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when a ploy relationship doesnt work - 10/8/2006 4:31:09 AM

bloominrose

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my question is , what do you do when you have brought a third person or more in to your home and that realation ship does not work out. is it so wrong to have that person seek another home and just what is the resosablity of the Master and others in the home.

just wondering

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RE: when a ploy relationship doesnt work - 10/8/2006 4:38:11 AM

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With very few details, this is a tough one. Compatibility is a two way, three way, four way (etc.) street. Keeping them there when it isn't going to work out is probably worse than assisting them to find a place that they do fit. Providing there has been adequate conversation to attempt to get past the "little" things, there is likely nothing that can be done in a situation where is is just not a good match all the way around. I would suggest everyone communicate about what isn't working and see if you can help them find what will. Parting as friends would be much more rewarding for all concerned in the end.

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RE: when a ploy relationship doesnt work - 10/8/2006 8:52:35 AM

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I am curious how much real time was involved BEFORE moving her in in the first place? Did you get to know her over a period of visits that extended in length prior to her moving in? How long has she been with her at this point? A week? A month? Six months?

What was the situation going in? Is she working or is she a house servant? If the idea was for her to stay home and care for the house, obviously the Master has more responsibility to seeing she is able to be on her own before shoving her out the door. If she is working outside of the home, then her income should be placed into a savings until enough has been saved up for her to move out. That is of course assuming He is not attempting to find another owner for her.

I dont know if any of this is helpful but I hope it gives you some things to think over and make your decision.

Good luck to you!

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RE: when a ploy relationship doesnt work - 10/8/2006 9:17:00 AM

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If the relationship is indeed over, it's good to give the person a reasonable amount of time to find a new place. What happens when married couples get divorced? Hopefully everyones mature and moving on to the point where you don't need to impose any time limits, but in the case of harsh reality, I'd give them a month to find a place and move if they have a regular job and income, and 2 months if they do not work and do not have a regular income.

Otherwise, it's up to everyone to respect and deal with eachother as adult as possible and for heavens sake don't play with or fuck eachother.

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