough with you to finally be who He/She feels like is their real self.

mnottertail -> RE: Master's that change (10/2/2006 6:58:59 AM)
LOL, Women will turn to lesbianism in the face of a bad man, but men never turn into women because you were bad. That's in them for other reasons, for them that are so inclined.

Estring -> RE: Master's that change (10/2/2006 10:10:04 AM)
I doubt that his decision was made just like that, or had anything to do with you. He has probably felt this way for awhile. It would have been better to have clued you in before now, but he didn't. Good luck.

swtnsparkling -> RE: Master's that change (10/2/2006 2:22:47 PM)
Ask Him

raiken -> RE: Master's that change (10/2/2006 2:35:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: confusedbymales i am so confused i lived 24/7 with my Master and then all of a sudden he decides to go Trans gender not sure if it was me ( if i was that bad) or what it was any thoughts Be careful not to take responsibility or credit for what someone else chooses for themselves, it is dangerous to make those assumptions and give yourself that much power in this situation. You didn't make any threats or twist his arm did you? Nope! i didn't think so...so this one male Master did an about face, or a slant angled face, it was coming for a long time, this stuff just doesn't materialize too quickly, and it leaves you confused as to HIS way of thinking....be careful not to project that upon all males and male Masters. i know it is difficult though, i have watched movies about husbands with children and wives of long standing...change...after being grandpa for 20 years, now watching the family figure out what do the grand kids refer to him as? And other questions, hundreds of initial questions...i watched many folks learn to deal with changes of such magnitude. It can be done. On a lighter note....hehehe....If its any consolation, after me, my ex dominant of 15 years went vanilla...whooda thought? LOL! i hear his new girl friend is the dominant one now...too funny. i always thought he was a latent sub anyways....*grin Hang in there. Side note: You may wish to consider what it is within yourself that drew you to this man (Master) in the first place, and do some reflecting upon that.

Slipstreme -> RE: Master's that change (10/2/2006 3:21:22 PM)
quote: i am so confused i lived 24/7 with my Master and then all of a sudden he decides to go Trans gender not sure if it was me ( if i was that bad) or what it was any thoughts You had nothing to do with his gender identity. Finding out who and what you are often takes years for some people to learn, and gender is something that, unless you struggle with your own gender identity, you probably wouldn't understand what it is like to look in the mirror and stare at a body you never felt was yours. It is not an easy decision to go ahead and change gender, and many people repress it for many years until the stress gets to them enough to come out of the closet.The change is always difficult on family, friends and coworkers as well, to find out that their boy ended up, seemingly suddenly, becoming a girl, but for the man in question, he probably has identified as being a female for years. I'd suggest picking up a copy of "True Selves: Understanding Transexualism"

MagiksSlave -> RE: Master's that change (10/2/2006 3:44:46 PM)
Ok the question really isnt weather or not you caused this because you didnt. it also isnt weather or not he knew about his feelings befor and hid them from you or lead you on.. These questions really arent the ones you need to answer the question is is this a deal breaker for you. Will you stay with him through this do you have any desire to be with a female you have to do what makes you happy, but please support him through this he is gunna need friend loveing and understanding!! Weather you stay with him or not at least be there for him!! Magik's slave

confusedbymales -> RE: Master's that change (10/5/2006 9:29:47 PM)
i am no longer collared but i do stand by him as a friend

confusedbymales -> RE: Master's that change (10/5/2006 9:30:49 PM)
yes after a while He did come out and say that was the reason

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Master's that change (10/5/2006 9:34:26 PM)
Someone does not make someone transgender. More than likely he has had these feelings of gender dysphoria for most of his life. It is not something you just talk about. He has probably decided he is ready to make the change.

MagiksSlave -> RE: Master's that change (10/5/2006 9:58:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: confusedbymales yes after a while He did come out and say that was the reason That what was the reason?? Oh and Im glad that you are going to be there for him even though you no long have the M/s relationship Magik's slave

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